Tips for adult male virgins by coach Nick Notas

[bat soup]

Blame that other dude for starting an argument, I just wanted to have a discussion on issues facing adult aged men with no experience.

Haha, I’m not a virgin as I already said before but my body count is very low and I’ve never been in a relationship. For the longest time, I’ve assumed that this will be very off putting to most women.

I don't know why you'd ever feel the need to tell them.

 

[NealIRC]

I don't know why you'd ever feel the need to tell them.

To test them.

 

[bat soup]

To test them.

Why not test their puzzy first?

 

[NealIRC]

Why not test their puzzy first?

That is.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

The girl who took my V-card was very experienced. I had some experience. I had had a GF. But we only made out, Tittie time & dry humped. I got a couple of BJs (not from her). But no PIV. When I actually got to do the deed. It was as natural as breathing. As if it is hardwired into us. I even fingered her, which I’d never done, and she loved it. She had no idea she took my V-card.

 

[NealIRC]

She had no idea she took my V-card.

Did you ever tell her she did?

 

[zekko]

I keep telling myself that no one is going to want to be a 30 year old guy’s first girlfriend and I’ve now missed the boat.

It must be a big, very difficult mental block to overcome. I can only imagine.
I agree with some others that there is no reason to tell anyone about it. Fake it till you make it, as they say. I always used to say that you could always blame any poor performance on being drunk
I definitely wish you the best.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Did you ever tell her she did?

no.
We dated for a while afterwards. I dont think she knew.

 

[corrector]

no.
We dated for a while afterwards. I dont think she knew.

Will you track her down and tell her?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Will you track her down and tell her?

of course not.

 

[NealIRC]

of course not.

Do you think if she found out you were a virgin, she would regret taking it?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Do you think if she found out you were a virgin, she would regret taking it?

We made out & I fingered her & sucked her titties for a half hour. She kept shouting: ‘Don’t stop!!! You better not stop!!!’. Finally she said: ‘put it in me. I want to cvm on your covk’. She came right away & I did about 15 seconds later. Afterwords. If you’ve seen The scene in Gone With the Wind. Where Scarlet is singing and dancing around the room
after Rhett plows her. That was what this girl
did.
I think she’d laugh and not believe it.

 

[needimprovement250]

Odds mean nothing to someone who got lucky. You dont try then you cant win and the odds are zero by default.

That’s true and while I am in agreement with guys who say that you shouldn’t level up your physique and get jacked solely for women, I do think that getting jacked and becoming chad/chadlite tier in terms of physique can cancel out a lot of the loss of interest and negative feelings that women might have towards inexperienced men. I’ve even had incels tell me that women don’t care that much if a man doesn’t have experience if he’s a chad tier in looks. Who knows, several women might find that exciting to deflower an inexperienced chad/chadlite.

But again, that should not be the reason to get jacked because it can be so easy to lose the motivation to continue on with your fitness goals if that’s your motivating factor. You have to do it because you want it for yourself.

 

[needimprovement250]

I am in the 55% that does.

I am in the 20% that gets

I am in 5 % that will

I have no dog in this fight bruh. I typed that oit to help your soft azz grow some skin, this is how we talk amongst ourselves where I'm from. And its oke. Nobody will ever be harder on me than I am on myself.

I'll be 1/10 th as toxic as the next woman ,you'll finally get. As useal, everyone is saying that you are a *****, I'm just bringing it the hardest so you get back at specifically me..you better stfu , sit back, follow my advice and make the progress you're crying about and look for so desperately...

You expect sympathy? Go to reddit !

But keep crying me that river.

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I see that you still came crawling back to be smacked down again after you already said that you were done with me Apologies for the late reply, I’ve been working 13 hour days over the weekend and just now had the time to reply to your salty comments. You are likely in the low percentage in all of those categories if you’re still trying to flex like that. The advice you gave me is stuff I’m already doing, so all you did was waste your own time by typing that out. Enjoy your popcorn, its still less salty than you

 

[needimprovement250]

I don't know why you'd ever feel the need to tell them.

Well I wouldn’t tell them, my concern stems from them bringing up the topic of past relationships and dating history in a conversation and me not being able to make it through that without the truth that I have so little experience at 30 being revealed, then she loses all interest in me.

 

[needimprovement250]

It must be a big, very difficult mental block to overcome. I can only imagine.
I agree with some others that there is no reason to tell anyone about it. Fake it till you make it, as they say. I always used to say that you could always blame any poor performance on being drunk
I definitely wish you the best.

Thanks man. Yeah it definitely is a very difficult mental block to overcome. I definitely wouldn’t tell anyone about it, when you’re 18-early 20’s you probably can tell people about it and that probably wouldn’t be too bad. But once you’re in your 30’s, people will be thinking wtf is wrong with this guy? Like I already said, my biggest fear is being outed if the topic of past relationships and dating history comes up in a conversation.

 

[needimprovement250]

The girl who took my V-card was very experienced. I had some experience. I had had a GF. But we only made out, Tittie time & dry humped. I got a couple of BJs (not from her). But no PIV. When I actually got to do the deed. It was as natural as breathing. As if it is hardwired into us. I even fingered her, which I’d never done, and she loved it. She had no idea she took my V-card.

Yeah it came naturally to me too when I lost my v card at 21. The mental block that I have is the main issue since I’m assuming that I’m guaranteed to face widespread rejection now just because I’m inexperienced at an older age.

 

[zekko]

Like I already said, my biggest fear is being outed if the topic of past relationships and dating history comes up in a conversation.

The fortunate thing here is that it is generally considered bad taste to discuss former partners with a current date/girlfriend/whatever. So you could always just say you were brought up that it was impolite to talk about former lovers. Another way to put it: Gentlemen never kiss and tell.

 

[Gamisch]

I see that you still came crawling back to be smacked down again after you already said that you were done with me Apologies for the late reply, I’ve been working 13 hour days over the weekend and just now had the time to reply to your salty comments. You are likely in the low percentage in all of those categories if you’re still trying to flex like that. The advice you gave me is stuff I’m already doing, so all you did was waste your own time by typing that out. Enjoy your popcorn, its still less salty than you

Gotta give credit where its due, that last line was FIRE lol Use that creative energy to man up in front of women .

I am sorry man ,I work way too hard to be in the lower percentage of those categories. If you are smart you join the Winner club.

Re read everything, man up and you'll see I never had ill will towards you.

Hope you manage to put it all together and ,again , become a member of the Winners Club. Women are a byproduct, homie

 

[needimprovement250]

The fortunate thing here is that it is generally considered bad taste to discuss former partners with a current date/girlfriend/whatever. So you could always just say you were brought up that it was impolite to talk about former lovers. Another way to put it: Gentlemen never kiss and tell.

Yeah that’s what Nick Notas and others have said, just say that you don’t think much good would come from bringing up the past and that we should focus on each other in the present. Another coach that I’ve thought of hiring said that if she doesn’t accept an answer like that and insists on talking about it, assert a boundary and say that personally I don’t feel like we’re at that point of talking about each other’s pasts yet, but we can have that conversation if we keep seeing each other and things get more serious between us. Because by that point, she’ll probably have a fully formed opinion of you and knows that you have what she wants in a partner, so she’s less likely to be deterred by finding out that you had no experience before her.

Another thing that Nick mentioned in a different piece of content that he did for inexperienced guys is that a girl might sleep with you before she ever asks about past relationships or dating history and after that, who cares if she rejects you for no experience because you still walk away with more experience than you had before you met her. He also said that some might not even bring it up because they know that means that they’ll have to reveal their own past and body count. Which is are all good points