Tried to pick up a waitress: FAILED

[AmIAFC]

Friends and I hit a dead bar to watch the NCAA Championship Game last Monday, and there were a group of hot waitresses gathered together, not doing much since business was dead.

One of them kept glancing my way, and after me and the guys ordered our drinks and watched some of the game, I approached her and broke the ice.

After a few minutes, I told her that me and the guys were going to the bar across the street, so I asked for her # and she took my phone and punched in all but the last few digits, promising to give me the rest if I came back. Whatever.

We all left to watch the second half of the game in the other bar and all of us had a blast. So at the end at of the game, we popped up at the first bar, grabbed the same table, and got another round of beers and F'd around.

The waitress saw me, smiled, so I walked over, threw in some filler dialogue and finally told her to fork over the last few digits. Her response, "Hmm, I'll think about it" and she vanishes to the kitchen to get an order.

I don't like being stalled or toyed with, and so we all left right there.

My buddy said I should have been more aggressive the first time and demanded the entire #, while my other friend said I should have been more patient and stayed.

Now, she wasn't OUR waitress, so tips and money had no part in this. She wasn't tricking.

Frankly, I think I played it pretty well, but I'm open to criticisms.

 

[JDiddy]

She really grabbed the frame when she denied you the last digits

I probably would of said some smartass comment and made sure she saw me deleating the incomplete number but then my impatient angry ways usually dont help me

 

[mikeyb]

What did you do when you came back? You said something about "filler" dialogue. My guess is that you didn't kino or escalate in any way and that killed her interest, but as I say it's a guess.

 

[ENIGMA16]

Yeah I would've just said something about how I don't play games and delete the number in front of her. She did really take the frame by doing that, and she was hoping that you would take it back, which you didn't.

You could've saved it the second time you went back, probably, too, instead of just giving up.

 

[pipe007]

nothing you could do the second time. You already lost the minute you asked her to put in the last digits again...

you got burned.

anyway, you could have prevented this if the first time you would have hold up the phone to her and said

"see my phone? Im erasing the number you gave me, Im way past this childish games" then erase them in front of her. smile, and leave.

then if you would have come back later, she would have probably been more willing to get to know you

probably.

some women are just not interested.

 

[Duffdog]

Friends and I hit a dead bar to watch the NCAA Championship Game last Monday, and there were a group of hot waitresses gathered together, not doing much since business was dead.

One of them kept glancing my way, and after me and the guys ordered our drinks and watched some of the game, I approached her and broke the ice.

After a few minutes, I told her that me and the guys were going to the bar across the street, so I asked for her # and she took my phone and punched in all but the last few digits, promising to give me the rest if I came back. Whatever.

We all left to watch the second half of the game in the other bar and all of us had a blast. So at the end at of the game, we popped up at the first bar, grabbed the same table, and got another round of beers and F'd around.

The waitress saw me, smiled, so I walked over, threw in some filler dialogue and finally told her to fork over the last few digits. Her response, "Hmm, I'll think about it" and she vanishes to the kitchen to get an order.

I don't like being stalled or toyed with, and so we all left right there.

My buddy said I should have been more aggressive the first time and demanded the entire #, while my other friend said I should have been more patient and stayed.

Now, she wasn't OUR waitress, so tips and money had no part in this. She wasn't tricking.

Frankly, I think I played it pretty well, but I'm open to criticisms.

So, I can't really say "do this next time", but I will tell you exactly what I would have done in that situation. I would have totally called out that chic in front of all her friends, even if she hated me for it. I would have said: "That is the gayest thing I have ever heard...does that EVER work on anyone?"

While it might not have worked, you would have thrown her off of her game and appeared like a male who doesn't put up with sh1t from females instead of a chump who goes along with it.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Excellent! You have taken another step towards success.

Failure gets a bad rap.

 

[Hakuna]

You may have been able to come out w/ her number if you had escalated further / waited a bit. Patience is a virtue, if you go in for the kill to early you'll come off as too aggressive or eager. But I think you did the right thing in leaving. It's better to fail and come out as a DJ than succeed and come out as a chump.

