Told my wife she is a piece of sh!t tonight

Desdinova

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The only thing I'm seeing here is this woman gives a damn about you, wants to spend time with you, and has been consistently concerned about your drinking problem - to the point where it has been getting on her nerves.

When I was married, my biggest problem was that my wife wouldn't spend any time with me. I tried reasoning with the woman, planning things to do together, and constantly made the effort to do things together. Every time, I got shot down because she had more important things to do with her friends. It was so bad that my friends and even her friends were talking about it. Eventually, I got tired and worn out from fighting a battle that I was never going to win. I gave up. The marriage ended just a few months later, and according to her I was the one at fault because I was the cause of our loveless marriage.

Is that what you want? Do you want this woman to give up on you? Do you want her to stop giving a 5hit about you? Do you want her to stop putting in effort to spend time with you? Do you want her to quit trying to point out a problem she repeatedly sees in the marriage?

Eventually, she will get tired of fighting a never-winning battle and kick your ass out of her life. Is that what you want?

This isn't about the beach nor is it about spending time with you. It's about the hopefull progress toward ending a problem in the marriage, and you just shattered that hope. You fvcked it up. She's not the one who's a piece of 5hit, and I think you should pack up your stubbornness and apologize to her for that remark. You should NEVER kick someone down for giving a damn about you.
 

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Just something to think about...........perhaps its not the alcohol that she has the issue about. Could it be that her issue with your drinking is how you act after consuming the alcohol?
 

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Desdinova said:
The only thing I'm seeing here is this woman gives a damn about you, wants to spend time with you, and has been consistently concerned about your drinking problem - to the point where it has been getting on her nerves.

When I was married, my biggest problem was that my wife wouldn't spend any time with me. I tried reasoning with the woman, planning things to do together, and constantly made the effort to do things together. Every time, I got shot down because she had more important things to do with her friends. It was so bad that my friends and even her friends were talking about it. Eventually, I got tired and worn out from fighting a battle that I was never going to win. I gave up. The marriage ended just a few months later, and according to her I was the one at fault because I was the cause of our loveless marriage.

Is that what you want? Do you want this woman to give up on you? Do you want her to stop giving a 5hit about you? Do you want her to stop putting in effort to spend time with you? Do you want her to quit trying to point out a problem she repeatedly sees in the marriage?

Eventually, she will get tired of fighting a never-winning battle and kick your ass out of her life. Is that what you want?

This isn't about the beach nor is it about spending time with you. It's about the hopefull progress toward ending a problem in the marriage, and you just shattered that hope. You fvcked it up. She's not the one who's a piece of 5hit, and I think you should pack up your stubbornness and apologize to her for that remark. You should NEVER kick someone down for giving a damn about you.

I already texted her "sorry for being a jerk". What else do you want me to do? She knows that I hate it when she starts bossing me around. I snapped, and that was a mistake.

The real piece of sh!t here is me. Who cares? Pieces of sh!t can be positive members of society.
 

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Malice said:
So I come home from a hard week at work with a big bottle of vodka. She is hitting the beach with her girlfriends this weekend, and she starts screaming about my drinking.
Not to be judgmental, but if your plans for your day off involve sitting at home and drinking a big bottle of vodka by yourself, it sounds like you have a drinking problem (this is completely aside from whether your wife had the right to behave the way she did).
 

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bradd80 said:
no that's livefreex you're thinking of. malice's wife is a latina.
:eek: that explains her going physco on em. This sure didn't sound like something an Asian would do. I got a lot of experience with Latinas and I love them their my favorite women, but they can be emotionally and mentally draining with the loco episodes. I prefer the Latinas attitudes to the black girls attitude(that is something infant deal with) It's all worth it though, they're awesome in bed and great lovers. I hope for the best for Malice, but boy if you married a Latina the "Loco" thing is something your going to have to learn to deal with.

Is she Mexican, Cuban, Puerto Rican, Columbian, etc.
 

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All I know is that a man doesn't ever have to resort to cutting a woman down. If you don't like something, express yourself, and let the process take care of itself. You can't control how people interpret a message but you can make sure you are clear enough so that they have the best possible chance of understanding you as you intend to be understood.

At the end of the day, if a woman does something like say, curse at you, cursing at her back isn't going to solve the problem. If a woman talks to me in a manner I don't tolerate, I let her know. If it persists, I cut off the conversation however applicable. Based on the situation, it means I will either respectfully dismiss myself and tell her we will talk later when we are both level-headed (if it's a phone convo) or I will walk away from the situation and return with some sort of peace offering to demonstrate I am there to make amends and work things out.

Everybody wants to work things out but nobody wants to put in any work. If I'm stressed out, I will come home with wine, a 6 pack (of which I drink 2 max) or I'll just lightly "medicate" myself with some herbal essence (see what I did there?).

The last option I mentioned may be viewed negatively by more women (or people in general) than the preceding two, but at least I know I'm not going to be in the mood to call my wife a piece of **** lol :whistle: No judgement to the OP for doing what he did though. Just one brother to another giving his 2 cents. If you don't want them, give 'em back :)
 

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Went out with my wife tonight and her friend who is staying over for a couple nights. Makes me wish I had a DJ friend near me, he wouldn't be disappointed. A hot single latina is a terrible thing to waste.
 

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Malice said:
Went out with my wife tonight and her friend who is staying over for a couple nights. Makes me wish I had a DJ friend near me, he wouldn't be disappointed. A hot single latina is a terrible thing to waste.
That's the style Malice. You are doing good now.
 

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WoodB said:
That's the style Malice. You are doing good now.

She flat out asked me to hook her up with a friend. Damn terrible shame. I don't have any single friends now to oblige.
 

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Malice said:
Went out with my wife tonight and her friend who is staying over for a couple nights. Makes me wish I had a DJ friend near me, he wouldn't be disappointed. A hot single latina is a terrible thing to waste.
Have yet to waste a single one.
 

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Kailex said:
Have yet to waste a single one.

The funny thing is she told me she is single but I look her up on Sh!tbook and it says "in relationship" with pics of the dude. HAHAHA she is Americanized.
 

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if you don't have kids, pack it in and leave... just don't give a ****... it's so much better to treat women like the dogs that they are.
 

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techno1 said:
if you don't have kids, pack it in and leave... just don't give a ****... it's so much better to treat women like the dogs that they are.

Everything is back to normal now. Nothing to see here anymore. She is actually one of the sweet ones, she doesn't deserve to be treated bad.
 

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bradd80 said:
i still agree with techno1.. think of all the great field reports you could contribute here if you were single!

**** the game, i'm done. Lucky to have made it out alive.
 
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