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While I'm only 31 and surely don't put myself out there as a Master Player or Don Juan, here are some things I have learned from the consistent high quantity amount of women I've been dating over the last 6 years.

I wanted to share them with you guys to start a good discussion about this current market of Women.


(( Her Interest In You ))

There are only three reasons why a woman of this market would LIKE YOU.

1.) She can obtain resources from you (money, education, career progression, etc).

2.) And/or she can obtain decent entertainment from you (sex or a good laugh)

3.) And/or she can impress other people by being around you.

All of these things make you nothing but an Appliance, which means the moment you break down and are no longer supplying the particular benefit, the woman's interest level will begin to decrease.

Understanding this, it's better to RENT women (date only or do a civil union) rather than BUY (marry) due to the total lack of LONG TERM LOYALTY.

While this might seem like bad news, it's actually good news. Think about it. If you BUY, you are stuck with the same pvssy forever that like a car, depreciates the moment you drive it off the lot. If you HOLD the car too long, it actually depreciates to the point where there's NO fvcking value left in it.

If you RENT, you get to trade into a new, shining looking car every 1 - 4 years, forever, until you die. You get to experience the benefits of the car without having to really deal with the downfall of the car when it gets TOO OLD.
 

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(( There's NO Quality Girl ))

There is no such thing as a "Quality Girl" in this Market. Many times a chick will tell you to wait 3-6 months before sex and require that you do 1,300 paid dates in the meantime. All that is, is a game setup by women to trick you into spending more money on her and receiving very little in return.

If you meet any woman that is extreme in terms of either dating, religion, or politics or race relations, etc., then you would be better off moving onto another girl. Trust me. This is not to say she doesn't participate in these discussions or these activities, and it's also not to say she doesn't have some dating standards, but if she is EXTREME then that's not good.

For example, "Tenacity you are a good guy but I can't date a guy that doesn't go to church at least 2 times a week." "Tenacity you are a good guy but I can't date a guy that votes for XYZ." "Tenacity you are a good guy but I can't date a guy that doesn't want to march for Michael Brown." "Tenacity you are a good guy but I have a 6 month no sex, no kissing, no touching rule." "Tenacity you are a good guy but if you want to impress me I would need you to take me to (insert luxury restaurant here) to show me that you are truly interested."

Instead of looking for a Quality Girl, look for a Balanced Girl. The Balanced Girl is one that looks relatively attractive, has her financial house in order, and has a good personality/attitude that allows you to be more of yourself around her. With The Balanced Girl, you can have a good time. With "The Quality Girl" it's going to be like walking on fvcking eggshells, all this bytch does is complain or seemingly consistently judge you based on her bullshyt list of criteria for a "good man" that she got out of some Magazine written by a fat chick who has NO MAN.
 

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(( More Notes ))

- Escorts: Today's market of women as a whole, is very low quality due to the lack of Loyalty, which makes Rental Agreements better than Buy Agreements. As a result of the very low quality, it's in your best interest to get a good relationship established with a number of quality Escorts. You will find a good amount of time, not all the time, but a good amount of time that the Escorts are better company and sex than an unpaid woman is.

- Pet Names: Calling a woman a pet name is OK. If a woman trips on you calling her a pet name, it's not really the pet name that's a problem, she just doesn't like you "that much". If a woman likes you, you can pretty much call her a ***** and get away with it.

- Paid Dates: Never take a woman on a paid date until AFTER she has expressed true interest in you and true interest means she's going to FVCK YOU or she has already FVCKED YOU. Use Starbucks, Panera Bread, Book Stores, or try to get her to come to your place or you come to hers, for free dates until she has expressed true interest (fvcking). Again, see my information on the myth of the Quality Girl above, if a chick tells you she doesn't do that for 3 months then move on, she's just playing games.

- Online Dating: This market of women is of very low quality, so you don't want to invest TOO MUCH TIME in meeting women in this market, you want that time going to your Career, Investing, Workouts, and washing your Car. Use online dating and online social media to meet chicks. It's much more efficient. 80% of the chicks you will meet anywhere out in public, has some sort of online social media profile. Trust me. It saves time, you can reach more women, and you can build up a significant amount of plates in a fraction of the time that it would take you doing that in person. I compare it to Sales, I can either do most of my selling on the telephone and reach more people in less time, for less cost, and make more money. Or, I can go out face-to-face and see less people in more time, for more cost and make less money.

