Trying to reverse this friendzone-what should I do from here?

[Fratboy]

Hey guys,

Long story short, me and this girl went on a date, hit it off really well, hooked up, but didn't end up having sex about a months ago. After this, I made the mistake of giving her too much attention, and she started to pull away. A few weeks ago, I asked her to come to this date function with me, and the night went really well. However, when I tried to kiss her, I got the cheek. I played it off cool the next day like absolutely nothing happened. However, she broke the two strikes rule, as she didn't respond to two of my texts, so I cut off contact. After not texting her for two weeks, I texted her a few days ago asking her what the problem was. She said that I was going in a different direction than she wanted, and that is why she started distancing herself, and that she just wanted to be friends. I had to accept the reality of this situation, as I know that you cannot fight the emotion of women with logic. I said it was cool if we were friends. However, today, something hit me and I changed my mind. I thought to myself: Am I really going to let her see me as equal to one of her girl friends? Does she raise my value when I interact with her, or will she just be hitting me up when only when she needs something? I came to the conclusion that that she disrespected me by ignoring my texts, and she really offers no value to my life. I texted her saying, "Look, we can't be friends anymore. I have a lot of people in my life, and I don't have room for people that will ignore me or disrespect me in any way." Then she replied" I didn't know that you felt that way, I still consider us friends". After this, I was done, and I responded, "Please delete my number". I think she texted me back, but I don't even have time to read it because I am so busy with school. Is there anything differently that I should be doing in this situation? I liked her and had feelings for her, but my **** doesn't **** itself, and LJBF to me means "let's just bail fast". Should I even continue engaging her at this point?

I am not playing games here. I am trying to go to medical school, and have very little time to deal with female bull**** because it will distract me. It's either **** me or **** off and those are the only two things I will accept from her.

 

[skinnyguy]

I cut off contact with a girl who friendzoned me last fall and ended up regretting it.

Telling her you're hurt is pretty beta.

 

[Fratboy]

I didn't tell her I was hurt, I told her I won't tolerate that. She just texted me asking me what made you so mad? I'm not going to respond

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

I didn't tell her I was hurt, I told her I won't tolerate that. She just texted me asking me what made you so mad? I'm not going to respond

Date someone else. Being a friend isn't a bad thing because they can bring you other females.

Friendzone sucks, when you are trying to be with that person. Sometimes it doesn't work out, but if they are really a friend and knowing you are actively dating they might allow you to date some of their friends, even bringing some to you...

 

[Infern0]

Hey guys,

Long story short, me and this girl went on a date, hit it off really well, hooked up, but didn't end up having sex about a months ago. After this, I made the mistake of giving her too much attention, and she started to pull away. A few weeks ago, I asked her to come to this date function with me, and the night went really well. However, when I tried to kiss her, I got the cheek. I played it off cool the next day like absolutely nothing happened. However, she broke the two strikes rule, as she didn't respond to two of my texts, so I cut off contact. After not texting her for two weeks, I texted her a few days ago asking her what the problem was. She said that I was going in a different direction than she wanted, and that is why she started distancing herself, and that she just wanted to be friends. I had to accept the reality of this situation, as I know that you cannot fight the emotion of women with logic. I said it was cool if we were friends. However, today, something hit me and I changed my mind. I thought to myself: Am I really going to let her see me as equal to one of her girl friends? Does she raise my value when I interact with her, or will she just be hitting me up when only when she needs something? I came to the conclusion that that she disrespected me by ignoring my texts, and she really offers no value to my life. I texted her saying, "Look, we can't be friends anymore. I have a lot of people in my life, and I don't have room for people that will ignore me or disrespect me in any way." Then she replied" I didn't know that you felt that way, I still consider us friends". After this, I was done, and I responded, "Please delete my number". I think she texted me back, but I don't even have time to read it because I am so busy with school. Is there anything differently that I should be doing in this situation? I liked her and had feelings for her, but my **** doesn't **** itself, and LJBF to me means "let's just bail fast". Should I even continue engaging her at this point?

I am not playing games here. I am trying to go to medical school, and have very little time to deal with female bull**** because it will distract me. It's either **** me or **** off and those are the only two things I will accept from her.

Yeah so she pushed you away because you were over perusing so you continued over perusing by asking her to a dance then you continued over perusing by breaking NC first and then she figured your a creepy stalker and gave you the ljbf speech because now she's scared of you.

You ****ed up over and over again and now you are giving it the false machismo that she disrespected you and you don't need her (why are you posting about her then)

If you were my friend I'd slap the taste out of your mouth.

I don't need to read the rest, go NC and IF she reaches out to you, set a date and go from there.

In the meantime sort your head out bro because if you don't this is going to keep happening.

 

[Fratboy]

I was far from stalking her. I texted her after two weeks NC. It's my fault for giving in, but I would not consider it stalking at all. My last text she sent me was "What happened to make you so mad?" Im not going to respond to this, but is she playing dumb?" The goal here is to have her **** me or **** off, but I dont know if she will reach out again

 

[Fratboy]

Also, in absolutely no way have I been treated like I have been friendzoned yet because I'm not going to give her the time of day.

