Top Ten Tips to Don Juanism.

SynTheUnscathed

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I was wondering if those who actually ARE Don Juans, or have a certain success ratio with the ladies are willing to divulge their top ten articules, tips, sayings, or posts that made the difference in emerging from an AFC into a Lady Slayer.

Feel free to join in and post your favorites.

Also, go ahead and post something that someone else might post, lets us know that particular tip is working.


-Syn
 

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I dont have a top ten but I have a few main ones that work wonders if you actually do them.
1. EYE CONTACT
2. BACK STRAIGHT NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO
3.ALWAYS BE SHARPED DRESSED,NOT FANCY JUST KEEP IT CLEAN
4.REMEMBER THEY ARE JUST WOMEN
5.TRY TO STRAY AWAY FROM MAJOR SLUTS(HOOKERS,ESCORTS) THEY ARE NOTHING BUT TROUBLE
6.JUST BE YOURSELF,DONT PUT ON SOME ACT,HAVE FUN YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE
 

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Appreciate.


I find it funny. All of these self-professed Don Juans on here, and none of them have anything constructive to say to a very real post, not some AFC post complaining how a girl looked at him the wrong way.

I am calling Don Juans to bring out the knowledge and none of them are stepping up. Whats up with that?
 

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Failure is a part of success. You have to crash and burn before you can fly.

You need to be able to risk everything to get anything.

Vague language, yes, but true nonetheless.
 

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"Perfect is boring."

Once you understand that, everything else that this site advocates doesn't really matter.

You can be desperate, wimpy, wussy and ugly- but still get girls- if you accept that perfect is boring and therefore, accept yourself.

So i guess self acceptance is the most important part of DJ-ing.

And yes SynTheUnscathed, I really do hope more real DJ's will step up and give us their nuggets of gold.

-Fender-
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

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There's a fine line; I've had much success while acting selfish. I think that the woman is most intrigued when she feels like she's chasing you.

These days there are so many wimpy men, that women will respond favorably to a guy who doesn't take their shyt.

Playing "Hot and Cold" is also a very effective technique. Treat them kind and loving one time, then change it up and create some drama the next. This technique is very effective for keeping her interested.

It's been said before, but most women act like spoiled brats. They play their little shyt tests, and expect the guy to jump through hoops. DON'T DO IT. A lot of guys are scared they'll lose the girl if they don't play this game. The fact is you WILL lose her if you DO play the game.

One of the best pieces of advice someone can give to a novice don juan is: YOU MUST BE WILLING TO WALK AWAY. Women can smell desperation like a dog can smell fear. If she feels like she can do what she wants with no consequences, you'll lose her.

If she starts with her bullshyt, put your foot down immediately. If she keeps it up. walk away. This is a very effective tool, and most guys don't have the balls to use it.

In conclusion, there are so many ass kissing, AFC, wimpy guys out there today, that if you act like a man whose got a pair, you'll set yourself up for success with women.
 

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Originally posted by SynTheUnscathed
Appreciate.


I find it funny. All of these self-professed Don Juans on here, and none of them have anything constructive to say to a very real post, not some AFC post complaining how a girl looked at him the wrong way.

I am calling Don Juans to bring out the knowledge and none of them are stepping up. Whats up with that?
Hey bud, how about taking your fist out of your ******* because that's how your attitude is right now.
 

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"the person who owns the group isnt the one who talks the most but the one everyone talks to."
-Juggler
 

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It's really important to have social circles with many girls. You can be considered really good looking but women fear rejection. The more insecure they are with themselves and the more attractive they find you, the greater the fear of rejection.

Many will give strong and frequent eye contact but show disdain around you until you talk to them. They will ignore you completely until you say something.

Do any of you guys that are considered very good looking experience this? You find out later that the girl really likes you yet she made sure not to show it in the least by totally ignoring you to the point where you thought she hated you.

What's worse is if you talk to the really insecure ones they try to beat you to the punch and come up with some excuse yet all the awhile they lured you over with those long and deep gazes that you can't miss. It's like they get satisfaction in rejecting a guy they don't feel worthy of.

Now, social circles are different. It establishes a comfort level and removes the fear of rejection through more socializing.
 

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Originally posted by SynTheUnscathed
I was wondering if those who actually ARE Don Juans, or have a certain success ratio with the ladies are willing to divulge their top ten articules, tips, sayings, or posts that made the difference in emerging from an AFC into a Lady Slayer.

Feel free to join in and post your favorites.

Also, go ahead and post something that someone else might post, lets us know that particular tip is working.


-Syn
I'll give it a shot

Get REJECTED??? Walk away with a smile.

