Blitz, you have undergone quite a metamorphosis since the time I signed up here and now. When I first came here I was incredibly ignorant, just read the bible and was starting to understand things. I think at that time you were around and into Speed Seduction and such. I took your information and tips as gold, you seemed to be incredibly successful with women and knew exactly what worked and what didn't. Think you replied to some of my early posts and your info helped me a good deal.
Now you are taking a totally different approach, and it's interesting to see, you have some good points, I won't deny that and you have been far more successful with women than I. But I think you have forgotten what it was like to know nothing a be a total AFC. What your saying sounds and looks good from the standpoint of someone like yourself, a few others and even now myself. But then I thought back to a point where I didn't have any confidence with women, would obsess about them, and not know how to deal with them. This didn't mean they didn't like me and that was why I'd failed. In fact some of them did like me, and asked for my number, because the AFC I used to be would never ask for a girls number ever. Then I would go out with them and be a passive drooling puppy, I would plan marriages in my head and such. True this was not really being myself, and you would say that now, but what was myself??? I knew I had it somewhere, I had brilliant ideas, had confidence in bursts in the past, but it was never showing all the time, it was hidden. Here I'd performed martial arts in front of 5,000 people, but then I put the experience away and lost that sense of incredible confidence. I had a can do attitude but I always kept it inside, instead showing neediness and weakness to women. And worst of all I hid the fact that I was a man! Never touched them, talked about sex, tried to make a move, I was that androgynous friend that never gets anything!
It was this site, and the DJ bible that guided me where to go. It showed me it was OK to act like a man, that's what women want afterall, they don't want other women for boyfriends (well sometimes lol
). Posts in the bible guided me in how to show that confidence all the time, so I've become a little ****y, it's worked like a charm. I know a damn martial art, I can defend myself and others and I let women know that. When I'm with a girl now and she is worried about some dangerous looking guy or some dangerous place I always say "don't worry, I got it under control if anything happens". Or "that guy would be sorry if he started anything with me" lol
Yet even though I have had this skill for a long time, I never used to say this stuff, just kept it locked up around women.
There was a barrier with women, I needed to learn a new way to see things, some small tips and tricks in order to bring out that confidence because I certainly couldn't find it with women. But confidence was not the end all either. I could still call to much, fall in love after one date, say dumb ass things, and not know how to even go about asking for a number in certain situations. This site provided me with tips for all these things, tips that worked.
But here is what happens. At some point the tips go away, you don't follow them exactly, you forget them, etc. Once all the tricks and tips go away you are left with something that we call waza in Ninjutsu, which is just free flowing movement. It means that your kata aka tips and tricks are no longer applied exactly like rules in a handbook, you have learned them, applied them, some have become natural parts of who you are, and now they are gone. Instead replaced by just pure instinctual knowledge, just like you have Blitz, and just like I have now begun to have.
But without those initial tips and tricks, without those posts in the bible that changed my thinking pattern, I'd be no better off then I was 2 years ago. You see most people need to start with tips and tricks, or they will never reach that level of instinctual knowledge where tips go away and there is just flawless natural action. It was the same with Ninjutsu for me, first there was Kata which taught me exactly what to do and how, then there was waza where I knew what to do without thinking of rules, just adpating to the attack as it came at me, and changing where I needed to change to best accomodate the situation.