 

[Infern0]

I was far from stalking her. I texted her after two weeks NC. It's my fault for giving in, but I would not consider it stalking at all. My last text she sent me was "What happened to make you so mad?" Im not going to respond to this, but is she playing dumb?" The goal here is to have her **** me or **** off, but I dont know if she will reach out again

No she's not playing dumb.

Bro I'm trying to do you a favor here, your game sucks and your mindset ain't much better.

Now you are ignoring her, in what way do you think that makes sense. Are you expecting her to "reach out" and ask you to come and smash.

Your over perusing got you in this mess, you dropped your frame and the following events are oh so predictable.

I recommend you leave this situation. IF she texts you again you don't act butthurt or talk about the past. You act like someone who has their emotional **** together and you meet up and have fun and seduce her.

You really do need to examine your mindset, you are AFC bro. And you aren't going to change that by shifting blame. Being alpha begins by acknowledging your **** ups and learning from them. And you HAVE ****ed up.

 

[RangerMIke]

Just walk away... the only thing she should hear from you is silence. She doesn't exist anymore... you can't get ticked and hurt by people that don't exist.

Woman tells you she wants to be friends, then just smile and say you already have enough friends and don't need anymore. Tell her to have a good life, walk away and NEVER look back EVER.

 

[VladPatton]

Common situation. You over pursued after she initially shows little interest and she LJBF'd you. Shît happens. What you do is nothing. Good move on deleting her number. Should of blocked it as well. Just let it go, and walk away without any ill feelings about your decision. To maintain you dignity you say hello politely when you see her, if you ever do, and you never bring up the past.

Walking away is always your best tool in the shop.

 

[WanderingMan]

go NC and IF she reaches out to you, set a date and go from there.

I agree with most everything you've said on this thread except for the above.

Going NC in this situation may or may not come across as someone who's butthurt. NC, in my opinion, would definitely be a viable option, however I feel it should be used sparingly and only when deserved - ex: when she commits an offense, not just when she loses attraction.

Also, I feel, if she did try to set a date, that he should initially turn her down. This is an ultimate display of independence - masculine energy - he does not need her - or even want her (anymore). Only then can he overcome his earlier transgressions, start anew and contently move forward with this woman.

 

[Fratboy]

you guys are right. Not even worth engaging her at this point. I don't want to associate people who make me feel like less of a man.

 

[Fratboy]

I don't do the friendzone. It's either we're dating or hooking up, or we're not communicating at all. I'll post here if she tries to reach out to me again. Other than that, she is dead to me. Dead.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

You shouldn't have texted her about the disrespect or to delete your number or any of that because it made you look wimpy and like a drama queen in a 'give me what I want' kind of way. You should have stayed NC forever. Unless she comes up to you in person.

If you wanted to tell her that you can't just be friends with a girl, you should have told her right when she said it to you. Just keep away from her bro.

 

[Skyline]

I am not playing games here. I am trying to go to medical school, and have very little time to deal with female bull**** because it will distract me. It's either **** me or **** off and those are the only two things I will accept from her.

You have a crappy attitude here. Especially since that it was your fault that you pushed her away. You gotta take responsibility at some point man...

 

[Infern0]

You have a crappy attitude here. Especially since that it was your fault that you pushed her away. You gotta take responsibility at some point man...

Save your breath, I tried with him, he's not getting it.

 

[captain55]

WEll...you hooked up with her, assuming she wasn't drunk there was obviously some spark/attraction there. Don't be her friend ....but don't delete her number either. good chance she might hit you up when the dude turns out to be less than she thought. You guys who delete chicks numbers the moment they friendzone are dumb as ****, girls hit up guys they friendzone all the time the moment a relationship goes sour or she wants some validation. (and sometimes she may sleep with you)

Now if its a girl who never hooked up with you period and gave you the cheek ... thats a different story. Im not talking about women who flat out reject you, just saying dont delete numbers of women who were attracted to you at one time. I've banged women who friend zoned me...MANY times.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

WEll...you hooked up with her, assuming she wasn't drunk there was obviously some spark/attraction there. Don't be her friend ....but don't delete her number either. good chance she might hit you up when the dude turns out to be less than she thought. You guys who delete chicks numbers the moment they friendzone are dumb as ****, girls hit up guys they friendzone all the time the moment a relationship goes sour or she wants some validation. (and sometimes she may sleep with you)

Now if its a girl who never hooked up with you period and gave you the cheek ... thats a different story. Im not talking about women who flat out reject you, just saying dont delete numbers of women who were attracted to you at one time. I've banged women who friend zoned me...MANY times.

This what I was saying. Also when they hear you have some stuff going on up the female grapevine a lot of times they want to get nosey.

But yes, if you are rejected because she is doing something else just put her on the backburner and worry about something else. She may come back to life later on, just don't use a lot of time on it.

 

[Fratboy]

Guys, I accept responsibility and blame no one but myself. It's just really frustrating for me to see a girl pull a complete 180. Like extremely warm and friendly, and interested in what I was saying to going completely cold. As you guys said, I am pretty inexperienced and don't yet completely understand how attraction works. I am being completely honest- this has really drained my confidence. What do you guys suggest I do from here?

 

[Fratboy]

It's just that feeling of powerlessness in this situation that really drains my confidence.