I would have said: "That is the gayest thing I have ever heard...does that EVER work on anyone?"

Wow -- that would've been amazing.

 

[Adonis PUA Trainer]

If you knew you were coming back you should of skipped the middle man and got the number as you left the second time. Matter of fact the first conversation should have left her with enough tension for her to feel like she had the OPPORTUNITY to give you her number by the time you asked

 

[Perfect]

**** that.


Hell no, I got too much pride. I don't jump for bait like that.

 

[BigJimbo]

How does one get rejected by a waitress? I was under the impression that at that point of a broad's life she will go for ANYTHING. Do you know how depressing that job can get?

 

[mikeyb]

How does one get rejected by a waitress? I was under the impression that at that point of a broad's life she will go for ANYTHING. Do you know how depressing that job can get?

Hot waitresses get hit on more times than Megan Fox.

 

[Mr. Bond]

You got some practice and you had the balls to approach, so take that from it.

After she pulled that partial number crap, I would've rolled my eyes and moved on anyway.

 

[AmIAFC]

Thanks, guys. I think the victory for me, on a personal and DJ-learning level, is that I didn't stick around while she "considered" giving me her number.

Although I still feel that a better approach and better dialogue flow would have secured me the # or more, I think the fact that I didn't disrespect myself by lingering illustrates a good foundation in my sense of personal worth, which goes a long way in achieving master DJ status.

 

[tinctrar]

You win some and you lose some brother. I can honestly say that I have gotten some really good numbers from hot girls but I have gotten rejected by decent girls. And vice versa.

Im not a huge baseball fan anymore but even the best hitters of all time only bat .300

Thats 30 percent out of 100. When they strikeout or pop up they just take in stride and go for the home run next time. Failure happens - its how we recover.

Now get out there and get some more numbers.

 

[Prodigy746]

Definitely agree with most of what other people said. Should have deleted the number in front of her and say something along the lines..."i thought we were grownups not kids who play little games. Nice meeting you (name) bye." Maybe it wouldnt get you the number but it would definitely raise her attraction level if you decide to go to the same place again and maybe try again if she shows IOI's. There would have been a slim chance of saying aww you are no fun fine, or ok fine here is the number.

 

[the305]

Sorry but this thread has horrible advice, someone mentioned you didnt kino and escalate enough with a WAITRESS, and thats why she didnt give you the number. LMAO wtf?! :: rolls his eyes ::

best thing for girls who work in establishments are, multiple interactions, build them up so shes familiar with you, then when its to a point ask for a facebook or a number, NOT for a date or for a meetup after work. A simple "you seem cool, ill text you when we and my buddies are out in this area again" this way theres no pressure, there no "uughh this guy is hitting on me"

You went the direct route, where basically its hit or miss, either shes physically attracted to you/likes your vibe or not, what you have AGAINST you is.. shes at work.. 1. she gets hit on all the time if shes hot 2. shes at work, its her JOB, girls wont risk it for some random guy, that came up and drunkenly hit on her.

 

[Credos]

She's a waitress, ofcourse she's smiling, she wants a tip. She told you to come back so that the bar could earn more money on you, that's all.

Once she told you you can have the last digits the second time you come back, you should have know she was just faking it. Anyhow, better of trying than doing nothing. Now you know.

If she would have told me I get the last numbers when I get back, I would have just replied with: "Sure, whatever - *erase first digits*".

 

[AmIAFC]

Update:

I went to the same spot last Saturday, to watch some NBA games, and one of the waitresses (who was a friend to the girl) asked me to write down my number on a napkin to give to her. I asked about the first waitresses whereabouts (the one who gave me the incomplete #), and she told me that she didn't work there any more, and she didn't want to lose touch with me, so she asked her to retrieve my # if I were to ever show up.

So I gave the friend my #, and the waitress from a few weeks ago (from the first post in this thread) called the next day (Sunday). We talked for 10 minutes and I told her that I'd call her later in the week after I check my schedule, to set a date.

 

[mustfirstregister]

you got played like a little baby hahahahaha

you should have never came back in the first place.