"Too busy to go on a date now" as a sh!t test?

[mental blockstack]

When a girl has other priorities than dating you filling her schedule, how much of that would you say is genuine versus a test to see if you can break through/advertise a date well enough? And how would you go about doing it?

Normally I'd just keep chill and tell her to let me know when she's available, but sometimes you're pressed for time...

 

[El Payaso]

When a girl has other priorities than dating you filling her schedule, how much of that would you say is genuine versus a test to see if you can break through/advertise a date well enough? And how would you go about doing it?

Normally I'd just keep chill and tell her to let me know when she's available, but sometimes you're pressed for time...

If a woman met a man with the body of a Greek god and the wallet of Bruce Wayne, she wouldn't tell him she's too busy to go on a date. Even if she was busy from 12am to 12am all day that week, she would find a way to make time or offer a counter.

What this girl is basically saying is she doesn't have time to date YOU.

So what do you do? You delete and move on. Simple.

Don't ever tell her to text you when she's available. If you do that, you're communicating several things to her.

1) Your time doesn't matter and is irrelevant.

2) You value her more because you don't have anything or other women going on in your life.

3) She can just call you up whenever she wants because you are at her beck and call.

4) Most of all, it's simply a weak frame.

If a woman ever says she doesn't have time to date now in person, just say "Okay. No problem. It was nice talking to you" and leave. If she says it over text, delete her contact info and move on.

 

[logicallefty]

It can be genuine at times, but the majority of times it's not. When a woman turns down going out with me once, the orange flag goes up if she doesn't counter offer. THEN, I will ask one more time.. If she turns me down that 2nd time with no counter, I am done and go NC indefinitely.. If she doesn't contact me then no harm no fowl. If she does contact me at this point I conclude that she only wants me for an orbiter\attention source and I generally block her because at this point she is nothing to me but annoying.

 

[mental blockstack]

Yeah but realistically, a lot of girls even with high IL will have busy schedules. You can't expect every one of them to cancel their work day or hangouts with their best friends, etc.

Even if a girl wanted to schedule a different time, but she thinks there isn't enough time left before she leaves her vacation, guess her interest is moderate but not quite high enough to trump everything else huh? Any way at all to boost that?

 

[Maximus Rex]

When a girl has other priorities than dating you filling her schedule, how much of that would you say is genuine versus a test to see if you can break through/advertise a date well enough? And how would you go about doing it?

Normally I'd just keep chill and tell her to let me know when she's available, but sometimes you're pressed for time...

This is an example of why people should have to make "x" number of posts before making a thread. Look bruh, when a chikc says that she's "too busy," to go out on date with me, she's essentially saying she isn't f*cking with you.

 

[ubercat]

Had one this week. Date lined up with cute asian chick for Sunday. she said she has her kids now so NC for a week at least and then i ll drop a general how's it going text. found my Russian girl lives too far away. Gamed a Chinese nurse at a dinner party last night. suggested adding me to her WeChat which I think is a Chinese chick IOI. Lined up a date with an Aussie girl tomorrow. so yeah best to stay busy and flick the annoying ones quickly.

 

[Igetit!]

Yeah but realistically, a lot of girls even with high IL will have busy schedules.

If you REALLY BELIEVE that a woman who has GENUINE INTEREST in you is "too busy" to find time to see you,you're either some wet-behind-the-ears teenager who's completely new to dating,or you're a complete and utter FOOL.

I once dated a chick who was both in school and had a job at the same time. You know what she'd do? Her classes began at 8am in the mornings. She'd drop by my place at 7:30 and we'd fool around and hang out for a while before she'd head off to class.
Far as her job,I'd pick her up for lunch,go get something to eat,talk,make out/fool around a bit,then I'd drop her back off at work.

Like "Last of the Alphas" said.....if a woman wants to see you....if she really truely has interest in you,she'll MAKE TIME to see you. Take a look at this quote and REMEMBER IT......

 

[pyros]

All the responses are correct but...

the thing is that NOT ALL WOMEN ARE REALLY INTO YOU FROM THE BEGINING. But, based on personal experience, these kind of women are a total waste of time 90% of the times.
If they 'dont have time' to meet you for an hour during the week...you better go do something else and forget about them. Just think about it. If their interest in you is SO low...not good.

Of course, if a woman really likes you when she meets you AND is available, she's not gonna tell you she's busy. In this case she is a YES girl.
You can also bump into women that are just not into you, so when you tell them to go on a date they reject you some way or another, so these are NO girls.
But the trouble starts when you meet women that are "just a bit interested in you" for whatever reason: because they find you attractive, because they are bored, because they want someone to talk to, because they want to go on a date, etc. These are the MAYBE girls.
In this case you can decide to cut them from your life when they tell you they are 'busy' or you can become crazy trying to find how you're gonna make them want to go on a date with you, which is not recommended for your own good, and it is more than likely a waste of time.

Ppl here recommend, in general, to just go for YES girls and avoid NO and MAYBE girls, which are an uphill battle, or a lost battle the majority of the time.
This way you dont waste your resources: time, money, energy, and dont get mad at them when they stop seing you cause you actually never started seing them lol.

 

[Jarton]

Seems like there would be a high risk of losing frame and becoming emotional attached or afc'd to a MAYBE girl than a YES one. Dangerous.

 

[FCB]

Offer, if she doesn't counter offer or make an effort to do something then let it go. If she's interested or is being sincere she'll contact you to try and set up a date if not then you saved your precious time.

 

[nismo-4]

A girl that is too busy to go on a date with you is not interested or has low interest.

