Told my wife she is a piece of sh!t tonight

[Married Buried]

So I come home from a hard week at work with a big bottle of vodka. She is hitting the beach with her girlfriends this weekend, and she starts screaming about my drinking.

I have not had a drink all week and she is getting in my face about this sh!t? I told her to f/ck off and not tell me what to do. After alot of other screaming she took my drink and threw it out. I locked the door in her face but she got back in.

Is she expecting me to apologize or something? Apparently I made some deal 2 years ago that I would quit drinking. I don't remember that.

I told her she is a piece of sh!t and she can get the f/ck out before telling me what to do. Imagine that, I finally get an off day tomorrow and not work my ass off to pay for the house she enjoys, and she thinks she is the boss. My ass she is the boss.

Isn't married life grand? I am waiting for her to go to bed so I can commence drinking since I am off tomorrow. Actually why am I even supplicating at all? Because she is acting very psycho tonight.

I am the boss. I am not supplicating to anybody. She can get the f/ck out before she tells me what to do in my own f/cking house.

Am I wrong?

 

[backbreaker]

if you did swear off drinking then called your wife a peice of **** for trying to hold you accountable yeah that's pretty bush league ****. but i wasn't there.

 

[Married Buried]

if you did swear off drinking then called your wife a peice of **** for trying to hold you accountable yeah that's pretty bush league ****. but i wasn't there.

I told her I am going to quit drinking during the week. And that's what I did. I have REALLY cut back. But are you telling me I can't even relax on my ONE day off with a few drinks, without her getting in my face? Especially because I am working my ass off all this weekend and she is going to the beach with her friends.

I am not some over possesive jerk who won't let her go out. I encourage it. And I get this treatment? It's BS man.

 

[backbreaker]

that's not what you said in the original thread you said that you made a promise to quit drinking and now you are saying you made a promise to quit drinking in the week.

you are chaning your story. i don't give a **** what your story is, i really don't but that's 2 totally different things.

if you are a plastered face drunk, which i suspect at one time you were lol, i don't know why cutting back to weekends only would make any sense i dont' think your wife would ever want to deal with that guy, weekend or weekday. lol yeah babe i'm just going to get **** faced, belligerent and depressed on weekends lol. so if i were a betting man, you said the former in an effort to probably get her off your back.
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i'm not saying you are int he wrong id on't know what was and what was not said but i can't co sign your actions. i don't think your wife's intent is to just be a prick or anything.

just my .02. my wife would never do any **** like that today but more importantly i won't ever put my wife in a position to have to do any **** like that today.

 

[Married Buried]

that's not what you said in the original thread you said that you made a promise to quit drinking and now you are saying you made a promise to quit drinking in the week.

you are chaning your story. i don't give a **** what your story is, i really don't but that's 2 totally different things.

if you are a plastered face drunk, which i suspect at one time you were lol, i don't know why cutting back to weekends only would make any sense i dont' think your wife would ever want to deal with that guy, weekend or weekday. lol yeah babe i'm just going to get **** faced, belligerent and depressed on weekends lol. so if i were a betting man, you said the former in an effort to probably get her off your back.
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i'm not saying you are int he wrong id on't know what was and what was not said but i can't co sign your actions. i don't think your wife's intent is to just be a prick or anything.

just my .02. my wife would never do any **** like that today but more importantly i won't ever put my wife in a position to have to do any **** like that today.

This is some bullsh!t and I will tell you why.

By the way, she knows I post here and she knows my username, and she will be reading this. She stalks all the forums I post at. That's what happens when you share computers with a woman.

I am a very busy man. I have to make money to support the nice house we live in. I need to relax sometimes. I know you can understand this backbreaker.

I like to smoke weed. She found out and got crazy about it. I quit smoking weed for her.

I like to drink, it helps me relax from the stresses in life, I promised to quit drinking for her.

I have ADD so I went to a shrink. She gave me 2 medication. Adderall and Buproprion. It helps me so much, I am like a machine at work. I am solving problems other guys can't solve who have done the job 5 years longer than me.

She doesn't like that either.

WTF am I supposed to do? She doesn't like anything. Get the f/ck out then.

That's all I can say.

 

[BeDJ]

I quit smoking for my ex.
I quit drinking for my ex.
I quit drugs for my ex.

I am no longer with my ex.

I started drinking again.
I started smoking again.
I started doing drugs again.

Yesterday I realize that it's not worth it.
Today I realize it will never be worth it.
Tomorrow, I will overcome it.

I've fvcked up many times. I've realized it. I don't want to fvck up again. I hope you can stop drinking as much as I want to...Malice, for you to be deep into this habit seriously gives me hope to drop it altogether. No offense, but you gave me much inspiration to stop drinking.......starting tomorrow. I hope everything works out for you. I would hate to see another DJ no longer with us.