If you played your game right and YOU KNOW IT, You should be HAPPY she just saved you a bunch of time and anxiety

the biggest key for me from this site and the 'bible' is that it is much harder and more rewarding to be able to live alone then with a girl.
focus on yourself. Find things in life that you love. Not persons. Create a life so that no matter what persons come and go, YOU STILL HAVE A LIFE WORTH LIVING!
Change is an everyday battle" - You do not wake up one day and become a changed man overnight just because you say so. It takes months of consistent practice to finally notice some changes
A DJ is the sum of good habits" - You must always practice what you read everyday until it becomes second nature. Do not slip in a "rest day" or something to revert back to your old self, you must never look back or let the 'old you' back into your life, not even for a second because that is your comfort zone.
"Successful people aren't in to pleasureable activity, but pleasureable outcomes."
(I actually have this post on my dresser, so whoever wrote it, mad props)



“Women get a life by getting a man; men get a wife by getting a life.”
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Consistency is the most important thing to success

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Dreams are more powerful than facts. Imagination is stronger than knowledge, the myth more powerful than history, and passion will always go further than experience
Men conquer worlds; women conquer men
Women-Condemning is far easier than Self-Realization.
Don Juaning is easy when it’s a way of life.

Remember, in any relationship, the one with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.
spin more plates
Here are a couple that I made, and try to guide me:

1) Always, always, always think with the big head.. not the little head.. more important than people realize.. or else both will be chopped off


2) You don't want to get A woman.. you want to be able to PICK your woman.. huge difference


3) You only life one time... don't have any regrets.. I would rather be broke on my ass and happy I did or tried what I wanted to do in life, than to be an average joe, livign an average life, and having an average outcome.. at leat I can look back on my life when I am on my death bed and say I tried my all and I can die in peace... that has made me do some things that the average person would be scared ****less to do, but I have no regrets

4) Treat everyone, from the biggest ******* to the finest peson in the room, witht he upmost respect at all times.. doesn't mean suck up, but be respectful.. a hooker, to the queen of england can do nothing but do the same back


5) Hold no grudges.. Alot of people aren't smart enough to know how bad they ****ed up .. when women turn me down, I actually feel bad for them in a sense, because they are do blind or dumb to realize what they are missing.. life's to short for grudges


6) You are either moving forward or backwards in life.. never staying still

7) At the end of the day, you ahve to do what makes you happy.. if that means leaving a girl that is perfectly good (by todays standards) for you because you aren't ready for a realationship (such as I recently did, left a girl, that I could honestly see myself spending the rest of my life with, becuase that's not what i wanted at my young age of 22.. I hvae too much living to do) than so be it.

If it means cutting off old friends that you don't have any thing in common with anymore and you feel are holding you back, so be it.

You have to answer to you in the morning
 

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
It's really important to have social circles with many girls. You can be considered really good looking but women fear rejection. The more insecure they are with themselves and the more attractive they find you, the greater the fear of rejection.

Many will give strong and frequent eye contact but show disdain around you until you talk to them. They will ignore you completely until you say something.

Do any of you guys that are considered very good looking experience this? You find out later that the girl really likes you yet she made sure not to show it in the least by totally ignoring you to the point where you thought she hated you.

What's worse is if you talk to the really insecure ones they try to beat you to the punch and come up with some excuse yet all the awhile they lured you over with those long and deep gazes that you can't miss. It's like they get satisfaction in rejecting a guy they don't feel worthy of.

Now, social circles are different. It establishes a comfort level and removes the fear of rejection through more socializing.
I never went with the social circles theory.. no mind you, if a friend happend to know a hot girl I was into, than great.. but if you just relay on social circles to get women, you are kind of "settling for what's in front of you" so to speak.. in other words... there are billions of women on earth, alot single or looking waiting to be talked to/gamed,and because you are to insecure or too trapped inside your own little social circle, you won't talk to them.

i have a hot friend, no... old oneitis to be exact, that was like this... she wouldn't date a guy unless he was a friend of her friends... and all she dated was total loosers or complete AFC's... none were very good looking or successful.. guys would literarly drool at her when she went anywhere, but because she wouldn't do **** like a grown person, like go out, even to like Wal Mart, you know, normal things...she never had/has any additioanl opprotunties.

Then, when you date, and break up, because all but 1 of your realationships in life will end in a breakup, it's the same old "who takes whoose sides"... half of the camp usually sides with one person, the other half sides with the other.

lol, my old oneitis was dating this guy like 7 months ago, and before she decided to break up with him... to date another one the guys in the group mind you, she actually called all of her friends and made sure they were "on her side"... even though the guy in all honestly did nothing wrong... he just wasn't revolving his life around her.. and she thought the other guy looked better, so she made up this whole story about how he shows no attention, blah blah blah... so when it all went down, pretty much her EX got outcasted from the group.. for absoultly nothing... her only real complaint she had against him was she got him drunk one night and tried to **** and he coudln't get it up


then to make matters worse, about 3 weeks after this went down, she decided she really didn't like the new guy she was talking to (they wren't even dating) because he was too clingy and was talkign about **** like marrage and stuff along thoose lines..s he she ended up dropping him as well
 

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"All Beings have an equal and unalienable right to exist. But not all Beings are created with equal abilities."

