This Girl Shut me Down Badly

[englishcrap]

Guys,

I am trying to get use to approaching women and chatting to them. I approached these two girls last night in a bar and said "Thought I'd come over and find out whether you guys are friendly" both of them turned round and said "No we are not go away"

I didnt want to insult them althought one of them was as thin as a bean pole and the other was fat. I didnt know how to react but at the same time didnt know how to react or what to say.

What would u guys have said ?

 

[Fender]

"you guys are ugly"

Leave.

Next girl.

 

[saki]

I dont think there is a solution for this, they were being biatches, and if I was me I would have went and hid under my blankets in my own bed where it is safe and noone can hurt me.

 

[AJdaDJ]

A simpe reply could be:-

a chuckle or a smirk (to show ure not bothered)

and then say "obviously"

and walk off head up high not giving a sh1t, its there loss- losers!!

 

[DjDreamer]

Originally posted by englishcrap
Guys,

I am trying to get use to approaching women and chatting to them. I approached these two girls last night in a bar and said "Thought I'd come over and find out whether you guys are friendly" both of them turned round and said "No we are not go away"

I didnt want to insult them althought one of them was as thin as a bean pole and the other was fat. I didnt know how to react but at the same time didnt know how to react or what to say.

What would u guys have said ?

Man o' man you set yourself up for failure with that pickup line.

Did you just walk away after she told you that? LoL... you should have played it off...you should have said something like, "geez I was just looking for some friendly chit chat, I didn't realize you two were the brides of satan"

 

[saki]

Re: Re: This Girl Shut me Down Badly

Originally posted by DjDreamer
Man o' man you set yourself up for failure with that pickup line.

Did you just walk away after she told you that? LoL... you should have played it off...you should have said something like, "geez I was just looking for some friendly chit chat, I didn't realize you two were the brides of satan"

hard to have time to say that when they just walk off. I will never asked what you did, thanks for the warning.

 

[Sart]

BUGGER

Hey Englishman, the fact that you approached two ugly chicks indicates that you are probably unnatractive, perhaps fat, short, poor....whatever! Thats okay, but whats the point of wasting effort asking for a quick witty retort to something that is now over?

I'll stick with my general theme.
1. Dress better
2. Drop some coin on your looks
3. Get serious about your career
4. Hit the gym

Now, I have been rejected in life, we ALL have, but I have never had a rejection like that. I have had a girl turn cold on me after a date or two. The major reason I would NEVER be rejected like that is because I would NEVER have approached them to start with.

ALWAYS make sure the woman shows interest first, then approach. Dont come in here to PLAN your next rejection, MAN, you are better than that right? Focus all your energy on yourself and being the absolute best you can be. Dont try kin and c&f etc if you dont have any natural aptitude. Focus on YOU! Then, let the mountain come to Mohammed.

I know I repeat the same them over and over but its only because it is true. You WILL NOT ****y and funny a girl into being with you. Those fat DJ's everyone discusses, well, lets just break it down. They are normally naturally ****y and funny, not forcing it. Why are they naturally ****y and funny? Usually because they are confident. Why are they confident? Usually because they are successful at whatever it is they find important. Therefore they dont really feel inferior, therefore they are not desperate, therefore they are not afraid.

More of the men in here need to focus on the SELF aspect of this site. Too much emphasis is placed on c&f, cold approaches, kino and the other stuff. The ONLY way for you to learn to be confident is by proving yourself to yourself.

Good luck to you mate, but seriously, focus your energy elsewhere.

 

[DjDreamer]

Originally posted by saki
hard to have time to say that when they just walk off. I will never asked what you did, thanks for the warning.

I thought they sat and he walked away but if they walked away he should have yelled something witty...no sense in walking away or just standing up like a fool after being insulted...no sense in playing the role of "nice guy"...

 

[Sart]

you are right

They did stay and he walked away I thought. I don't see the point in saying anything. How AFC can you get? Whats the point in saying something, are we in grade school? His problem is approaching two dissinterested ugly chicks in the first place. He needs to work on him.

I am not a DJ, and dont pretend to be one but really, you can only improve yourself, you have no control over others. I work out a lot, surf whenever I can, I wear the best cloths, I focus on my business and let the women come to me. I repeat, I am not a DJ, I am just a dude who is not desperate. Lets help our friend with constructive advice so that this shyte doesnt happen again, lets not train him on how to outwit a rejection, lets train him to not be rejected.

