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This is a true story. Most guys would probably be embarrassed to admit this even on the web. But I'm brave. Here it goes:

Basically, I'm married to a Chinese wife, and we have a happy life together. The main problem is, I'm not exactly a stud in bed. First of all, I'm very fast, ejaculating within 5 minutes of our sex. And once I've ejaculated, I can never do it again for the whole night; I have to wait until the next morning before my penis gets the energy again. I'm also never very good about getting women excited, like in the foreplay and all. Actually, I tend to get so horny that I keep the foreplay very short and then cut to the chase. My wife has never had a real orgasm with me. On top of that, I tend to be sort of self-centered in bed, and I'm, well, not exactly very handsome. I'm a bit more on the hefty side.

Well, one night in our apartment, my wife and I could hear our neighbors getting it on in the apartment next door. The woman was having very loud orgasms, and we could hear their bed frame pounding against the wall. This would go off and on throughout the night. The woman had such loud orgasms, it sounded like it was the best sex she ever had. The sounds of their sex made my wife and I horny. My wife and I started having sex. Because I was so horny, I skipped the foreplay, and like usual, I had a premature ejaculation. After ejaculating into the condom, I withdrew and said, "Sorry honey, I'm already finished." My wife laughed and said, "You're done already? That's the fastest you've ever done it!"

Then, after our sex, I was exhausted and layed down on the bed. Then suddenly, our neighbors were getting it on again, with the woman's loud orgasms echoing through the ventilation vents. In fact, they kept doing this off and on for another couple hours. I was sort of envious of the guy next door, thinking, "How does this guy last so long? And how does he get his honey to have such orgasms? I wish I had his penis." Basically, the sex I had with my wife was only a tiny fraction of the time I had sex with mine, not to mention that mine didn't have anything remotely close to an orgasm. My wife, who didn't have much previous sexual experience before she met me, asked "How can they do it this long? Doesn't the guy's penis get tired?"

I admitted to her that some guys are studs in bed, and some are not. I was very honest with my wife and myself saying that the guy next door is better at sex than me. I couldn't begin to compare with him. My wife then commented, "Hmmm, I wonder what he looks like."

If you saw her picture and my picture, you would probably think, "Why does such a beautiful Chinese girl stay with a guy like that?"

That's pretty much the story. And this story is 100% true. Is there any hope of me getting pass this problem. I would really like to know. Thanks
 

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If you don't stop being so selfish in bed you're going to be hearing your wife with the guy next door through the vent.

Stop skipping the foreplay and make sure your wife is pleased before you have intercourse.

That is all...
 

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Yeah, you're really in some deep ****. I'd suggest exercising your muscles down there and foreplay like a *****, for real... and for God's sakes, if you're about to bust, take a break NOW rather than for the rest of the night. Yes, you will feel like a chump having to pull out every minute or so, but at least your wife will know that you actually are putting forth effort to show some self-control...
 

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Jus go down her for ages. Like for 2 ****ing hours or something. Then at least she's had 2 hours of foreplay before the 5 seconds of sex.
 

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Okay next time I will last longer on the for play but is there anything I can do to last longer in bed. I want to know how is it possible for some guys to last longers than others. Here is were I really need the help.:(
 

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Have you tried maybe getting some excercise? That will help your ability to have sex for more than 5 minutes. There is a muscle called the PC muscle for short that controls urination and can also stop ejaculation as well that you can also work on. There are tons of sites out there with information on this, once you have strengthened the muscle enough you can stop yourself from ejaculating, which also in turns keeps you from losing your erection. It sounds far fetched, but I can speak from experience, it isn't easy to do but sometimes you can actually make it work. Your woman will love you for being able to orgasm multiple times, stay hard, and not need a new condom each time.

http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html
http://www.spiritual.com.au/articles/tantra/premature_ejaculation_dkriley.htm
 

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Turn up the foreplay, and control your PC muscle.

Google it....

How old are you anyways?
 

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American (western men in general) have been corrupted by pornography to the point they don't know how to make love to a woman. Most men see porno and they think that is making love to a woman. That is not making love to a woman, that is ******* a woman!

An american guy thinks that taking her clothe off and sticking it in till you last and it is over in a minute is making love to a woman, THAT IS NOT MAKING LOVE TO A WOMAN, THAT IS ****** A WOMAN!

American and western men compared to latin men there is a big difference. Latin men know how to make love to women. Foreplay comes before sex. Maker her body yours, shower her body with kisses till you know every corner of her body, carrass her with your hands, move them through her body etc etc. There are so many things you can do just use your imagination. Do everything slowly so it lasts. This is the romance part before you get into doing the wild thing.