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Don't do to others what you don't want done to you, for you are ultimately responsible for your actions or inactions.

"Let not your Virtues or Vices be used against you."

-Sapiens
 

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Now I'm far from being a DJ, but I'm getting to the stage where I'm beginning to see some good results, so I'll share some of my thoughts. I have learnt most of this stuff by doing the wrong things, then fixing it up (The good ol' hard way :) )

1. Try and live a healthy life by eating good and getting regular exercise. Now I'm not talking about becoming a health freak or anything like that, just cut out as much crap food as you can and relace it with good stuff and go for a jog or hit the gym 3 days a week. It will give your mind and body a good kickstart and it shows on the outside through good skin tone, non-stinky breath and bright eyes. (I have photo's of before and after I did this and the difference is very noticable)

2. Make sure you look after your health, because if you don't it can take you out of the game for a long period of time. As an example, when I started exercising I developed a bit of chaffing in my groin. I just put up with it and it got infected, I still left it, it became a serious rash that took months to get rid of with medication and it developed a really bad stench (so I lost about 7 months of possible dating time) I learnt that lesson the hard way as well.

3. Be nice to every person you meet and try and take a genuine interest in what they have to say. You never know who they are friends with and it is just a respectful thing to do. As previous posters have mentioned, respect is very inportant, you get it by giving it to others first. Just be a true gentleman at every possible moment.

4. Keep your emotions in check. NEVER, EVER get angry and abuse a girl, no matter what they do or how much it hurts, just turn and walk away. The same goes for any emotion, if you are really in love with someone, try and remain cool about it. Women are very receptive about how you feel, if you are head over heels in love but you keep a cool head about it, they are more likely to act like a love struck schoolgirl to make up for your calmness.

5. Give yourself rules and boundries and stick to them! If you decide that you will only call a girl 2 times a week, then stick to it. (unless it is an emergency of course) I have a rule of talking on the phone for no longer than 20 mins when I first meet a girl. I'm constantly saying "Look I don't have time to sit and talk for hours on the phone, we can talk about everything when we go out at the end of the week" Oh and I always make sure I set up a date the first time I call them in the week, that way I can use that line in later convo's.

6. Be interesting and give yourself plenty of opportunity to display that you are a fun guy. Just last night I took a girl for a walk along the beach at night, JUST so I could use the opportunity to pole dance on a street light and play on some playground equipment (It is the 4th time I have done it with as many girls and it always gets the right reaction)

7. (I borrowed this from somewhere, so credit to the original person, whoever they are) Approach life and women the same way you would approach gambling in a casino where you didn't have to use your own money, but you got to keep anything you win. Bet big and take risks because if you lose the money, meh!, plenty more where that came from. Play all the games and the tables even if you don't know the rules because it will be the best way of learning and the learning will be fun. To improve the experience, invite people into your world and give them the same opportunity to gamble risk-free along with you, when you all win TOGETHER the experience is magnified 10X.

I'll edit and add if I think of anything, right now I'm going to sleep (equally as important as any of the above)
 

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This is something I must learn today.

the power to walk away.

It is more important than to learn to walk in (ltr, dates, etc), because, it is easy to walk in, but if you cant walk away you are trapped.

If you can walk in and walk away then there are infinite possibilities in the world for you.

KEEP WALKING (in and out)
 

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The world is what you make of it

You can't get anywhere if you don't start moving

EVERYTHING can be a learning experience

I am far from being a DJ, but pook says as you think, you shall become, he is the ultimate AFC teacher, let's see how far his teaching can get us.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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Get in shape.

Dress for success.

Be social.

Be confident.

Be Sexual.

Be yourself.

Be perisistent.

Keep your emotions in check.
 

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Ah nice. This is what I want to see!!

Its great to see real thoughts and practical tips that people are finding successful, this is what the forum truly is about!!


To Warlord...:cool: Be Cool.
 

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Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
Get in shape.

Dress for success.

Be social.

Be confident.

Be Sexual.

Be yourself.

Be perisistent.

Keep your emotions in check.
And if you can do this, and persue/juggle more than one at a time, it will all work out in the end.
 

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Body language is the most important. Since women are more adept in being able to decipher body language movements for the sake of their nurturing nature, your body language conveys all kinds of suggestions to a woman about your *confidence*.

Stand tall and proud with your shoulders slightly back. Move gracefully. You are the prize and give your attention to only those who measure up and seek yours out as well.

Do not be obnoxious or arrogant. Keep it light and fun always. Do not ramble on about things. Keep your responses shorter. Make her figure you out as we all know women like to do. Do not put all your cards on the table, always leave somthing to discover. Smile and have a take it or leave it attitude.

Hit on every one of those things above and you'll not only have girls coming after you, but the more quality girls at that. Girls that are actually tight and not *loose*.
 
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