Thinning hair is a deal breaker?

[betheman]

I'm insecure? No, and theres no basis for your accusation other than your refusal to believe appearance matters, but you seem like a nasty, bitter, hateful and aging man. And honestly you don't make a lot of sense. True, a woman is either into you or shes not and you can't force it but what do you think makes her interested in you or not from the get go? Your appearance. Even confidence or insecurity is perceived by appearance. Even if a woman is into you she's not likely to approach you. You approaching her even if she displays some IOIs still constitutes a cold approach. Virtually every lay I've gotten and it's well into the double digits was from cold aproaches.

I observe men and women all the time too. And I see mostly good looking and younger guys, and guys with normal hair with girls. You really have no point other than this belief that unattractive guys (by your opinion) do well with women for reasons unknown and mysterious besides vague and mystically reason like "confidence". I've winged with many guys probably over a 100 through lairs and you know the only ones that were good with pick up amounted to only three guys who were good looking and had good hair. The one that was probably the best actually was outgoing but was somewhat insecure or nervous but he was the best looking and had that "jersey shore" look.

youre still an insecure phaggot

 

[st_99]

I look at guys complaining about bad hair equivalent to girls complaining about small tits.

some guys might care enough to not date girls with small jugs but 95% of us would happily date a good looking fun girl that happened to have small hooters.

and what do most of us guys think about girls that are insecure enough to get implants? most of us would say they are being idiots and look just fine the way the are, its not as big a deal as they think. kind of like guys that get hair pieces.

thats my take. i think im right.

 

[Burroughs]

I think a lot of you saying thinning hair doesn't matter are myopic and completely out of tune with the times.

Women are hyper sexual hyper judgemental and super critical

women find thinning hair gross and disgusting...that is hotties age 20-25....if you want older, used women fine....but for prime young hotties unless you are jude law :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: thinning hair is for creepers

if you do cold approaches looking good is EVEN MORE IMPORTANT

most prime hotties meet 99% of their guys through social circle...they are just that in demand..

hot girls are never single unless you are hot enough for them to be single...

hotties ain't trying to fvck george costanza regardless of how funny he is.

 

[Stagger Lee]

Yeah I don't see small boobs or even flat chested being analogous to a man's thinning hair and overall looks. Or see any real analogies between the mating game for men and women. It's pretty much establishing fact that even a rather unattractive flat-chested woman could have sex with different men all day every day, even charge them for it. Women are hypercritical and hypergamous and it's not just based on a man's confidence. Its based visually on his apparent age, over all looks, hair, expressiveness, outgoingness and nonverbals.

Women are hypercritical and nitpicking about every aspect of a man. But if you hear some people on sosuave tell it nothing matters but some undefined and undefinable concept of "confidence" and the words you say. That's what every AFC of the world believes too. No, I'd say slight differences in facial symmetry, appearance and nonverbals is the deciding factor in attraction. A guy with an asymmetrical face and thinning hair gets rejected more. What's so hard to accept about that? The guy with thin out hair you saw attracting the girl (which might not be as hot as he could attract if he had good hair) likely had a symmetrical face, good teeth and smile and good expressiveness and natural outgoingness, was close to her age etc. Things you didn't give him credit for, and you assume "That average guy with thinned hair must be getting attraction with "confidence". No, he's getting attraction for the factors previously mentioned and he's confident from success from those factors.

Thinning hair can be tough, in my last LTR, the woman i was with was more concerned about my crown then i was. I now use concealers and all is good..and will continue to conceal my thinning crown until I'll have to resort to shaving it all...

Your last LTR wasn't concerned about yuor thinning crown. She was just concerned about the loss of confidence it was causing you . You just need more confidence to compensate for the hair loss . I absolutely believe you when you said you weren't concerned about the hairloss yet your girl was. My hair loss didn't look bad to me and I couldn't really care less but it was pretty obvious women cared. Even some other men who do not have thinning hair treat you with less respect.

 

[VictorK]

Thinning hair can be tough, in my last LTR, the woman i was with was more concerned about my crown then i was. I now use concealers and all is good..and will continue to conceal my thinning crown until I'll have to resort to shaving it all...

 

[Mike32ct]

Stagger Lee:

The last date I went on was from Match about 6 months ago. She loved my face and spiky hair IN THE FRONT as shown in my pic. She couldn't wait to meet me. Interest level through the roof.

We got to the restaurant. Interest level still seemed high. After a few drinks, I had to go to the bathroom. I excused myself and TURNED AROUND and walked to the men's room. Obviously, she saw the top of my head from the back.

When I came back to the table, she was much more quiet and less enthusiastic. When we left and headed out to the car, she kept her distance and said, "You can call me if you want." Her voice tone was that of disappointment.

One thing I will tell you is be careful with the sun. One thing that made my bald spot much worse was getting sunburned in summer 2011. I don't know if it killed more folicles or what. But wear a hat or limit your exposure to the sun. Don't let the top of your head burn. Those folicles that are barely hanging on don't need that.