- You Are Not The Prize: I'm sorry, this goes against the Don Juan mentality, but you are NOT the prize. Gynocentrism and Feminism rule today's dating, social, and political markets, this is very much a Buyer's Market for Women and they know it. The only thing you can do is properly filter a woman's interest level and try to only invest your time/energy/etc into women that actually LIKE YOU. And of course, in terms of "liking you," I already listed above the reasons for why a woman in this market would like you.

- What Your Goals Should Be: Your goal with this market is to find a solid quantity of women that are good enough to RENT, enjoy your time during the lease, and when the lease is over, trade her in for a new model. Your goal should NOT be to find a "Quality Girl" to BUY (marry). The Quality Girl does not exist and this market of women are not loyal for the long term, so on both sides of that equation you are entering into a very inefficient agreement from the onset.
 

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Just a comment from someone older than yourself...take it for what it is worth. Realize it is offered in a positive way. I feel sympathy for you as the bitterness of your world must be overwhelming. If you haven't already done so, please access some professional mental health assistance before you do something that you will regret in the long haul. You certainly are your own man, and if you find this advice "beta" so be it. I wish you well.
 

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Spinach said:
Just a comment from someone older than yourself...take it for what it is worth. Realize it is offered in a positive way. I feel sympathy for you as the bitterness of your world must be overwhelming. If you haven't already done so, please access some professional mental health assistance before you do something that you will regret in the long haul. You certainly are your own man, and if you find this advice "beta" so be it. I wish you well.
I don't find the advice "beta", it's just lacking details. Do you care to elaborate?
 
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Tenacity,

I'm not going to argue or debate with you, but just want to talk about one of your points in the society way vs the dj way.

Here is what you said:

"You Are Not The Prize: I'm sorry, this goes against the Don Juan mentality, but you are NOT the prize. Gynocentrism and Feminism rule today's dating, social, and political markets, this is very much a Buyer's Market for Women and they know it. The only thing you can do is properly filter a woman's interest level and try to only invest your time/energy/etc into women that actually LIKE YOU. And of course, in terms of "liking you," I already listed above the reasons for why a woman in this market would like you.
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A DJ IS the prize. A DJ is not worried about feminism, because he will not be operating within it's rulesets or it's view of the world. A DJ operates by his own rules as a man. He knows he is a prize and to be selected because he takes care of himself and his life and pays attention to many details that other men simply do not.

If a female does not like it or attempts to have a DJ go through a bunch of hurdles or hoops, he will move on or put her on the back burner. He will not waste a lot of time behind a females games, even if "that's the way it is" with her with most other guys.

A DJ doesn't care how it is with most other guys.

The "you are the prize" mindset is imperitive for operating within your own frame, and making sure you put self at a high enough priority to be successful.

On the use of escorts or paying for. I think once you are operating strong enough within your own frame and own definition of self with suitable rules and boundaries, you would plate any one of those h0es who wants to try to play games on you. You might even plate her just because, because you are a DJ who likes to be a ladies man.

I am of the opinion you should not have to pay, an d actually are better off dealing with a class of women who is going to be paying her fair share enough of the times. Mess with people who can do something for you, not looking for help...

I don't think the world is as bleak as you make it out to be, and want you to believe that you can change a lot of your perception by changing yourself and this $hit you are willing to deal with.

You gotta stop messing with them h0es in the h00d. Not saying you can't occasionally slay one, but you gotta redefine yourself and rules on your own turf, so their viewpoint is minimal compared to yours.
 

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DLS,

Yes, see I agree with you in theory but it's like in practice, it's a different story.

I mean yeah, I can say as an RE Investor that I'm an efficient business man and can operate in any market, thus, it doesn't matter if it's a Buyer's Market or Seller's Market.

But when it comes with women, I don't believe you can ignore the "powers that be" that's going on out here. Gynocentrism is all in the Media, Corporations, Education System, Entertainment Industry, Legal System, Social Media, The Clubs, The Bars, Online Dating, it's everywhere.

Yes, a skilled guy can make his way through this and have some "efficient enough" relations. But that still doesn't change the fact that women have way TOO MUCH POWER and if she wanted to destroy your life....she can. All she has to do is make up an accusation for example. All she has to do is get on Social Media and bad mouth you, majority of the people will take her side before they take yours.

I think Gynocentrism is real and we can ignore it all day, but it's still there my friend.
 