 

[cordoncordon]

MyNameIsNobody unless you were an alcoholic before and swore to her you would never drink again, then yes you should be able to come home and have a drink or 5 if you want to. Now like I said if drinking has been an issue in the past, or has been becoming one again, then she has a right to be upset. But it sounds like you have had it under control for the most part, so her getting in a tizzy like this over a drink is probably just the tip of the iceburg and she is really upset about something you don't even know about. She is just using this incident to show her anger. Could have been anything that set her off really.


Sounds like your dream marriage isn't so dreamy anymore.

 

[Married Buried]

I quit smoking for my ex.
I quit drinking for my ex.
I quit drugs for my ex.

I am no longer with my ex.

I started drinking again.
I started smoking again.
I started doing drugs again.

Yesterday I realize that it's not worth it.
Today I realize it will never be worth it.
Tomorrow, I will overcome it.

I've fvcked up many times. I've realized it. I don't want to fvck up again. I hope you can stop drinking as much as I want to...Malice, for you to be deep into this habit seriously gives me hope to drop it altogether. No offense, but you gave me much inspiration to stop drinking.......starting tomorrow. I hope everything works out for you. I would hate to see another DJ no longer with us.

The thing is I don't drink that much anymore. The only reason I bought the big bottle of Vodka is because she is going to the beach tomorrow with her friends.

I wish I could go to the beach but I have to stay here and go to my job to make the money. Who else is going to do that?

So I tell my wife to go the beach and have fun, I will stay here and work.

Then I get grief because I brought home a bottle of vodka to keep me company while my wife is out having fun at the beach.

She should be thanking me for being an understanding husband who lets her go out without me. F/UCK this noise I am hearing.

 

[Married Buried]

MyNameIsNobody unless you were an alcoholic before and swore to her you would never drink again, then yes you should be able to come home and have a drink or 5 if you want to. Now like I said if drinking has been an issue in the past, or has been becoming one again, then she has a right to be upset. But it sounds like you have had it under control for the most part, so her getting in a tizzy like this over a drink is probably just the tip of the iceburg and she is really upset about something you don't even know about. She is just using this incident to show her anger. Could have been anything that set her off really.


Sounds like your dream marriage isn't so dreamy anymore.

Fine, I have 10 women a day smiling at me wishing I will talk to them. If the marriage isn't what she wants she should just tell me.

 

[Married Buried]

MyNameIsNobody unless you were an alcoholic before and swore to her you would never drink again, then yes you should be able to come home and have a drink or 5 if you want to. Now like I said if drinking has been an issue in the past, or has been becoming one again, then she has a right to be upset. But it sounds like you have had it under control for the most part, so her getting in a tizzy like this over a drink is probably just the tip of the iceburg and she is really upset about something you don't even know about. She is just using this incident to show her anger. Could have been anything that set her off really.


Sounds like your dream marriage isn't so dreamy anymore.

I already explained what else she is mad about.

First of all she is racist. She thinks all white men are psychos.

Then she thinks I take too many pills. I just take about 8 supplements a day. She is uneducated on that.

She hates the fact I take pills the doctor gives me but they improve my life.

I also order viagra from the internet and take those when we f/ck

She is too paranoid for me man.

 

[cordoncordon]

I already explained what else she is mad about.

First of all she is racist. She thinks all white men are psychos.

Then she thinks I take too many pills. I just take about 8 supplements a day. She is uneducated on that.

She hates the fact I take pills the doctor gives me but they improve my life.

I also order viagra from the internet and take those when we f/ck

She is too paranoid for me man.

Isn't she Latina or something like that? They are known for being hot tempered. I know I doubt if I could marry one.

 

[Married Buried]

Isn't she Latina or something like that? They are known for being hot tempered. I know I doubt if I could marry one.

Yes she is. But I am a jerk husband, no doubt about it. I should be thankful I have such a sweet beautiful woman. But I don't treat it that way and I act like a jerk all the time. I am sure this is contributing to the problem. I just hate acting all romantic and nice.

 

[zekko]

You're the same gentleman who was posting about your wife yelling at you when she found your weed. I'm sensing a pattern here.

I don't think your wife has the right to yell at you over what you want to do. I'm getting a feeling you may actually have a problem though (although I don't know you so I can't say for sure). In that case, I don't think it would be out of line for her to express her disappointment, although until you want to change yourself, it probably isn't going to do any good.

Maybe Backbreaker would have a different take on it, since he has experience with NA/AA. There is such a thing as enabling.

But maybe you don't have a problem and she is just a meddling shrew who wants to stick her nose in your business to mess up your fun. In any case, I don't think it's a healthy sign for the relationship that you have to go behind her back to do this stuff.

I just hate acting all romantic and nice.

I don't think it's necessary to be all "romantic and nice", but you shouldn't be buying into her negative energy and letting it upset you. You're letting her goad you into arguing with her. I know from personal experience though, that this is easier said than done.

 

[backbreaker]

zekko,

there is a lot i would like to say as you stated being in NA and all but im not going to say because i don't want to be judgmental and i wasn't there.

 

[Die Hard]

By the way, she knows I post here and she knows my username, and she will be reading this. She stalks all the forums I post at. That's what happens when you share computers with a woman.

