Solomon
Master Don Juan
Thyme said:
^^don't lose that mindset, that postive mindset is whats helping your game right now, it radiates through your aura and trust me women can pick it p, keep that postive mindset gong
Good shhit!!
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^^don't lose that mindset, that postive mindset is whats helping your game right now, it radiates through your aura and trust me women can pick it p, keep that postive mindset gong
Good shhit!!
alright so i have a very important update (atleast for me it is a big deal)
HB latina (and i honestly hate using that term for her because she is truly an amazing girl) invited me to sit and chill at a festival thing where there was music and dancing, it was very cool. i felt like we really connected, it was an amazing feeling. i have met a lot of girls (as you all know) so far at college and the only thing that they have done for me (untill now) is get my sex drive going. this one is different though; she is one of those types that you could actually have a relationship with that is fulfilling and meaningful.
there are a few roadblocks (arent there always?!) - two months ago she and her bf of 3 and 1/2 years broke up and it is a VERY touchy subject. i asked her about it (hoping to say something in return like, 'well now your in college - the past is done and the future is here, live your life!') ((side side note, i have tried this before a few times and it has never worked, so im going to stop unless any of you have field tested it and it actually worked)). she seemed very sad and hurt when she talked about her bf - who she described as her best friend - sounded to me like he was an afc (and she isnt really the type to care yet bcz she hasnt experienced a DJ) who turned ******* when he realized they were going to have to split up.
she is kinda hard to describe - she is one of the ugly ducklings turned gorgeous. shes a total geek very very smart and taking a ton of credits, but at the same time she likes to have fun.
im worried about myself boys, i think im getting a little too emotionally attached (especially since we've only been talking for a week and i dont even know if she is interested in a relationship). but its hard not to be - wow i feel like a kid again with his first love - its been a long time since ive felt like this... idk what to do haha. i guess im just going to be as chill as possible and let life take me wherever.
any comments would def be appreciated here, im curious to hear what others have to say
HB latina (and i honestly hate using that term for her because she is truly an amazing girl) invited me to sit and chill at a festival thing where there was music and dancing, it was very cool. i felt like we really connected, it was an amazing feeling. i have met a lot of girls (as you all know) so far at college and the only thing that they have done for me (untill now) is get my sex drive going. this one is different though; she is one of those types that you could actually have a relationship with that is fulfilling and meaningful.
there are a few roadblocks (arent there always?!) - two months ago she and her bf of 3 and 1/2 years broke up and it is a VERY touchy subject. i asked her about it (hoping to say something in return like, 'well now your in college - the past is done and the future is here, live your life!') ((side side note, i have tried this before a few times and it has never worked, so im going to stop unless any of you have field tested it and it actually worked)). she seemed very sad and hurt when she talked about her bf - who she described as her best friend - sounded to me like he was an afc (and she isnt really the type to care yet bcz she hasnt experienced a DJ) who turned ******* when he realized they were going to have to split up.
she is kinda hard to describe - she is one of the ugly ducklings turned gorgeous. shes a total geek very very smart and taking a ton of credits, but at the same time she likes to have fun.
im worried about myself boys, i think im getting a little too emotionally attached (especially since we've only been talking for a week and i dont even know if she is interested in a relationship). but its hard not to be - wow i feel like a kid again with his first love - its been a long time since ive felt like this... idk what to do haha. i guess im just going to be as chill as possible and let life take me wherever.
any comments would def be appreciated here, im curious to hear what others have to say
Solomon
Master Don Juan
That's all you can do, go with the flow, don't be afraid to experince life man.Thyme said:
Just go with the flow, it's been only a week, focus on getting to know her and not rushing anything
U doing well mate'
thanks for the advice man... im actually split between doing 2 things, but ill get to that later.