 

[saki]

Sarts right you should have had some kind of cue, like a smile, eye contact, and if you were going to get your ballz busted it should have been over a finer grade of females.

 

[Jariel]

This is the problem with cold approaching. These girls were minding their own business, sending no signals and you interrupted them trying to chat them up.

It was probably nothing personal against you, but some women - especially if they're approached a lot - reply abruptly as not to lead the guy on.

I'd suggest waiting for eye contact at the very least.

 

[DjDreamer]

Re: you are right

Originally posted by Sart
They did stay and he walked away I thought. I don't see the point in saying anything. How AFC can you get? Whats the point in saying something, are we in grade school? His problem is approaching two dissinterested ugly chicks in the first place. He needs to work on him.

You're absolurtely right...approaching two dissinterested ugly chicks is a big no no...it reeks of desperation...however if I ever see somone say nothing and walk away after getting a responce like that I would probably fight to hold back laughter...

He didn't really had to insult them back, just walk away with dignity...he could have said "your lost" and walk away with his head held high...

 

[sfalexi]

Not that big a deal. At least you found out quickly not to focus on THEM anymore.

You dont have to say anything. Just walk away. Or say, "Allright." and walk away.

At least they didn't pretend to go along with it and waste your time.


Alexi

 

[skeeloo]

lol-same thing happened to me and my friend some years ago i approached some not so good looking girls and got turned down and i walked away like a little ***** with the girl laughing behined us. now as time went by iv grown into being more confident its kinda uncomfortable for me the attention i get when im out these days i dress better i know that for sure and i carry my self like im the **** which sometime i overdo i know, i think its just about being confident and not giving a rats ass. i always look for signals b4 i approach.

 

[Life-Trainee]

If there's anything cooler than being with a cool guy that would be turning down a cool guy.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by Jariel
This is the problem with cold approaching. These girls were minding their own business, sending no signals and you interrupted them trying to chat them up.

It was probably nothing personal against you, but some women - especially if they're approached a lot - reply abruptly as not to lead the guy on.

I'd suggest waiting for eye contact at the very least.

I agree.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

Sorry to hear that man, but you should have been more observant of your surroundings, used it to your advantage. Some girls will act like hos if you just drop out of nowhere.

Example: This Tuesday a cute chick came and sat next to me while I was waiting for chem lab to start. After I ate my lunch I looked over at the book she was reading. She of course saw this and I asked her "Good read?" We had a nice little convo, she told me her name was Michelle, and then it was time for class so I split.

If your approach is good, and warranted 99% of girls will be more than happy to at least chat with you.

 

[Don Ronny]

First off, your approach was weak...never would have said that. But lets say I did just for laughs.

ME: Thought I'd come over and find out whether you guys are friendly.

GIRLS: No we are not go away

ME: Wow, you are the nicest girls I've met all day! You didnt even use mace or get the police involved..all right! (Sit down with them and keep gaming just for the fun of it)

GIRLS: (persisit in being b!tches)

ME: Wow, I didnt see it from far but your nose is real crooked and it wiggles when you talk, how quaint!

Never let 'em affect your mindstate. They are just harmess little girls..remember that! It is childs play to fukk with their minds.

In the future, dont use that opener..it's sh!tty. Try asking their opinion on something and work your way in smoothly.

 

[Tweek_1984]

I had a similar experience in September.

It was the first night at uni (my second shot at uni). So I was all pumped up to talk to loads of chicks.

Anyways, I got to this club and I started talking to this HB7.5, asking her what course she's doing and stuff and she asked me and I told her I was in the first year and then suddendly she just said to me 'You're so full of **** aren't you?'

I was like, 'errr, yea, I was just trying to be friendly'. And walked off. But that busted my confidence alot.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

This is what I meant about Cold approaches even at bars you have to be sutile. You have to ask DUMB ass questions to break the ice and hope they bite soon.

This is why I focus on using social proof to get attention and get signals.And only react to girls who give me signs.My succes rate is maybe be at 80% just through using that.

The rest can go fvck themselves.I only do ca's out of boredom or if they girls is too fine to let go.

Other than that I don't really speak to broads.