So now your wife can read anything I say on here? That's fvcked up, man... You violated the bro code by leading her here!!

 

[backbreaker]

see

I Mean, i know a lot of guys who have gotten bent over in the courts. but in reality, the real world, this is how a lot of divorces happen right here. this right here. this right here is a close template to divorces.

the man either promises a woman things will be one way and they aren't or he stops being the man he once was for whatever the reason may be. maybe he used to be into health and now he's a got a beer gut and sits in front of the couch all day. maybe he was once a hard partyer and she thought he would grow out of his drinking on weekends but it went the other way and got worse as he got older.

then the wife either starts looking around or flat out leaves and a lot of men just point and moan and it gets no one anywhere.

malice, dont' take this the wrong way buddy, and i mean this from the bottom of my heart, but bro you got to own your ****. sstop playing the fvckign victim card. stop playing the woe is my life card. stop playing the if you had my wife you'd drink too card. own your ****. own your side of the street.

I don't know your wife. I'm quite sure she isn't perfect and i would even be willing to bet that she has some part to play in this issue and she is some what at fault as well but i'm not worried about her. i'm worried about you, and the only thing you can control is your actions and how you behave yourself and right now you aren't acting like a head of a household you are acting like a spoiled child who is throwing a temper tantrum because everyone around him isnt' doing exactly what they want him to do.

you know, i'm not even saying give up drinking. I'm not one of those guys. **** i can drink if i wanted to i just don't. but why dont' you go to yoru wife in a civilized manner and talk to her and ask her point blank what are the issues that you have with my drinking on the weekend? tell her how you feel and see how she acts and ****, she might have a point lol. you never know. she might feel a certain way about your drinking. you ever sit down to think that the only reason that she pitches a ***** about you drinking is that she loves you and doesn't' want you to do too much harm for yourself? What if your wife sat you down and started crying and said i hate what you are doing to yourself and you are better than this, i want use to be happy without drinking and drugs all the time? how can you get mad at her for saying that she loves a sober malice? how would you feel if you called her a peice of **** because of that? i would feel like a piece of **** personally.

i can never get mad at my wife for anything she does out of LOVE. I might not agree with it but i can never get mad at her because of it. My wife has a bad habit of getting snarky with me when other cute women are around and i talk to them. she doesn't like me flirting with other women. she's jealous. she wants my attention and she doesn't want me to give it to anyone else i can't get mad at her for that if she's my wife.



start owning your ****. that's what this forum is for not to ***** and moan. be a man, be a husband be a head of a house. run your ****. respect your wife for loving you and clean yourself up

 

[WTID]

The thing is I don't drink that much anymore. The only reason I bought the big bottle of Vodka is because she is going to the beach tomorrow with her friends.

I wish I could go to the beach but I have to stay here and go to my job to make the money. Who else is going to do that?

So I tell my wife to go the beach and have fun, I will stay here and work.

Then I get grief because I brought home a bottle of vodka to keep me company while my wife is out having fun at the beach.

She should be thanking me for being an understanding husband who lets her go out without me. F/UCK this noise I am hearing.

My guess is that you resent her going to the beach while you work, does she not work, your bound to feel resentment if. You work long hours and she doesnt, I should know that's what happened in my marriage, find the root of your resentment and her resentment.

 

[like2jam]

I don't know how bad your drinking problem was before, but unless it was really bad and you're a horrible drunk, I don't see why she should be mad that you brought home a bottle of vodka for the weekend.

I will, on occasion, bring home a bottle of scotch, and sometimes I will drink a couple of beers in a night. Other times I won't have any. If you're only doing this on the weekend, then I don't see the problem.

Some people have great brain chemistry and others do not. The people who have perfect brain chemistry don't quite understand the relief you get from even one drink sometimes. I also take supplements and I used to take some RX stuff. While I was doing that, my focus was awesome and I got a lot done and I didn't really want to drink much at all. But I hated those particular meds and I opted to come off of em. I feel mostly great, but my concentration definitely suffers. Not sure what the solution for me is yet, to get my focus back.

Anyway, yeah, if I were in your shoes, I'd be feeling a bit upset. I can relate. But again, are you a horrible, mean, ugly drunk? I can drink some and I don't change much.

 

[Married Buried]

I don't understand the need of people to get high and drunk all of the time. I seriously don't.

I quit weed when I was 21 and never looked back. Sometimes you have to grow up. I drink maybe once a week and that's 3-4 beers, at most. Usually just 2.

How do people become so dependent on this stuff? Straighten up your one life and stop finding reasons to run away from it.

I don't do it all the time. I have really cut down and quit the weed.

I was self medicating. I needed meds for my ADD I have been suffering with my entire life. I finally got on the right meds and don't feel the need for the weed and drinking. BUt I still like to have a few on the weekend. I'll be damned if I'll be bossed around like a b!tch about not drinking at ALL.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

zekko,

there is a lot i would like to say as you stated being in NA and all but im not going to say because i don't want to be judgmental and i wasn't there.

I don't get it. You give advice about everything else. You're not judging if you're trying to help someone with their problems.