so heres an update - me and HB latina hung out tonight by her request (i just got back and its 4 in the morning my time, wow). we really didnt do anything sexual, but heres the gist of the night: started out at a music festival thing, no interest generated there. went back to her dorm, roommate gone, watched a movie but we were seperated and not at all 'snuggling' or whatever you want to call it. after we were kinda hyped up so i taught her the basics of salsa dancing to some great music (i have used this a lot and it works EVERY time haha - really allows me to be dominant and in control - that is what salsa is all about believe it or not). after that we sat back on the sofa and i gave her my relaxation back rub thing (heaviest form of kino possible - very effective - also gives an excuse to start taking top layer clothes off. now, at this point she says to me (and out of NOWHERE, but she made a few of these comments throughout the night and i had no clue what to say to them bcz they were so random and she wasnt looking for a reply at all, almost like she was talking to herself - kinda odd but whatev) "im only taking the top layer off... atleast today" aka she will be taking everything off in the future. honestly i was hoping she would be making some moves but when she says stuff like that she very nearly disqualifies her from being 'relationshipable' in my eyes. thats alright though, it means that i may have had her pegged wrong i still have to hang out with her a bit more. anyways after that we are basically spooning on the sofa and she is on top of me. we dont kiss or anything - i really dont think that she gave me an opportunity to (obviously i could have forced it but i dont have that kind of intuition yet). either way, she is into me and i am into her, just in a different way now. im glad though, because i was not feeling DJ today when i was with her. she still reacted positively to me but i have no clue why. this happens to me every time i start dating the really great girls - i am not in control or with the power. and i know that most people say 'oh it is you losing the power, not her naturally having it.' but i think it is a mix of both - great women are great and they know it, so they almost demand power and it is a natural thing for htem. the true DJ manages to not care at all about hte HB's want for power and instead treats her indifferently... im still working on this but i am definately getting better.
so i am very tired now and i will keep my two option paths short
1) option one is to pick something that for a date that is very easy to escalate and actually escalate to a makeout session at the very least. (it is absolutely true that its easier to start with sexual activity and then go to the relationship than the other way around. and i feel like i could definately blow this girls mind
or 2) pretty much the opposite of 1. i could take it slow and gauge whether or not she is actually worthy of an exclusive relationship (im thinking no right now). and try to be as dominant as possible because a lot of the interaction will be words.
ok im very tired so im heading off to bed
so heres an update - me and HB latina hung out tonight by her request (i just got back and its 4 in the morning my time, wow). we really didnt do anything sexual, but heres the gist of the night: started out at a music festival thing, no interest generated there. went back to her dorm, roommate gone, watched a movie but we were seperated and not at all 'snuggling' or whatever you want to call it. after we were kinda hyped up so i taught her the basics of salsa dancing to some great music (i have used this a lot and it works EVERY time haha - really allows me to be dominant and in control - that is what salsa is all about believe it or not). after that we sat back on the sofa and i gave her my relaxation back rub thing (heaviest form of kino possible - very effective - also gives an excuse to start taking top layer clothes off. now, at this point she says to me (and out of NOWHERE, but she made a few of these comments throughout the night and i had no clue what to say to them bcz they were so random and she wasnt looking for a reply at all, almost like she was talking to herself - kinda odd but whatev) "im only taking the top layer off... atleast today" aka she will be taking everything off in the future. honestly i was hoping she would be making some moves but when she says stuff like that she very nearly disqualifies her from being 'relationshipable' in my eyes. thats alright though, it means that i may have had her pegged wrong i still have to hang out with her a bit more. anyways after that we are basically spooning on the sofa and she is on top of me. we dont kiss or anything - i really dont think that she gave me an opportunity to (obviously i could have forced it but i dont have that kind of intuition yet). either way, she is into me and i am into her, just in a different way now. im glad though, because i was not feeling DJ today when i was with her. she still reacted positively to me but i have no clue why. this happens to me every time i start dating the really great girls - i am not in control or with the power. and i know that most people say 'oh it is you losing the power, not her naturally having it.' but i think it is a mix of both - great women are great and they know it, so they almost demand power and it is a natural thing for htem. the true DJ manages to not care at all about hte HB's want for power and instead treats her indifferently... im still working on this but i am definately getting better.
so i am very tired now and i will keep my two option paths short
1) option one is to pick something that for a date that is very easy to escalate and actually escalate to a makeout session at the very least. (it is absolutely true that its easier to start with sexual activity and then go to the relationship than the other way around. and i feel like i could definately blow this girls mind
or 2) pretty much the opposite of 1. i could take it slow and gauge whether or not she is actually worthy of an exclusive relationship (im thinking no right now). and try to be as dominant as possible because a lot of the interaction will be words.
ok im very tired so im heading off to bed
alright well i got a makeout tonight with HB shorty. but wow i found out a lot about her in the process and she is THE biggest AFC girl i have ever met. i had no idea that she was such a little girl its not even funny. had i not been drunk there is no way i would have even given her a chance. it was very sad unfortunately - she kept saying "im so lucky to have you" and **** like that even though i told her clear as day that i was only looking for fun for one night and i was not looking for a relationship. i didnt want to go any farther then the ****ty makeout bcz i knew it would fvck her up quite a bit.
