United 93.
I watched that movie the other day. Good movie.
But that’s not the point of my thread. The DVD has a lot of interviews with the family of the survivors.
This is what I will write about. It relates to two of the victims wife/husband. It also relates how women view a woman behavior acceptable while finding the same behavior distasteful when coming from a man.
This woman (which husband died in the plane crash) was talking in the interview. She knew her husband since the 9th grade. They show her little girl (interview took place prior to the filming and the daughter was then about 4 years old). The little girl was only 3 months old when her dad died in 2001.
The thing that I found kind of distasteful is NOT that she re-married, but that she remarried her deceased husband’s friend (and the timing). Add that to the fact that they showed the little girl referring to his deceased dad “as Jeremy”. She was talking to the camera looking at a photograph of her dad and her and she was saying, “This is Jeremy with me”. I wonder why she doesn’t refer to him as “dad”. Once again, the perceptions.
So, I said to my girlfriend that this in the eyes of many could be perceived as distasteful. She strongly disagreed (I have noticed she tends to justify what women do).
Well, later on they showed another interview. There is also this man that was interviewed that remarried his deceased wife friend!!! His wife also died in the UNITED 93 crash.
My girlfriend found that very distasteful (I was consistent with my views, she obviously exhibited double standards). She said that the difference is that the “new wife” didn’t say anything in the interview, while the “new husband” said something. Pathetic "woman logic" if you ask me.
Now, once again…it is not the fact that they remarried. I mean, people have to move on with their lives! It is more of WHO they remarried. And WHO were their deceased spouses (celebrities and heroes!). And not teaching the child to refer to her deceased dad as "dad". Lack of judgement, if you ask me.
Billions of men and woman out there and they have to choose their deceased spouses best friends? I cannot help but think what where (or have been) the intentions of those "friends". Were they always interested in those people and sought the opportunity now? Or during the grieving period they simply felt in love? You see what I mean with the perception?
Distasteful. Or at best, the IMPRESSION of being distasteful.
But the most important thing is women double-standards when it comes to view what men do as distasteful, but if the woman does the same it is justified.
This is just a rant and an observation.
I watched that movie the other day. Good movie.
But that’s not the point of my thread. The DVD has a lot of interviews with the family of the survivors.
This is what I will write about. It relates to two of the victims wife/husband. It also relates how women view a woman behavior acceptable while finding the same behavior distasteful when coming from a man.
This woman (which husband died in the plane crash) was talking in the interview. She knew her husband since the 9th grade. They show her little girl (interview took place prior to the filming and the daughter was then about 4 years old). The little girl was only 3 months old when her dad died in 2001.
The thing that I found kind of distasteful is NOT that she re-married, but that she remarried her deceased husband’s friend (and the timing). Add that to the fact that they showed the little girl referring to his deceased dad “as Jeremy”. She was talking to the camera looking at a photograph of her dad and her and she was saying, “This is Jeremy with me”. I wonder why she doesn’t refer to him as “dad”. Once again, the perceptions.
So, I said to my girlfriend that this in the eyes of many could be perceived as distasteful. She strongly disagreed (I have noticed she tends to justify what women do).
Well, later on they showed another interview. There is also this man that was interviewed that remarried his deceased wife friend!!! His wife also died in the UNITED 93 crash.
My girlfriend found that very distasteful (I was consistent with my views, she obviously exhibited double standards). She said that the difference is that the “new wife” didn’t say anything in the interview, while the “new husband” said something. Pathetic "woman logic" if you ask me.
Now, once again…it is not the fact that they remarried. I mean, people have to move on with their lives! It is more of WHO they remarried. And WHO were their deceased spouses (celebrities and heroes!). And not teaching the child to refer to her deceased dad as "dad". Lack of judgement, if you ask me.
Billions of men and woman out there and they have to choose their deceased spouses best friends? I cannot help but think what where (or have been) the intentions of those "friends". Were they always interested in those people and sought the opportunity now? Or during the grieving period they simply felt in love? You see what I mean with the perception?
Distasteful. Or at best, the IMPRESSION of being distasteful.
But the most important thing is women double-standards when it comes to view what men do as distasteful, but if the woman does the same it is justified.
This is just a rant and an observation.