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Don Juan
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Ok, I'm not really new to sosuave, I had to re-register because my fiancee found out about my old account. Anyway, the situation I'm about to describe is quite interesting, and I wonder what some of the older DJs have to say.
I've been involved with my fiancee for the past two years. She's 20yo, an 8 in looks, English major and a very sweet girl EXCEPT that her family really hates my guts. They tend to ignore my existence most of the time, but judging on the few things they said about me and our relationship, it seems to me that when the time comes for the two of us to get married, they will probably make her choose between them and me. She is tied to her father the most, so it's going to be that old geezer or me. We had a rough time traveling anywhere on our own since she still lives with her folks and they're not letting her go anywhere without them; she even has a curfew - she has to be back home until 10:30PM.
So basically, for the past two years I haven't left my hometown, since I was kinda stupid and didn't want to travel without her. I finally cracked during New Year's, she had to leave around 1:30 because "her poor father was home alone".. I didn't want to put her into position where she'd have to choose, because I knew that if I had made her stay with me, she would sulk for the rest of the evening. I was recently looking into purchasing a chopper, and she freaked out.. And the main reason she freaked out wasn't b/c she was worried about my safety but because she's starting to behave like this major control freak and that's starting to get on my nerves. Now, if you're asking why I'm putting up with all this, well, sex is really, really good and she's been there for me on numerous occasions, through thick and thin.
Here's where it gets interesting: one day we went out with a friend of ours and he asked if he could invite a friend of his that studies abroad. We said that was cool, and she turns out to be the most interesting woman I have met in this city (an 8, slightly slimmer than my fiancee, American Studies major, VERY intelligent). Turns out there's been about ten different occasions where we talked to each other and stuff, but she was in a five-year long relationship that ended with her fiance cheating on her while she was abroad studying. Another friend joined us and we talked; and my fiancee suddenly left because her father was calling her. I noticed that she felt excluded from the conversation and later that day she told me that she felt put down by our new friend (lets call her Mandy), and how I wasn't paying attention and the two of us hit it right off and had our own little world of shared interests and conversation and yada yada yada. I didn't really pay that much attention to it until both our friends said a somewhat similar thing, minus the whole humiliation part.
So a couple of days passed and Mandy added me as a friend on Facebook and left a comment. I commented back, and it went on for just a couple of comments. Meanwhile, my fiancee started this whole "Mandy watch" with her girlfriends and it turned into a veritable hate. There were some snide remarks about Mandy and me between my fiancee's friends, and some of them even related to it and it was a total crisis. Meanwhile, a couple of my friends started commenting that I'll certainly cheat on my fiancee with Mandy.
All things considered, I decided I should go out with Mandy and see what's her story. We went out for coffee, and I felt a lot of understanding and connection previously unfamiliar to me. She hit the nerve by saying "my mother would love you", which you can probably understand. So a few days passed and she was about to leave for school again and she wanted to see me on her last night in town. We went out again (this was some serious James Bond stuff guys) and had another of those stimulating conversations. Nothing ensued because I figured that she sensed that I wasn't a ONS kinda guy, and genuinely admired the fact that I didn't ignore my fiancee's existence while I was truly interested in her intellect. She sent me a message before she left saying "Thanks for making my last day at home so much better".
Now, she met me only four days after her big break-up, and I think that even though she must've felt like crap about it, she was holding up well and didn't fall under the "**** 10 guys to get over him" temptation. So, she left the city until May. Two days later, I found out that my fiancee knew all my usernames and passwords for all of my e-mails, IMs and Facebook. I used the only address that she doesn't know of to e-mail Mandy and let her know that she might get a message from her impersonating me, and that she should only reply to this particular address. We have been corresponding ever since, and it's a very frank and open communication. She openly admitted that she was attracted to me, and that she finds this level of understanding between the two of us very sexy and appealing, not to mention that we share the same interest for adventure. Meanwhile, my fiancee turned into Spanish inquisition, constantly calling me, checking on me and generally freaking me out.
I obviously have two options: break up the engagements, and go for Mandy OR stick with my current g/f. I kind of like the fact that she's jealous because that means she cares, but sometimes it overwhelming. On the other hand, Mandy said something about not being able to be completely frank because of my current situation so I'm quite sure that means "I fell for you but I'm afraid you're going to hurt me eventually" in womenese.
Currently I'm opting for staying with my fiancee (sex is good as I mentioned) until Mandy returns and make my decision then, but I'm not sure of how to do it properly. If it comes to breaking down the engagements, I'd like her to be the one to break them off while I get to keep my reputation so cheating on her and then letting her know about it won't do it. Besides, I don't want Mandy to think I'm the same piece of crap like her ex-fiance. What would you guys do in my position?
