Turning 29 next week...

[BPH]

And I wanted to ask if continuing to go to a "college bar" is weird?

I asked a similar question a while back because I was noticing that when I was out and a girl asked/I told my age, the conversation would quickly do a 180 and they would lose all interest because they wonder why I'm there.

This obviously isn't the case for everybody, and I had some girls find it hot - one of the girls I'm smashing right now is only 20 years old and doesn't seem to care, she just likes to sprinkle in "old man" jokes every now and then.

I'm really good friends with most of the staff and the manager, who I've known since I went to school there, and he kinda does the same thing I do, albeit with the other team considering he's gay...

Really I just want to know if continuing to frequent this spot after my birthday is weird, or whether that's just some societal BS that's shoved down our throats to give older women a fighting chance. The other places I could go generally are more expensive, have less attractive women, or are excessively far away for a night out drinking.

This will probably sound a bit like I'm overanalyzing, but I just want some outside opinions from guys who are more into the hookup culture than the dating to settle down type.

 

[Barrister]

Over-analyzing.

If some young girls are put off by it who cares? You are still pulling women from there here and there, and if you genuinely enjoy the venue that is the important bit. The staff also enjoys you by the sound of it. And 29 years old is not "old" even for our lame society's standards anyway.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Yes it is…there‘s this guy that is in his early 30s that still lives in the college area and frequents the bars there that we pity.

 

[Barrister]

Yes it is…there‘s this guy that is in his early 30s that still lives in the college area and frequents the bars there that we pity.

That guy probably doesn't care at all what you think. What is more, he probably takes poon home from the bar fairly frequently so it is working out for him.

You are 28 -- just remember how you felt now in about 10 years and see if you still feel the same way.

 

[Murk]

I tell girls I'm 26-28 when I'm out, who cares, he who dares wins.

If I lived near a colleague I would be in the SU bar all day.

 

[Dr.Suave]

@Jesse Pinkman wrote about this a while back. At some point you should stop going to college territory and do your own thing, like host your own boat parties. Probably not cheap, though.

 

[CornbreadFed]

That guy probably doesn't care at all what you think. What is more, he probably takes poon home from the bar fairly frequently so it is working out for him.

You are 28 -- just remember how you felt now in about 10 years and see if you still feel the same way.

Nah, when I was 25sh, I quit my first job out of college with nothing lined up and moved back to similar environment because they didn’t check for POI. I vow to never put myself in that position ever again, it was like living in an adult daycare. My friend works and is content at being a shift manager at a knock off dollar store, so he could constantly live in the college environment. OP can do what he wants, but I feel like this does reflect off one’s character. How many rich men live walking distance to college bars?…..Exactly.

 

[Stanley]

I don't see it as problem. If you're good looking it is even less of a problem.

Go out wherever you want to go out, if you look like the old creepy dude trying to get the youngins than reassess, but I highly doubt that's you. I work beside my old college campus, I never really spent anytime there because covid. Yesterday I decided to walk through the main strip and I fit in fine. The 'college' bars I check out in my downtown have lots of freshly turned 21 yr olds (and younger), but you also have guys well into their 30s there. They don't look out of place, I think it is more in your head. Now if this is really a true college bar on a college campus then i'd gather you should play into your age.

I really wouldn't worry about it unless you look ancient (doubt) and feel out of place, but this coming from a guy who got carded buying Dayquil two days ago at nearly 26 lol

 

[Barrister]

Nah, when I was 25sh, I quit my first job out of college with nothing lined up and moved back to similar environment because they didn’t check for POI. I vow to never put myself in that position ever again, it was like living in an adult daycare. My friend works and is content at being a shift manager at a knock off dollar store, so he could constantly live in the college environment. OP can do what he wants, but I feel like this does reflect off one’s character. How many rich men live walking distance to college bars?…..Exactly.

You are letting society dictate to you what is "acceptable" for us as men and what isn't. There is nothing wrong with this guy going to this bar at all. Just like there is nothing wrong with the OP going to the bar he likes. So what if the bar is in a college town where college kids typically hang out. Furthermore, there is nothing wrong with either the guy you know or the OP hitting on college women. These women are adults. They may not act like it, but if they don't like it they can move. Some of them will like it and be up for a bang. Don't limit yourself with these views.

And I guess it depends on what you mean by "rich," but there are many men who live in college towns and make very healthy incomes.

 

[Plinco]

And I wanted to ask if continuing to go to a "college bar" is weird?

I asked a similar question a while back because I was noticing that when I was out and a girl asked/I told my age, the conversation would quickly do a 180 and they would lose all interest because they wonder why I'm there.

This obviously isn't the case for everybody, and I had some girls find it hot - one of the girls I'm smashing right now is only 20 years old and doesn't seem to care, she just likes to sprinkle in "old man" jokes every now and then.

I'm really good friends with most of the staff and the manager, who I've known since I went to school there, and he kinda does the same thing I do, albeit with the other team considering he's gay...

Really I just want to know if continuing to frequent this spot after my birthday is weird, or whether that's just some societal BS that's shoved down our throats to give older women a fighting chance. The other places I could go generally are more expensive, have less attractive women, or are excessively far away for a night out drinking.

