Turning 29 next week...

[Stanley]

Dude, I think you are overthinking a lot of this. Go wherever it is you want to go.

Also, if girls 18-22 are giving you the cold shoulder and it is bugging you why not change up the venue? What's wrong with girls 22-26? I get that a lot of guys specifically want to go as young as possible (totally cool), but on purely physical level there isn't that much of a difference. Just food for thought.

Aside from this being a potential insecurity of yours I think this is more to do with logistics. You've actually posted about this same bar and feeling 'off' some months back and how girls in the age bracket of college tend to drop on you.

Living at home blows for having a dating and sex life, I would know because I'm still homebound as well. Getting out there and getting your own place has got to happen for your own well being. At some point you've got to bite the bullet and put in the work to get out. Get a roommate, drop your standards a bit (i mean with housing), pick up second job, whatever it takes. I felt this angst to get out since right after highschool and the pandemic set a lot of young people back quite a bit.

Let your dating and sex life be a motivator to get out

I know it ain't cheap (my state is much worse in every conceivable way) but you've got to ask yourself why are you still at home? What is keeping you there? Are you happy being at home? Do you want more autonomy?
If it is money, then you've got to make more. If it is comfort, than you need to push the envelope. If it is complacency, you need to oppose it

Don't find excuses to not do the things you want to do. Do not shy away from the things that challenge you in a positive way. Do not allow the judgments of others weigh you down. Just do whatever it is you want and grab life by the balls.

Hmm I'm a year older than you, and am going after the same age group. However the only difference that I see between us is that I do have my own place (and I guess that I get 22 most frequently. Not 24. don't know if that's a genetics thing or I just take good care of my skin lol). Anyway, my advice would be to keep an eye on craiglist's rooms & shares. Whenever you see a good deal, pounce on it. I mean theres obviously scams on there, but those should be easy to avoid. What you don't want to do is ignore those "seemingly legit, but looks like it might be too good to be true" deals. That's how I ended up getting my $400/mo. deal. imo, if you want to fvck hot/above average 18-21 year old girls without spending any money besides beer and uber, I don't see any other better alternative tbh. To cut down on costs even further, I show up at the last hour before the bars close down. I've asked around how this strategy works for others, and the consensus is that its both 1) regional (some places all that's left at last hour are ugly girls) and 2) day dependent (some days there's still a crowd at that hour others its slim pickings). For me, I probably see myself doing this for another year or two, just while I'm still in school/before entering the workforce...then it's hitting on the babes at work for my sexual needs.

I agree with ya, just careful with going for work girls man!

 

[Bingo-Player]

And I wanted to ask if continuing to go to a "college bar" is weird?

I asked a similar question a while back because I was noticing that when I was out and a girl asked/I told my age, the conversation would quickly do a 180 and they would lose all interest because they wonder why I'm there.

This obviously isn't the case for everybody, and I had some girls find it hot - one of the girls I'm smashing right now is only 20 years old and doesn't seem to care, she just likes to sprinkle in "old man" jokes every now and then.

I'm really good friends with most of the staff and the manager, who I've known since I went to school there, and he kinda does the same thing I do, albeit with the other team considering he's gay...

Really I just want to know if continuing to frequent this spot after my birthday is weird, or whether that's just some societal BS that's shoved down our throats to give older women a fighting chance. The other places I could go generally are more expensive, have less attractive women, or are excessively far away for a night out drinking.

This will probably sound a bit like I'm overanalyzing, but I just want some outside opinions from guys who are more into the hookup culture than the dating to settle down type.

Two years older and have lived in a densely populated student area for the last year with a lot of student orientated pubs around , a VAST majority of girls 18-23 are not interested in socialising with anyone outside of their immediate social circles

But every now and then you'll get a chick with a daddy fetish and she will be red hot

I was lucky when i moved here i ran into exactly that and got 6 months of very very good sex out of it

Was chatting to a 19 year old in a pub last month , she was into me showing me pictures of her in stockings and lingerie and asking what i thought and she kissed me , i've met a few girls in gyms who have shown varying degrees interest

Anyway my point is you can't make a broad generalisation like " its wierd" because yea some may find it wierd

Others find it "cool" , some young girls don't like guys their own age and want that 30's something guy to dominate them

Fvck living you life on anyone else's terms ,you have to remember that whilst in your 30's you can get away with this it will naturally become a lot more difficult as you approach 40

 

[Murk]

Also, if girls 18-22 are giving you the cold shoulder and it is bugging you why not change up the venue? What's wrong with girls 22-26? I get that a lot of guys specifically want to go as young as possible (totally cool), but on purely physical level there isn't that much of a difference. Just food for thought.

There’s actually big big difference from 18-26 physically and mentally. 18-26 is a big jump. It’s all down hill. By 26 they already have physical and mental baggage (unless only been in 1-2 LTR).

I personally find most 18/19yo’s annoying to be around, 20-23 is cool 24 onwards I find women start getting stuck in their ways and lose that “youthful spark” that makes the 18-22 range so attractive.

I wouldn’t waste time on a 26 year old unless super feminine, submissive, pretty and not ran through. What new experiences, sexual and otherwise are you going to show an attractive 26 year old?