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Tenacity, I just think that you need to be on the lookout for a woman who distinguishes herself from the crowd in a similar manner as you do. While there's truth in what you're saying, rationally we know that its not an absolute (even though saying that it is makes it easy to justify ideology).

For example, from your stories it seems that for most people to either label you a "thug" or an "uncle Tom." That's their issue of not being able to recognize any shades of grey. For you, it's just a matter of getting out of the plain old eight color Crayola box of crayons and move up to the sixteen color. If that doesn't work, move onto the twenty-four or forty-eight color box. You could even bypass them altogether and just jump into the sixty-four color box that also comes with a built-in sharpener!

I say why keep buying the plain old box of eight when there's a whole spectrum of colors out there. PLUS, there are colors out there who will keep themselves from being all flat and dull because they know that there is a sharpener available and that artists typically choose the ones with a good point.

Yes, there are women out there that will date you because of what you could give them but there are still a those out there who will date you because being with you makes them want to be better on their own rights. Yes, they can be considered rare but their worth is not based on what you have to pay monetarily in order to be with them, it that sense they are usually quite inexpensive yet the average guy would never be able to afford them.
 

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Women are not the problem. The problem is that, by default, women are put in a priviliged position in terms of law and western society at large. And not held accountable for being priviliged.

It's possible to find a good woman. But near impossible to keep her that way.
 
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HoneyHitter said:
Women are not the problem. The problem is that, by default, women are put in a priviliged position in terms of law and western society at large. And not held accountable for being priviliged.

It's possible to find a good woman. But near impossible to keep her that way.
With the DJ system you don't have to worry about her being a perfect woman. Because you will do things to keep yourself interesting and attractive that many men will not consider. You won't mind making her jealous behind some other females for example. You won't mind ignoring her for a few days because you know it makes her want you more.

If some female attempts to dominate you you'd drop her.

I think yes, a DJ has to be aware of the world at large and how it is operating. But he cannot allow that to force his way of life.

You will be interesting to some of the women in that system and they will try you just because you march to your own tune. They will phuck you, and some of them even might try to control you, ballbreak you or cuck you - but as a DJ it is not acceptable within your world view and you would drop her or cheat on her.
 

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You will be interesting to some of the women in that system and they will try you just because you march to your own tune. They will phuck you, and some of them even might try to control you, ballbreak you or cuck you - but as a DJ it is not acceptable within your world view and you would drop her or cheat on her.
This is totally correct but isn't this coming back to my theory DLS? My theory is that the market is so low quality that getting long term relationships of quality is going to be very difficult.

I mean I get what you are saying, you are discussing more of the right mentality behind everything and you are totally correct my friend.

But when it comes down to execution and actually being on the ground, sometimes you have to SHIFT that mentality to reflect reality, or you are likely going to mismanage a number of things.

When I say we aren't the Prize, I'm not talking about in mentality or management because you want to always keep yourself guarded and have the right perspective. When I say we aren't the Prize, I'm talking about in terms of the reality of the LAND we are playing on.

To give you a good example, it's like a basketball team playing in the competing team's arena. The Away Team will approach the Court with confidence, their skills, their game plan, etc., but they would be foolish into thinking that they are playing on their HOME TURF. In that gym, in that arena, they are not the prize...they are very much the Enemy and they need to keep that in mind as they go through the quarters.

Lebron James is the PRIZE of the NBA, but when he plays on other Team's Courts, he's very much the Enemy.


Francisco,

Good points. I have been sort of breaking my "no dating rule" lol, I don't know I'm so used to engaging with women now it's hard to break away from it. But I'm working on these other issues.

I like to make these threads because a lot of times I'm talking to myself. Managing women is very difficult and some of these things help Tenacity better manage these chicks, but I'm aware that it might not work for every guy out there.
 

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Really enjoyed your post and your breakdown of what you've experienced.

Tenacity said:
My theory is that the market is so low quality that getting long term relationships of quality is going to be very difficult.
I mentioned you in the last blog entry I wrote, and commented on this particular subject.

I personally don't think it's a quality issue that we're dealing with. It's a value issue. Today's women are valueless to men (and men are valueless to women). It's all because of the influence of today's society which has been heavily influenced by feminism. Everything's a chain reaction.

Women used to be valuable because they were raised with 'housewife morals'. They were taught to cook, clean, and take care of whatever husband they will eventually have. Men were taught to pursue a good job to provide for the family they will eventually have. These were heavy qualifiers for a successful family unit.

