Time to settle down?

[GearsGod310]

Don't expect her to come up with a solution to your problems. You need to find a way to resolve this, and then share it with her (if you wanna stay with her). It will be then up to her follow up with it or not.


I have yet to meet a girl who checks only one of these boxes for me. She sounds like a keeper.

Also try to play with her emotions a bit, plan something fun with her once in awhile.

From your past threads it seems that she also have some issues from the past. Encourage (or maybe force) her to see a (non-woke) therapist.

understood!
I appreciate you really looking deeper into it brother it means a lot!
Yes She probably does need to see a therapist because of her past. Its tough man.

 

[eli77]

My girlfriend of 2 years and I just broke up 2 days ago.
Just so happen that a friend of mine hit me up this weekend and we went to a club yesterday.

The club was in riverside. I don‘t know if it was just that specific club.
But damn there were some trash as chicks in there man. Drunk af, dirty, almost naked. Yea there was like one or two really hot ones but the majority I would even have a hard time fkin..
I’m 29 so I already feel like i’m too old to be in the nightclubs. Honestly this made me think like damn .. my relationship had a lot of problems, but she had a good job and supported me and I prefer that over these stanky as hooes and wasting my damn time, talking, dating, and all that other sh1t That comes with it.

anyone think like this? who has settled down in their early or late 30s?

What state?

 

[LucianoM]

You said she supported you so you're a brokie so yes just settle down and call it a day. Pulling dimes in your 30s requires you to be elite.

 

[Murk]

Isn't that the typical unicorn?

I believe people in the manosphere throw around terms like "unicorn" because they are too ugly or deficient to land 9s/10s.

Call it what you want I'm going to get one, I've done it before (she was a bit of a hoe tho) at least a 9 facially who goes to the gym, under 25 years old, with half decent personality and low body count. There are billions of women on this planet someone like that is only a unicorn to subpar men.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

I believe people in the manosphere throw around terms like "unicorn" because they are too ugly or deficient to land 9s/10s.

Call it what you want I'm going to get one, I've done it before (she was a bit of a hoe tho) at least a 9 facially who goes to the gym, under 25 years old, with half decent personality and low body count. There are billions of women on this planet someone like that is only a unicorn to subpar men.

Good luck bro!

 

[pipeman84]

I was 34 when my LTR of 4+years broke up with me. I felt bad for some time but it was a f0cking gift from the heavens because I traded up in every way I can think of. I hope this will be your case too.

May I ask why you stayed 4+ years in a sub-optimal relationship? And it sounds like you'd still be in it if she didn't break it up.

 

[Dr.Suave]

May I ask why you stayed 4+ years in a sub-optimal relationship? And it sounds like you'd still be in it if she didn't break it up.

It was a combination of things. One of them was that after the relationship started, I started losing my hair and that really did a number on my self esteem. I thought that without my hair I was not gonna be able to pull someone better. I have never been more glad to have proven myself wrong.

But I learned from my mistakes. I started dating again but I wasnt going to rush into giving exclusivity, After 4+ years off the market I was gonna enjoy the single life. I set this boundary/standard for myself: No exclusivity unless I like her more than all of my exes. If that meant I was never gonna marry or have kids then so be it.

So I was dating and some girls wanted to lock me down, but nah. I liked them, but I didnt like them enough. So I waited. I was patient.

In total, I was single for about 6 months before I met a girl who checked all my boxes. To this day I keep thinking to myself "D@mn, if I had not set that boundary/standard for myself, I would have never met my current girl".

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

In total, I was single for about 6 months before I met a girl who checked all my boxes. To this day I keep thinking to myself "D@mn, if I had not set that boundary/standard for myself, I would have never met my current girl".

May I ask how long after the break up you started dating and how many girls you dated in the span of 6 months to find your current LTR?

 

[Dr.Suave]

May I ask how long after the break up you started dating and how many girls you dated in the span of 6 months to find your current LTR?

After the break up I was in a bad place for about three days and that was that. I moved on and started swiping. I dated more than 10 girls.

 

[pipeman84]

After the break up I was in a bad place for about three days and that was that. I moved on and started swiping. I dated more than 10 girls.

You found your fiancee on a swipe app?

 

[Dr.Suave]

You found your fiancee on a swipe app?

Against all odds, yes. I have mentioned this before but she never had a bf before me. I met similar girls in swipe apps but the other girls did not pass the boner test. I thought of my girl as a needle in a haystack.

 

[pipeman84]

Against all odds, yes. I have mentioned this before but she never had a bf before me. I met similar girls in swipe apps but the other girls did not pass the boner test. I thought of my girl as a needle in a haystack.

How soon did you notice there's something different about her compared to the usual girls one finds on swipe apps?

 

[SW15]

You said she supported you so you're a brokie so yes just settle down and call it a day. Pulling dimes in your 30s requires you to be elite.

Even pulling younger 7-8s in your 30s requires some elite elements.

 

[GearsGod310]

You said she supported you so you're a brokie so yes just settle down and call it a day. Pulling dimes in your 30s requires you to be elite.

tf is a Brokie? Did you finally confess you’re love to that 15 year old you were talking about?

 

[Dr.Suave]

How soon did you notice there's something different about her compared to the usual girls one finds on swipe apps?

I always had a good feeling about her. She also gave me a sense of peace. At the time I thought I was just Imagining stuff and didnt think much of it.

After going out a few times I found out that she had never had a boyfriend. That was either a Red Flad or a Huge Green Flag. That was more than a year ago, still feels like a green flag. 0 fights and she has a higher sex drive than me so she´s always in the mood.

 

[Murk]

I always had a good feeling about her. She also gave me a sense of peace. At the time I thought I was just Imagining stuff and didnt think much of it.

After going out a few times I found out that she had never had a boyfriend. That was either a Red Flad or a Huge Green Flag. That was more than a year ago, still feels like a green flag. 0 fights and she has a higher sex drive than me so she´s always in the mood.

You're living the dream, I hope it all goes well and you have many kids to tell us about in the coming years!