This Girl Shut me Down Badly

[karusel]

Re: BUGGER

Originally posted by Sart
Mohammed and the mountain

Naturally you're right. But it is so infinitely difficult to basically change your life around and be a... well, someone, when all you think you need and want is a good girlfriend and all you need to know is how to get her, get that someone, thinking like Donnie Smith in Magnolia 'I've got so much love to give, I just don't know where to put it'.

The problem is that you need not look around for a place to put it, because first you need to put it in yourself, then once you've climbed that mountain, you'll probably be surprised at the view. And the odds are, you won't be there alone.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
This is what I meant about Cold approaches even at bars you have to be sutile. You have to ask DUMB ass questions to break the ice and hope they bite soon.

This is why I focus on using social proof to get attention and get signals.And only react to girls who give me signs.My succes rate is maybe be at 80% just through using that.

The rest can go fvck themselves.I only do ca's out of boredom or if they girls is too fine to let go.

Other than that I don't really speak to broads.

I agree alot of guys that go fishing for chicks don't even understand the concept of using bait. They try to gaf the fish with their hook. A pick up line is just the line on your fishing poll.

 

[Fatality]

Originally posted by Tha Realnezz


This is why I focus on using social proof to get attention and get signals.

What kind of social proof? Your buddies or your female friend?

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by englishcrap
Guys,

I am trying to get use to approaching women and chatting to them. I approached these two girls last night in a bar and said "Thought I'd come over and find out whether you guys are friendly" both of them turned round and said "No we are not go away"

I didnt want to insult them althought one of them was as thin as a bean pole and the other was fat. I didnt know how to react but at the same time didnt know how to react or what to say.

What would u guys have said ?

They were probably heavy in chick conversation, but consider the facts that:

1) You had the guts to approach, cold at that.

2) Not all women are as b*tchy as this, so don't let it get to you, although I'm sure something like this is hard not to take personally

3) Did you ever consider that they are Lesbians?

I think you jumped the gun a little, and your opener was a little weak, but don't let it discourage you.

You have just experienced the worst type of rejection that there is - make sure you grow a thick skin, and remember that even the best of us have been through that.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Originally posted by Fatality
What kind of social proof? Your buddies or your female friend?

My buddies mostly but sometimes I use hot chics to knowck them off their pedestals.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Hey English,

Check this out, it's pertinent:

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/better.htm

 

[gungho]

Why analyse this. The whole concept is, no matter what the response, is WHO CARES. If you go there trying to find the right situations you lose. The point is to approach with no care, no matter the response, and if you get a negative response, DO NOT LET IT BRING YOU DOWN OR AFFECT YOU IN ANY WAY. Carry on. Its impossible to read chicks. If your waiting for eye contact, or whatever, you lose. Just try and thats all you did. The most important thing of all this to learn is to not let a negative response phase you one bit. Because if you have a need to post a rejection, it means you cared, means you lose in the end.

 

[skeeloo]

Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
My buddies mostly but sometimes I use hot chics to knowck them off their pedestals.

in dont think you even really need hot chicks to knock em of their high horse. just the way you act tells em this dude dont give a fuk bout me.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Re: Re: This Girl Shut me Down Badly

Originally posted by DjDreamer
Man o' man you set yourself up for failure with that pickup line.

Did you just walk away after she told you that? LoL... you should have played it off...you should have said something like, "geez I was just looking for some friendly chit chat, I didn't realize you two were the brides of satan"

Actually I think that was a pretty good ice-breaker. Non-needy, yet non-threatening. They were just harcore bi1ches. Not his fault.

I think he could have said something like "Looks like someone got off on the wrong end of their vibrator this morning". Laugh and just get up and leave. lol

 

[englishman]

Re: BUGGER

Originally posted by Sart
Hey Englishman, the fact that you approached two ugly chicks indicates that you are probably unnatractive, perhaps fat, short, poor....whatever! Thats okay, but whats the point of wasting effort asking for a quick witty retort to something that is now over?

I'll stick with my general theme.
1. Dress better
2. Drop some coin on your looks
3. Get serious about your career
4. Hit the gym

Now, I have been rejected in life, we ALL have, but I have never had a rejection like that. I have had a girl turn cold on me after a date or two. The major reason I would NEVER be rejected like that is because I would NEVER have approached them to start with.

ALWAYS make sure the woman shows interest first, then approach. Dont come in here to PLAN your next rejection, MAN, you are better than that right? Focus all your energy on yourself and being the absolute best you can be. Dont try kin and c&f etc if you dont have any natural aptitude. Focus on YOU! Then, let the mountain come to Mohammed.

I know I repeat the same them over and over but its only because it is true. You WILL NOT ****y and funny a girl into being with you. Those fat DJ's everyone discusses, well, lets just break it down. They are normally naturally ****y and funny, not forcing it. Why are they naturally ****y and funny? Usually because they are confident. Why are they confident? Usually because they are successful at whatever it is they find important. Therefore they dont really feel inferior, therefore they are not desperate, therefore they are not afraid.

More of the men in here need to focus on the SELF aspect of this site. Too much emphasis is placed on c&f, cold approaches, kino and the other stuff. The ONLY way for you to learn to be confident is by proving yourself to yourself.

Good luck to you mate, but seriously, focus your energy elsewhere.

good advice mate........ I reckon you should of said " thats to bad cause your fat, your thin and your both fvckin ugly" turn on your heels and walk away......

 

[AMF]

Originally posted by Life-Trainee
If there's anything cooler than being with a cool guy that would be turning down a cool guy.

THIS IS THE GODDAMN TRUTH.

This is how women OPERATE, fools.

 

[DjDreamer]

Re: Re: Re: This Girl Shut me Down Badly

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Actually I think that was a pretty good ice-breaker. Non-needy, yet non-threatening. They were just harcore bi1ches. Not his fault.

I think he could have said something like "Looks like someone got off on the wrong end of their vibrator this morning". Laugh and just get up and leave. lol

LoL...yeah that would have been another excellent responce...