Start listening to the music of Julio Iglesias/Camilo Sesto/Barry White. Romantic music to get you into the romantic mentality of making love to women.
 

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Oh please, dont make this a race thing, latin men aren't better than white men... there are poor lovers of every race.
 

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Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
American (western men in general) have been corrupted by pornography to the point they don't know how to make love to a woman. Most men see porno and they think that is making love to a woman. That is not making love to a woman, that is ******* a woman!

An american guy thinks that taking her clothe off and sticking it in till you last and it is over in a minute is making love to a woman, THAT IS NOT MAKING LOVE TO A WOMAN, THAT IS ****** A WOMAN!

American and western men compared to latin men there is a big difference. Latin men know how to make love to women

foreplay comes before sex. Maker her body yours, shower her body with kisses till you know every corner of her body, carrass her with your hands, move them through her body etc. Do everything slowly so it lasts. After the foreplay comes the next part (sex)

Start listening to the music of Julio Iglesias/Camilo Sesto/Barry White. Romantic music to get you into the romantic mentality.
His race has nothing to do with his problem.

Lets NOT go there people. Leave it alone and not turn it into the last thread.

Now I do agree that porno does have a role into why men screw up in bed. However bringing up unproven statements and personal opinions would not help him in anyway.
 

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I've noticed that there is a point you have to get by. i'f you go past that point then your ok and you can last 30-50 minutes..... just low down for the first 10-15.....(like really slow)
 

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I could go forever with women

now that I care for this one...it was 1 and done for me...after sex a ton..I am up to 5 to 10 min and rising..just keep doing it more and more
 

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Thanks for your help I really appreciate it. Oh yea I am 27 years old OneArmDeeJay. I will look into that PC muscle thing see these are things I did not know of. I hope that with your guys advice I can please my wife like she deserved to be pleased. Thank you all.
 

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Asian women are quiet, tell her to open her mouth and make noise. Sounds = Part of Sex.

Thanks for being honest but if you're wondering why that Asian wife of yours is with you? Two words: GREEN CARD.

I rather have sex with White women as their moaning and stuff makes me feel more like a man, than a quiet muffled Asian ho.
 

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Originally posted by White_Italian
Asian women are quiet, tell her to open her mouth and make noise. Sounds = Part of Sex.

Thanks for being honest but if you're wondering why that Asian wife of yours is with you? Two words: GREEN CARD.

I rather have sex with White women as their moaning and stuff makes me feel more like a man, than a quiet muffled Asian ho.
Wow can you get any more racist?
 

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Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
American (western men in general) have been corrupted by pornography to the point they don't know how to make love to a woman. Most men see porno and they think that is making love to a woman. That is not making love to a woman, that is ******* a woman!

An american guy thinks that taking her clothe off and sticking it in till you last and it is over in a minute is making love to a woman, THAT IS NOT MAKING LOVE TO A WOMAN, THAT IS ****** A WOMAN!

American and western men compared to latin men there is a big difference. Latin men know how to make love to women. Foreplay comes before sex. Maker her body yours, shower her body with kisses till you know every corner of her body, carrass her with your hands, move them through her body etc etc. There are so many things you can do just use your imagination. Do everything slowly so it lasts. This is the romance part before you get into doing the wild thing.

Start listening to the music of Julio Iglesias/Camilo Sesto/Barry White. Romantic music to get you into the romantic mentality of making love to women.
Arn't "Latin" men just mostly Indians, with a little bit of European blood?

Wouldn't "real" latin men only be those speaking the latin language and latin culture of the following countries: France, Switzerland, Italy, Andorra, Romania, Moldovia, Spain, Portugal, San Marino, and Monaco? But then those people would probably be considered western as well?
 
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Controlling your ejaculation, in my opinion, is about 90 percent psychological. Learn how to control it. Learn how to recognize when you are close and slow down or stop accordingly.

As mentioned by the others here, learn how to give your girl some real foreplay. Guys get to be such lazy asses when it comes to foreplay...and its soooo important to many females.
 

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I would be all for making noises when your having fun, but screaming seems excessive to me, makes me think of the women in porn. I know everybody is different, but even my sister said she would get loud sometimes to help finish off her bf, not because she was having crazy orgasms.
 

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Originally posted by DrMetallica
Arn't "Latin" men just mostly Indians, with a little bit of European blood?

Wouldn't "real" latin men only be those speaking the latin language and latin culture of the following countries: France, Switzerland, Italy, Andorra, Romania, Moldovia, Spain, Portugal, San Marino, and Monaco? But then those people would probably be considered western as well?
Aren't most of those countries considered Western also?
 
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