Today, the 'housewife morals' have been deemed as sexist. The result of this has caused women to become low value. Along with this, women have been taught that they can be strong and independent of men. This has caused men to become low value. Today, both sexes are low value to each other. The only real purpose they have is for men to be the sperm donor, and the woman to be the incubator. That's it. There's no more roles in the family unit. Both sexes have jobs. Both sexes do housework. A babysitter takes care of the kids. Outside of reproduction, there is no value in the opposite sex.

When we refer to "quality" women, we're solely referring to their personalities, morals, and at a lesser extent, their looks. However, none of this contributes to the actual value of a woman. She still has a job, and is still raised with the belief that she's a strong, independent woman. There's still no motivation to have a real functioning family unit with defined roles. The only real thing that can make a woman desire to keep her man is neediness. This is why I enjoy pursuing women with this trait. It keeps them around and causes them to do things that go against the ideals of feminism.

To boil things down, a low quality woman is low value. A high quality woman is low value. An ugly bytch is low value. An attractive woman is low value. ALL women are low value, regardless of what traits they have. It doesn't matter if you fvck a quality fat chick or a trashy hottie. They're both still low value.
 

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DaddyLongShanks said:
With the DJ system you don't have to worry about her being a perfect woman. Because you will do things to keep yourself interesting and attractive that many men will not consider. You won't mind making her jealous behind some other females for example. You won't mind ignoring her for a few days because you know it makes her want you more.

If some female attempts to dominate you you'd drop her.

I think yes, a DJ has to be aware of the world at large and how it is operating. But he cannot allow that to force his way of life.

You will be interesting to some of the women in that system and they will try you just because you march to your own tune. They will phuck you, and some of them even might try to control you, ballbreak you or cuck you - but as a DJ it is not acceptable within your world view and you would drop her or cheat on her.
You're right, but you know what happens when her jealousy sets in and makes her cry "rape" or files for divorce? You're screwed.

You may have a flawless track record, yet no one dares to question a crying woman. And especially not an attractive one.
 

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Tenacity, your posts have been a favorite of mine for quite some time. It’s always good to get a different perspective on things in life. However informative this thread is, it seems that you are headed down a dark path with no hope of exorcising those inner demons. You must know that your experiences have given you your own perspective on women and dating, but these experiences cannot encompass the female world as a whole.

If everything you’ve posted here is true, then I think this forum wouldn’t exist. No one would be coming to SS for advice on saving their relationships, or hooking up with chicks, or deciphering her craziness. We’d all put no value in women whatsoever. The funny thing is that even you truly put value into the opposite sex. If you didn’t, then why go out on the 200 dates? Why do the on-line dating thing? Was it all just field work? Naah!!

In all of the reading I’ve done here on SS, there is one common thread that runs strong: “guys here like chicks, and want to be involved with them on some level.” Whether its sex or LTR’s they all want advice on how to make it work. So on some level; there must be some value in them. Based on a review of several of your threads (I read them all), I believe you still see the value in women but at the same time you’re disappointed with the quality level you’ve encountered. Just remember; “if your digging for diamonds in a cereal box, you’ll move a lot of fruit loops only to find that diamonds can’t be found there”.

For me, I’ve posted several times that I currently have no interest in getting involved in a serious “relationship”. This is my choice, but not because I see no value in women, It’s because I need to make sure my frame is truly set before I involve someone else in any part of my private or business life. So for now, I’ll just stick with FWB’s.

Anyway, that’s a long opening to get to this question: Do you honestly believe that there are absolutely no quality women out there, and does everyone else agree with that? Before you commit to an answer, could you define what your idea of the perfect mate would be? Not based on feminist laws, or civil laws, or anything like that. The idea is to truly explain the attributes of your perfect female and if you found her what value would that hold. If you’re going to date them, there must be some end road you’re trying to get to.
 
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HoneyHitter said:
You're right, but you know what happens when her jealousy sets in and makes her cry "rape" or files for divorce? You're screwed.

You may have a flawless track record, yet no one dares to question a crying woman. And especially not an attractive one.

Well, one could use the police/system against you and you gotta drop her.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Tenacity:

If you believe there is no quality out there, then you are right.
If you believe there is quality out there, then you are also right.