This will probably sound a bit like I'm overanalyzing, but I just want some outside opinions from guys who are more into the hookup culture than the dating to settle down type.

You're thinking way too much about what others think about you. What's more important is that they respect you. Someone who tells you how to live your life is someone who doesn't respect you.

Nah, when I was 25sh, I quit my first job out of college with nothing lined up and moved back to similar environment because they didn’t check for POI. I vow to never put myself in that position ever again, it was like living in an adult daycare. My friend works and is content at being a shift manager at a knock off dollar store, so he could constantly live in the college environment. OP can do what he wants, but I feel like this does reflect off one’s character. How many rich men live walking distance to college bars?…..Exactly.

The few rich men I know personally are all very independent thinking dudes.

 

[CornbreadFed]

You are letting society dictate to you what is "acceptable" for us as men and what isn't. There is nothing wrong with this guy going to this bar at all. Just like there is nothing wrong with the OP going to the bar he likes. So what if the bar is in a college town where college kids typically hang out. Furthermore, there is nothing wrong with either the guy you know or the OP hitting on college women. These women are adults. They may not act like it, but if they don't like it they can move. Some of them will like it and be up for a bang. Don't limit yourself with these views.

And I guess it depends on what you mean by "rich," but there are many men who live in college towns and make very healthy incomes.

OP is free to do what he wants, but society can judge as they please. Unless OP has monetary reasons, it makes no sense for a grown @$$ man to be hanging around college kids. Yes, they are technically adults, but they have completely different goals and priorities than OP. I cringe at the thought of drinking anything I lived off in college right now lol.

 

[Barrister]

OP is free to do what he wants, but society can judge as they please. Unless OP has monetary reasons, it makes no sense for a grown @$$ man to be hanging around college kids. Yes, they are technically adults, but they have completely different goals and priorities than OP. I cringe at the thought of drinking anything I lived off in college right now lol.

Again, you are choosing to view this through the lens of what is deemed "appropriate" and "acceptable" by mainstream society. Maybe OP simply enjoys being around the younger crowd because of the energy and atmosphere. I can tell you being almost 37 years old myself, I still enjoy the nightlife scene. Most people my age are not like that - but I am. I can't partake in it like I used to because of other obligations in my life, but I certainly still enjoy it. If OP wants to be a part of that, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

There are also women ages 20-23 who will absolutely go for a man under 50 for a ONS (probably even older) -- especially if he is attractive. You are boxing yourself in and limiting yourself with your views.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Again, you are choosing to view this through the lens of what is deemed "appropriate" and "acceptable" by mainstream society. Maybe OP simply enjoys being around the younger crowd because of the energy and atmosphere. I can tell you being almost 37 years old myself, I still enjoy the nightlife scene. Most people my age are not like that - but I am. I can't partake in it like I used to because of other obligations in my life, but I certainly still enjoy it. If OP wants to be a part of that, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

There are also women ages 20-23 who will absolutely go for a man under 50 for a ONS (probably even older) -- especially if he is attractive. You are boxing yourself in and limiting yourself with your views.

A regular nightlife scene vs a college bar nightlife scene is like night and day. When I picture a college bar, I picture bros with little to no responsibilities powering down shots of fireball and whatever cheap alcohol is available during some power hour session and young adults with littleman alpha male syndrome. Hell, I remember college bars not being that great for pvssy anyway. There were much better ways to meet women in college IMHO.

 

[jaygreenb]

And I wanted to ask if continuing to go to a "college bar" is weird?

I asked a similar question a while back because I was noticing that when I was out and a girl asked/I told my age, the conversation would quickly do a 180 and they would lose all interest because they wonder why I'm there.

This obviously isn't the case for everybody, and I had some girls find it hot - one of the girls I'm smashing right now is only 20 years old and doesn't seem to care, she just likes to sprinkle in "old man" jokes every now and then.

I'm really good friends with most of the staff and the manager, who I've known since I went to school there, and he kinda does the same thing I do, albeit with the other team considering he's gay...

Really I just want to know if continuing to frequent this spot after my birthday is weird, or whether that's just some societal BS that's shoved down our throats to give older women a fighting chance. The other places I could go generally are more expensive, have less attractive women, or are excessively far away for a night out drinking.

This will probably sound a bit like I'm overanalyzing, but I just want some outside opinions from guys who are more into the hookup culture than the dating to settle down type.

If you enjoy it, who cares. Your birthday isn't some special date that changes dynamics.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Remember this: it's your birthday.. Thus you should go where you feel like you'll have the best time. If that's the place you feel like will fulfill that, go for it.

If I were you and you didn't have a favorite spot or anything, I'd go to the biggest best nightclub there is or best bar in town.. But remember birthdays arent just a time to party.. Make sure you eat a great meal.. To me the meal and a cigar and the company Im with is more important than getting wasted.

 

[BPH]

Looks like this thread got a little popular yesterday, just want to elaborate on some stuff here since Cornbread's reaction is kinda why I asked the question about whether it was weird.