She wouldn't be too busy for Idris Elba, and you wouldn't be too busy to date Janet Jackson or Katy Perry. Barring a family emergency or death. But a counter offer will be made!

What the f**k is so hard about dropping a NO girl or MAYBE girl? Anything other than a yes with actions to back it up is a no, and should be deleted.

I got a date with an ATL Hawks cheerleader and she was so excited to see me, she made it known, and didn't miss the date. I don't know what mountain she moved, but she moved one! Figure of speech but you get the idea.

 

[devilkingx2]

When a woman is too busy on a general basis it means 1 of 2 things

1) she doesn't care about you at all and doesn't want to see you either at all or unless she has nothing else going on

2) she's so ridiculously busy you'll have to schedule dates a month in advance by meeting with her secretary

Which do you think it is? Doesn't matter because those both suck for you

Alternatively shes only busy at some specific time, in which case just ask her out at another time when she should be free, if she's chronically busy refer to 1 and 2.

 

[Atom Smasher]

As I always say, there is no such thing as a woman who is hard to read. Literally no such thing.

When a woman smiles at you and shows eagerness to go out with you, she likes you. Anything else, you should cut bait and move to more productive waters.

 

[parkthebus]

If a girl has something else she has to do, or would rather do, than go out with me, my response is this....

(complete silence)

-------

No response is necessary.

You see men, if she is high interest, she will reach out to suggest another date and time.

Your suaveness in replying with 'let me know another time' is not necessary and only conveys your desire to see her.

Problem is, once she knows that your desire is stronger than hers, she loses interest.

Only deal with high IL women.

What is the deal with only speaking to high IL aomen? I would assume the answer but would prefer it from. The horses mouth
Sound like a bit of an ego buffer to me, personlally.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Trying to "convince" a women to be attracted to you turns you into a dancing monkey, trying to manipulate her specific perception.

It is better to manipulate your general, global perception and then be in a position to choose from the pool of women who are attracted. Best yield and highest quality yield.

 

[penkitten]

When you kindly ask a gal out, unless she's a horrible person, she is never going to come right out and say no because she doesn't want to date you. Here she is minding her own business and you came up and asked... She doesn't want to hurt your feelings or wreck your ego so she tries to say the first thing that comes into her mind as an excuse not to go hoping you will see that she is letting you down gently. People do what they want to do. They find a way to do the things they desire most. Sometimes they will say i am working that night but how about the next night? If people do things out of obligation, they do it because they choose that too. Whether they tell themselves they always keep their promises or they feel they owe you one, they still do what they choose to do.

 

[AttackFormation]

I think this rule is right in general, but I know for a fact that if you hardline it 100%, you can/will throw girls away. Right now I am sexting a girl who was too busy to see me two weeks ago, turns out she actually went on a trip. Had I followed the "next immediately" rule, I would have thrown this away and I would never know how wrong I was because I'd have believed it was over.

 

[Solomon]

As I always say, there is no such thing as a woman who is hard to read. Literally no such thing.

When a woman smiles at you and shows eagerness to go out with you, she likes you. Anything else, you should cut bait and move to more productive waters.

^^^So much this

The sad part is the average guy is clueless because most guys don't deal with super invested HI women.....the best way to combat that is to raise ones value

 

[mental blockstack]

All the responses are correct but...

the thing is that NOT ALL WOMEN ARE REALLY INTO YOU FROM THE BEGINING. But, based on personal experience, these kind of women are a total waste of time 90% of the times.
If they 'dont have time' to meet you for an hour during the week...you better go do something else and forget about them. Just think about it. If their interest in you is SO low...not good.

Of course, if a woman really likes you when she meets you AND is available, she's not gonna tell you she's busy. In this case she is a YES girl.
You can also bump into women that are just not into you, so when you tell them to go on a date they reject you some way or another, so these are NO girls.
But the trouble starts when you meet women that are "just a bit interested in you" for whatever reason: because they find you attractive, because they are bored, because they want someone to talk to, because they want to go on a date, etc. These are the MAYBE girls.
In this case you can decide to cut them from your life when they tell you they are 'busy' or you can become crazy trying to find how you're gonna make them want to go on a date with you, which is not recommended for your own good, and it is more than likely a waste of time.

Ppl here recommend, in general, to just go for YES girls and avoid NO and MAYBE girls, which are an uphill battle, or a lost battle the majority of the time.
This way you dont waste your resources: time, money, energy, and dont get mad at them when they stop seing you cause you actually never started seing them lol.

Seems like there would be a high risk of losing frame and becoming emotional attached or afc'd to a MAYBE girl than a YES one. Dangerous.

Word. Good way of explaining it.

Seems like turning maybe girls into yes ones, could be an entire game itself. Not one to invest time or energy into... but as a test, for example you cut one girl off for a while, little to no contact, then at a different time in her life try again under different circumstances and perceptions of you. Again not something to get caught up on, but I'd bet there are strategies to go about at least boosting that 10% chance a couple points.

(I like to conquer challenges)

And if it's a high maybe, guys who don't invest emotions into her could just keep her on low flame radar with no sacrifice.

 

[Mot1veProgress]

When a girl has other priorities than dating you filling her schedule, how much of that would you say is genuine versus a test to see if you can break through/advertise a date well enough? And how would you go about doing it?

Normally I'd just keep chill and tell her to let me know when she's available, but sometimes you're pressed for time...

IF she said it in that manner, Pass her up. That's kind of harsh and a signal that the girl has alot of baggage you don't want to deal with. Why bother with someone like that?