Objects that we "see" do not exist outside of us. All that we "see" is our interpretations of those objects. Sometimes these interpretations can be shaped, directed, misdirected, flawed, or pissed-on. Sometimes our interpretations of these objects on a deeper level are more congruent with how we feel about ourselves. :whistle:

If you love and believe the world is beautiful, soon your love of the world will direct you to like-minded, complementary people, thus enforcing your belief. Conversely, if you hate and believe the world is ugly, soon your hate of the world will also direct you into like-minded, complementary people, thus enforcing your belief.

You meet "less than enlightened" people. Great, stay away from them. They're still learning. They may get "here" eventually.

You meet "enlightened" people. Great, join them. They have learned and have already arrived.

The beauty of this awareness is you can choose. Free will is great, isn't it? :up:
 

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Women used to be valuable because they were raised with 'housewife morals'. They were taught to cook, clean, and take care of whatever husband they will eventually have. Men were taught to pursue a good job to provide for the family they will eventually have. These were heavy qualifiers for a successful family unit.
And who says these idealistic traditions are right? I just want to live my life sleep with many beautiful women and be successful
 

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Nice responses guys. Let me give you guys what I believe to be the big picture (macro) and then break it down to the ground level (micro).

This is a great discussion by the way, my response is going to be kind of long but I want you guys to read through it though to understand more about my perspective on this entire thing.


(( MACRO ))

We have gone from a Patriarchal society based on Center Right Politics, into a Center Left Political foundation with the continued promotion of Feminism and Gynocentricm, to squeeze out the final remains of any Patriarchy remaining and replace it as much as possible with Matriarchy.

1.) Patriarchy and Center Right Politics

Women of a Patriarchal society are what I deemed "Quality," which were women that were long-term/life long partners, she sought out the Man that could protect/provide, she remained loyal, and nurtured his children as he continued building his empire. She didn't have an attitude and she wasn't out to destroy him socially, culturally, politically or legally. She was his ONLY FRIEND in a world of highly competitive forces as he went out to "kill the cow" and bring it back home to roast so to speak.

This here relationship was founded on survival and the Man could not survive without the Woman at home, and the Woman could not function at home unless the Man went out and killed something to bring it back home to roast. That's Patriarchy. The Man rules the world, the Woman nurtures and supports her Man.

In support of this culture, was a Center Right Political structure and voting base. It was based on families, working hard, limited government, a strong military, free markets, low regulation, low amounts of civil lawsuits, low amounts of criminal lawsuits, shaming of any gay activities, and the public, cultural and social shaming of ANYBODY that tried to live off of the system or women that would birth out of wedlock.


2.) Feminism/Gynocentrism and Center Left Politics

Beginning in the 1970's, the Feminist Movement was created for the SOLE PURPOSE of going against Patriarchy, as the women believed that Patriarchy oppressed women. Their goal was to destroy the Patriarchal Man socially, culturally, politically, legally, and financially, and to do so, they would have to recruit other men so that they can implement a wide-spread systematic change.

That gives you to the current Gynocentric society that we operate in today, with Center Left Politics as its foundation.

- The legal system is setup to where the woman can destroy him financially through divorce and alimony at anytime, as well as most likely get custody of this children and make him pay EXCESSIVE amounts of child support that go above and beyond the needs of the child.

- The legal system is setup to where this man's leadership (control), dominance and aggressiveness can be used as "evidence" that he "raped" her or that he "beat" her.

- Socially, this is the man that women use for free dates and often withhold sex deliberately.

- Culturally, this is the man that is mocked, shamed, etc. by society for having what are known as more traditional values.

When you couple this with Center Left Politics of "women are equal to men," destroying the free market, destroying profits, promoting socialism (we are all one/let's share) instead of capitalism (individual pursuits/build your own castle), increasing regulation, destroying the family structure in favor of welfare or single motherhood, promoting the gay culture, promoting the thug/ghetto/ratchet culture, etc., you have the completion of the cycle.

Any bad behavior of a person committing it is taken OFF of them and placed on an invisible "white man" (which is really the Patriarchal Man). Matter of fact, this invisible "white man" (Patriarchal Man) is blamed for everything in society. When the thugs act a fool, it's his fault. When chicks make 6 kids and can't afford them, it's his fault. When people refuse to save/invest/educate their way out of poverty, it's his fault. Everything is HIS fault.
 