For some context, I'm 28 and live at home with my parents, not making much money but I'm working on that part. Because of that, I can't afford to really "ball out" when I go out on the weekends and meet women.

The bar I like going to is one of the more popular ones in a college town that's about 15 minutes away. It's close to home, my drinks are generally free because I tip the bartenders well and the manager is a friend, and there's cute college girls all over the place. As far as the energy of the place, I would agree that being 28 vs the 21-23 crowd in the bar, you definitely notice a maturity difference; you have a lot of sorority girls in their little cliques and a bunch of frat bros or athletes getting way too drunk and loud in their sections.

That being said, it's a decent enough place to meet girls and get laid, considering I don't really see women in my day-to-day since my work is largely over-the-phone and aside from that the only place I really go is the gym. Outside of that, it's dating apps, which I don't rely on AT ALL, but is supplementary to the point where it's nice being pleasantly surprised once in a while.

I don't feel or look old - it's just something that has turned women off that I was otherwise hitting it off with when they find out my age. For some reason they always guess 24...never 23 or 25, always 24...but yeah I'm a very good looking guy by most people's standards so it definitely helps, especially since I'm not looking for anything long-term.

I would be happy to explore other options, they just all suck:

• I would check out Philadelphia more, but it's about a 35-40 minute drive, I don't have friends up there I could stay over with, and the uber up and back plus the cost of drinks would become really expensive really quick. The few times I went up there with my ex there were SOME attractive girls, but not many
• There's a place called Trolley Square where a lot of post-grads in my area tend to go. You'll usually see co-workers, ex-bosses, people from high school, etc. I gave this spot a few chances and I HAVE hooked up with a small handful of girls from there, but it's rare and they were less attractive than my usual. It's about 25 minutes away and most times I go I see 1-2 attractive girls MAXIMUM. Sometimes they're in relationships, which I would know because everybody knows everybody in Delaware
• I used to go out to West Chester but ubering one-way to these bars is like $65...
• There's Chesapeake Inn down in MD during the summer which isn't too far, but it's only good in the summer and suffers the same issues of being far away

Most of my friends are not like me in the sense that they're in relationships with very average women, or if they do go out they care about the same age issues that Cornfed describes. Since I usually end up going out alone I gravitate to places like I described above where the women are attractive, the drinks are free, the staff are friends, and it's a short drive home.

TL;DR College bars aren't my first choice, but they usually do the trick for what I'm looking for when everything is factored against my other options.

Outside of that, my birthday celebration isn't the topic at hand from what RazorRambo said, I'll go somewhere more fun for that. I'm just asking if it's weird to frequent the college bar when I turn 29.

Also I'm not sure what Plinco was referring to when he mentions respect, at least in reference to my question.

 

[SW15]

I'm 28 and live at home with my parents, not making much money but I'm working on that part. Because of that, I can't afford to really "ball out" when I go out on the weekends and meet women.

This is your biggest problem in attracting-seducing. For a lot of men, this alone can kill their sex life.

 

[BPH]

This is your biggest problem in attracting-seducing. For a lot of men, this alone can kill their sex life.

I'm well aware of that and I'm sure that's gotten in my way before.

But until I get the money to move out and stay out that's the **** sandwich I have to eat.

 

[SW15]

I would check out Philadelphia more, but it's about a 35-40 minute drive, I don't have friends up there I could stay over with, and the uber up and back plus the cost of drinks would become really expensive really quick. The few times I went up there with my ex there were SOME attractive girls, but not many

I think a lot of Delaware people end up in Philadelphia. It seems possible for a Wilmington person to date a Philadelphia but the distance is a bit difficult and likely not recommended. Philadelphia to Wilmington is a similar distance as Dallas to Fort Worth and Dallas residents don't tend to date Fort Worth residents. The logistics are generally too difficult. It seems like that's likely the case with Philadelphia and Wilmington, prompting Wilmington people to move to Philadelphia.

Philadelphia hasn't had a reputation online for being a great pusssy city.

 

[Velasco]

Hmm I'm a year older than you, and am going after the same age group. However the only difference that I see between us is that I do have my own place (and I guess that I get 22 most frequently. Not 24. don't know if that's a genetics thing or I just take good care of my skin lol). Anyway, my advice would be to keep an eye on craiglist's rooms & shares. Whenever you see a good deal, pounce on it. I mean theres obviously scams on there, but those should be easy to avoid. What you don't want to do is ignore those "seemingly legit, but looks like it might be too good to be true" deals. That's how I ended up getting my $400/mo. deal. imo, if you want to fvck hot/above average 18-21 year old girls without spending any money besides beer and uber, I don't see any other better alternative tbh. To cut down on costs even further, I show up at the last hour before the bars close down. I've asked around how this strategy works for others, and the consensus is that its both 1) regional (some places all that's left at last hour are ugly girls) and 2) day dependent (some days there's still a crowd at that hour others its slim pickings). For me, I probably see myself doing this for another year or two, just while I'm still in school/before entering the workforce...then it's hitting on the babes at work for my sexual needs.