 

[Stagger Lee]

Stagger Lee:

The last date I went on was from Match about 6 months ago. She loved my face and spiky hair IN THE FRONT as shown in my pic. She couldn't wait to meet me. Interest level through the roof.

We got to the restaurant. Interest level still seemed high. After a few drinks, I had to go to the bathroom. I excused myself and TURNED AROUND and walked to the men's room. Obviously, she saw the top of my head from the back.

When I came back to the table, she was much more quiet and less enthusiastic. When we left and headed out to the car, she kept her distance and said, "You can call me if you want." Her voice tone was that of disappointment.

I basically have had the same experience from my online dating meet ups. They seem interested from seeing my photos (where my thinning hair isn't as noticable) and talking to me online. Normally before when I'd meet up it'd end up in a hook up more often than not. And now that my hair is thinner more often than not no hookup.

I probably wouldn't believe it myself if I hadn't experienced it first hand. I mean who gives a sh!t about men's hair or a little thinning that isn't uncommon for males? Well evidently women do. They are completely nitpicky about appearance. Appearance is really all there is to attraction.

One thing I will tell you is be careful with the sun. One thing that made my bald spot much worse was getting sunburned in summer 2011. I don't know if it killed more folicles or what. But wear a hat or limit your exposure to the sun. Don't let the top of your head burn. Those folicles that are barely hanging on don't need that.

I never realized that. Thanks for the tip. I'm not prone to sunburns unless I'm out in the sun for a long while which is rare and I would wear a hat. But the sun is also damaging to the skin. Skin condition is another huge factor on appearance.

 

[betheman]

lots of guys focus on things like thinning hair, height, not having a square jaw, poor teeth etc etc, generally stuff you cant do much about.
of course women would prefer the perfect specimen, full head of thick dark hair, 6' plus, square jaw and yes these guys will bang more women simply because of these attributes but even some of these guys struggle with women.

part of the problem as I see it is that a lot of guys seem to want to be able to pick up ANY woman like there is some kind of magic formula, 'if only I had XYZ i could get any woman' well you cant!

look around when you are next out at a bar, club...whatever! how many of say the 30, 40 or more women would you bang? the immdiate answer is lots, but then you look round (at least I do) and have a bit of a closer inspection, usually I wittle it down to around 3-4 %! and thats before I even speak to them. maybe Im just picky, but so are women, to cite thinning hair is one thing, I have thinning hair and yes it makes a difference, but so do lots of other things.
if youre that worried, get hair transplants or just say Fck it and roll with it.

one thing that does turn women off as much as thinning hair is snivveling

 

[BelaWhite]

We can't mess up with male alopecia. It's all about hormonal control and co-ordination. Hair implant can make your crown more crowded but for a least of time.

 

[Boilermaker]

Stagger Lee:

The last date I went on was from Match about 6 months ago. She loved my face and spiky hair IN THE FRONT as shown in my pic. She couldn't wait to meet me. Interest level through the roof.

We got to the restaurant. Interest level still seemed high. After a few drinks, I had to go to the bathroom. I excused myself and TURNED AROUND and walked to the men's room. Obviously, she saw the top of my head from the back.

When I came back to the table, she was much more quiet and less enthusiastic. When we left and headed out to the car, she kept her distance and said, "You can call me if you want." Her voice tone was that of disappointment.


One thing I will tell you is be careful with the sun. One thing that made my bald spot much worse was getting sunburned in summer 2011. I don't know if it killed more folicles or what. But wear a hat or limit your exposure to the sun. Don't let the top of your head burn. Those folicles that are barely hanging on don't need that.

GOOD GRIEF.

Insecurities due to insignificant hair follicles can really create some delusion in some of you that are less fortunate in the IQ department. Now another dunderhead that claims she lost interest right after she saw the back of his head ...Maybe it was your crappy game? Or maybe you are not as awesome as you think? Having self-esteem issues much? And of course, it can't possibly have anything to do with that face (and mood) you had on you when you came back p!ssing your pants about her seeing your fvcking bald head, right?

Oh wait, you are absolutely sure that she lost interest RIGHT when she saw the back of your hair. In fact, she even told you so, right? She told it to your
face. Go ahead, come up with another lie or sad rationalization, prove that it was due to your thinning hair you bald fvck. Because that matters the most to her. Not your wallet, not your personality, not your height, your fvcking head. I hope you were trolling or messing with us, because otherwise I don't know whether to laugh or to cry.

Stagger lee is an hopelessly insecure kid in an adult's body, but all of you bald fvcks are like this? Seriously, this is SoSuave, not losers anonymous. Women don't care about appearance all that much, period. Are all bald men like this, really? I don't know because I am sorry, I have hair on my head. I apologize Stagger Lee. You will never have access to the HB 11's I will cruise through just by waving and gelling the sh!t out of my awesome hair. Because appearance is everything in Junior High, right?


Take your juvenile drama, elsewhere. Enough is enough.