I've been involved with my fiancee for the past two years. She's 20yo, an 8 in looks, English major and a very sweet girl EXCEPT that her family really hates my guts. They tend to ignore my existence most of the time, but judging on the few things they said about me and our relationship, it seems to me that when the time comes for the two of us to get married, they will probably make her choose between them and me. She is tied to her father the most, so it's going to be that old geezer or me. We had a rough time traveling anywhere on our own since she still lives with her folks and they're not letting her go anywhere without them; she even has a curfew - she has to be back home until 10:30PM.
So basically, for the past two years I haven't left my hometown, since I was kinda stupid and didn't want to travel without her. I finally cracked during New Year's, she had to leave around 1:30 because "her poor father was home alone".. I didn't want to put her into position where she'd have to choose, because I knew that if I had made her stay with me, she would sulk for the rest of the evening. I was recently looking into purchasing a chopper, and she freaked out.. And the main reason she freaked out wasn't b/c she was worried about my safety but because she's starting to behave like this major control freak and that's starting to get on my nerves. Now, if you're asking why I'm putting up with all this, well, sex is really, really good and she's been there for me on numerous occasions, through thick and thin.
Here's where it gets interesting: one day we went out with a friend of ours and he asked if he could invite a friend of his that studies abroad. We said that was cool, and she turns out to be the most interesting woman I have met in this city (an 8, slightly slimmer than my fiancee, American Studies major, VERY intelligent). Turns out there's been about ten different occasions where we talked to each other and stuff, but she was in a five-year long relationship that ended with her fiance cheating on her while she was abroad studying. Another friend joined us and we talked; and my fiancee suddenly left because her father was calling her. I noticed that she felt excluded from the conversation and later that day she told me that she felt put down by our new friend (lets call her Mandy), and how I wasn't paying attention and the two of us hit it right off and had our own little world of shared interests and conversation and yada yada yada. I didn't really pay that much attention to it until both our friends said a somewhat similar thing, minus the whole humiliation part.
So a couple of days passed and Mandy added me as a friend on Facebook and left a comment. I commented back, and it went on for just a couple of comments. Meanwhile, my fiancee started this whole "Mandy watch" with her girlfriends and it turned into a veritable hate. There were some snide remarks about Mandy and me between my fiancee's friends, and some of them even related to it and it was a total crisis. Meanwhile, a couple of my friends started commenting that I'll certainly cheat on my fiancee with Mandy.
All things considered, I decided I should go out with Mandy and see what's her story. We went out for coffee, and I felt a lot of understanding and connection previously unfamiliar to me. She hit the nerve by saying "my mother would love you", which you can probably understand. So a few days passed and she was about to leave for school again and she wanted to see me on her last night in town. We went out again (this was some serious James Bond stuff guys) and had another of those stimulating conversations. Nothing ensued because I figured that she sensed that I wasn't a ONS kinda guy, and genuinely admired the fact that I didn't ignore my fiancee's existence while I was truly interested in her intellect. She sent me a message before she left saying "Thanks for making my last day at home so much better".
Now, she met me only four days after her big break-up, and I think that even though she must've felt like crap about it, she was holding up well and didn't fall under the "**** 10 guys to get over him" temptation. So, she left the city until May. Two days later, I found out that my fiancee knew all my usernames and passwords for all of my e-mails, IMs and Facebook. I used the only address that she doesn't know of to e-mail Mandy and let her know that she might get a message from her impersonating me, and that she should only reply to this particular address. We have been corresponding ever since, and it's a very frank and open communication. She openly admitted that she was attracted to me, and that she finds this level of understanding between the two of us very sexy and appealing, not to mention that we share the same interest for adventure. Meanwhile, my fiancee turned into Spanish inquisition, constantly calling me, checking on me and generally freaking me out.
I obviously have two options: break up the engagements, and go for Mandy OR stick with my current g/f. I kind of like the fact that she's jealous because that means she cares, but sometimes it overwhelming. On the other hand, Mandy said something about not being able to be completely frank because of my current situation so I'm quite sure that means "I fell for you but I'm afraid you're going to hurt me eventually" in womenese.
Currently I'm opting for staying with my fiancee (sex is good as I mentioned) until Mandy returns and make my decision then, but I'm not sure of how to do it properly. If it comes to breaking down the engagements, I'd like her to be the one to break them off while I get to keep my reputation so cheating on her and then letting her know about it won't do it. Besides, I don't want Mandy to think I'm the same piece of crap like her ex-fiance. What would you guys do in my position?
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