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(( MICRO ))

Some of you guys are promoting Positive Thinking and that's fine, you believe that if one just sees the world for how they would like it to be, then they can eventually change it. Fine.

But in 2009 we entered The Great Recession. No amount of Positive Thinking can change that. We are in The Great Recession. Now, just because you are IN The Great Recession does not mean you can't still make money, but you should still be AWARE of the Macro situation of being in The Great Recession.

The reason you want to focus on the Macro is so you can properly adjust your Micro strategy. I believe going forward as our culture continues to shift Center Left and more Gynocentric, you are going to have five types of Men left:

- The Simp/Male Feminist: Kisses a woman's a.ss and rarely disagrees with women at all. Seeks to get his finances in order so he can be a woman's bytch technically. Women love this guy because he represents what they wanted to do to the Patriarchal Man, they wanted to make him their BYTCH.

- The Thug: He plays a tough guy, but he's really not that tough, because like The Simp/Male Feminist, he kisses a woman's a.ss too but he just brings a hypermasculine display to the table which makes a woman "nut" faster. But he is very much her BYTCH and is controlled by her just like The Simp is, even though the Thug most likely doesn't have as much money as the Simp. So the women usually will fvck The Thug earlier on (or secretly on the side) but marry The Simp.

- The Average Joe: Let's just say he's lost in this entire thing. He can't get women for a date, a lay, etc., and as society continues to change he stays on the sidelines wondering what the hell is going on.

- The Player: THIS is the guy you want to be. He understands what's going on and just plays the game. He will pretend to kiss a woman's a.ss just to a certain extent but never truly allow her to control him. The challenge of getting this guy "under control" is what keeps the girl peeked, interested and turned on. He will spin plates and drop off a plate the moment she begins to get too over-bearing.

- The Traditional Male: DO NOT BE THIS GUY. This is the guy that still sees women like they were in a Patriarchial structure. So the guy wants to go out and "do the right thing" of getting married, making 2.5 kids, having 1.5 dogs, letting his chick sit at home all day to "take care of the house" while he slaves at work. This is the guy that is going to get slaughtered in the legal system. He is also the guy that is going to get slaughtered in the dating game with women taking FLAT OUT advantage of his "gentlemen ways" because the women can smell Patriarchy all over him and they don't want that.
 

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Tenacity said:
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Some of you guys are promoting Positive Thinking and that's fine, you believe that if one just sees the world for how they would like it to be, then they can eventually change it. Fine.

But in 2009 we entered The Great Recession. No amount of Positive Thinking can change that. We are in The Great Recession. Now, just because you are IN The Great Recession does not mean you can't still make money, but you should still be AWARE of the Macro situation of being in The Great Recession.
Exactly. Awareness of the Macro can help adjust your Micro. But the question is how do you adjust your Micro by believing in the "Macro"?

In 2008/2009, the U.S was in this “Great Recession.” It just so happens that this was just about the time where I had lost all my assets and went insolvent to the extent of a half mil.

In such an environment, I had two Micro-beliefs that I could have subscribed to given the prevailing "Macro":

1) We are in a “Great Recession.” Even further I’m an extremely insolvent. I’m fxcked.

--or--

2) IF people believe we are in this great recession, then real-estate, stock market, and small-business markets will provide great appreciation as they are steeply discounted. This is a buyers’ market! There is no better environment to make money than now!

I partnered up with and eventually bought small businesses. I bought real estate with no monies. I bought stocks on borrowed funds. I climbed out of my hole, inch by inch.

The question now becomes did positive thinking assist in my recovery? If the prevailing logic were the market is “recessed,” “terrible,” “unprofitable,” “overvalued ”--as it mirrored the ’29 depression where a few financial gurus committed suicide--then how could I have taken the reverse position to believe in the positivity of this market? Experience? I didn't have the experience at that time to understand recessive economies.

Here is the reason:
I always believed in the abstraction that ALL experiences are for the greater good no matter how debilitating they may appear. We may not understand the “why,” but notwithstanding, ALL experiences are for the better. This methodology had helped me climb back to and search for the light in my darkest times.

Not to say that your belief of the Macro dating market is wrong or right. But the question remains: Does your belief of the Macro market and your ensuing Micro strategy promote or detract from your well-being? If your beliefs augment your life and bring you genuine happiness, if you are positively passionate about these beliefs, then you are veering in the right direction. If not, perhaps, it’s time for a consciousness re-evaluation
 

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