well atleast im racking up the experience... thats about all i can positively say about tonight. unfortunately im going to have to call her tomorow and break her AFC heart by saying that i see her as a friend (yup im LJBF'ing a pretty decent looking chic, who would have guessed?!)
well atleast im racking up the experience... thats about all i can positively say about tonight. unfortunately im going to have to call her tomorow and break her AFC heart by saying that i see her as a friend (yup im LJBF'ing a pretty decent looking chic, who would have guessed?!)
been a while since ive been on here. idk. i have been very busy and ive been through a bit of a dry spell to be honest. every weekend i am pretty much in a situation that just tempts me and its been freaking cruel. a coupld of weeks ago, this girl was just flat out bad and even though she was good looking i knew that she would get very attached and she wasnt worth it so i said no. then last weekend this very cute girl was drinking a bit and was a buzzed (definately not drunk) and she was all over me (i had been gaming her all night and she was loving it), i had her very hot for me it was ridiculous. but she was a friend of mine and i was completely sober so i just said **** it. its actually funny bcz that girl is in my main 'fun party' group and of the 4 girls in the group, 2 of them now have gone after me.
i still feel like i just want a chill girl to have as a girlfriend. i feel like it just takes too much energy and caring to have to start up brand new every time. i would love to pick one who isnt that hot so i dont have to worry about her, like a cute HB7-8.
but yea, im going to start throwing myself out there a little bit more... i think i could use it.
i still feel like i just want a chill girl to have as a girlfriend. i feel like it just takes too much energy and caring to have to start up brand new every time. i would love to pick one who isnt that hot so i dont have to worry about her, like a cute HB7-8.
but yea, im going to start throwing myself out there a little bit more... i think i could use it.
yup so about one month later and i have definatley been throwing myself out there (though not that much to be honest) and ive got 3 solid plates spinning but i want to pick one and just settle down a bit. its a very hard choice though... i like all of them.
HB1 - friend of a friend. very fun and has a great personality. she is very flirty with everyone and i get the sense that she is trying to win me over (i havent reacted much to her, i think thats why she is still interested). but i dont think im giong to pick her bcz she is the flirty type that i would have to worry about and i dont need any more worrying in my life.
HB2 - i have been unoffially dating this girl for 2-3 weeks now and at first i was very very into this girl - borderline obsessed, not going to lie. she was really into me too. shes very cute and has a sweet personality. she is fun to be around but i have to intiate all the fun things - she is very indecisive (a turnoff for me i think). her friends have all been talking to me about being a good guy to her bcz i guess they found out about one of my flings from earlier in the year and they think im a hit and quit player. for this reason actually is why im going to make a choice on one of them soon, i dont want to lead this girl on and confirm her friends opinion of me.
HB 3 - i have been going to salsa dancing class with this girl for 2 months now. at first i think she kinda had a thing for me but i didnt even really consider her at first - she is cute for sure, but not really my ideal type. but the more ive been hanging out with her outside of salsa im finding that she is sooo much fun. we are a lot alike and she makes ME laugh. usually its the other way around with girls. honestly a week ago i was ready to make it official with HB2 and then i go out one night with HB 3 and now im leaning towards her.
im not going to lie its kinda got me stressed out... which is why im going to try and decide within the next week .
HB1 - friend of a friend. very fun and has a great personality. she is very flirty with everyone and i get the sense that she is trying to win me over (i havent reacted much to her, i think thats why she is still interested). but i dont think im giong to pick her bcz she is the flirty type that i would have to worry about and i dont need any more worrying in my life.
HB2 - i have been unoffially dating this girl for 2-3 weeks now and at first i was very very into this girl - borderline obsessed, not going to lie. she was really into me too. shes very cute and has a sweet personality. she is fun to be around but i have to intiate all the fun things - she is very indecisive (a turnoff for me i think). her friends have all been talking to me about being a good guy to her bcz i guess they found out about one of my flings from earlier in the year and they think im a hit and quit player. for this reason actually is why im going to make a choice on one of them soon, i dont want to lead this girl on and confirm her friends opinion of me.
HB 3 - i have been going to salsa dancing class with this girl for 2 months now. at first i think she kinda had a thing for me but i didnt even really consider her at first - she is cute for sure, but not really my ideal type. but the more ive been hanging out with her outside of salsa im finding that she is sooo much fun. we are a lot alike and she makes ME laugh. usually its the other way around with girls. honestly a week ago i was ready to make it official with HB2 and then i go out one night with HB 3 and now im leaning towards her.
im not going to lie its kinda got me stressed out... which is why im going to try and decide within the next week .