There are a number of things that are effective in peaking a woman's interest. You already blew it on immediate situational game when you met her etc.
I don't see how I blew it on situational game by saying she was like a real life valkyrie. You guys have no idea how to compliment apparantly, because the next thing that happened is that I was making out with her in front of her friends (after she introduced me to her friends, and they both complimented me on my apparant knowledge of norse mythology lol. She even invited me outside, then when I came outside, she approached me).
You see, if you're outcome independent anything can happen. It's like blackjack. You guys' approach is to hold when you've got the 17. When I got the 17 I say hit me, and see if I roll that 21.
Believe it or not I approached with outcome independence. You should all be giving me due credit. The chemistry was perfect and I was actually not being needy at all. Neither was I supplicating. I just had a thought and felt compelled to tell her that, then I moved on my way. She liked it and she gave me more openings. That's all there is to it. It all ended with her friend yanking her out of the bar. Not my fault at all. She was DTF. Maybe you think I'm delusional? So I suppose the make-out was a hallucination?
Confidence + outcome independence + original compliment = success.
Wait until Sunday this weekend. Then pretend you saw her at wherever you were but you didn't have a chance to say hi..."Blah blah blah"
Seems a bit stalkerish to me. Could be wrong. Don't think I can pull it off. I've already been chasing a bit too much through text. I invited her, she declined. Asked her why no response. She said she is in a relationship. Going back to: "Hey I saw you there!" would be like a step backwards imo. That would be like supplicating, however subtly, because it means I saw her, she didn't see me. It's supposed to be the other way around. At least imo
1) Never open with any sexual reference. Even if you had sex one hour ago, never text anything about sex. If SHE says something about it, you can reply (within a few minutes) but tread lightly. I always assume their dad will read anything I text them.
I told her I prefer to strike the iron while it's hot. She liked it. If the iron is hot, you gotta keep it hot. We already skipped all the bullcrap. No talk of work or anything, we were just straight up showing interest in each other, that's all. So I figured I might just keep it in that tone. Keep it in the tone that she responds to, that's how I figure.
2) You would like to enjoy her presence??? That might be the worst date invitation possible. Does that translate to "Can I bum another cigarette off you?" Or "Come to my dorm?" Do you have a job?
Keep in mind I am giving you translations from dutch. "Ik wil graag van jou aanwezigheid genieten", has sexual undertones lol, because "genieten" implies pleasure, but I'm referring to her "presence", which means all she has to do is be present and I'll be enjoying, lol.
So it's flattering but also slightly sexual. Can't go wrong. It's a different language FFS. By the way it could also be interpreted as strictly courteous language. Also, saying: "Ik had jou wel op kunnen vreten" (I could have eaten you), is a dutch idiom which is used when people are really angry which each other. So it could be interpreted to mean that I was really pissed off that she had left. See it's all a bit more psychological than it seems. More than likely she would interpret it sexually though. The response was a kiss+heart smiley. Rather 'reclined' response on her part, if you know what I mean.
3) Avoid saying "You have to" (anything). They don't have to do anything.
When I say that I mean it as a factual statement, as in: "if you want this to go anywhere, you are going to have to tell me when you have time." I thought it was protocol on this forum that once you invite a girl and she declines, she has to come with a counteroffer. I'm just telling her that as she must also be quite aware of it herself, through experience. Otherwise I'm teaching her.
4) The other lines are even worse (pardon the pun).
You should say something like this:
"Thursday night I'll be having dinner at (trendy place that isn't that expensive but isn't a chain) at (specific time). You can meet me at the bar". Thus, you give a specific event (that she will enjoy) and a specific time and place for her to meet you - and you go either way. Let her negotiate from there. She should say "I would love to! I'm excited!" or worst case "That night doesn't work but (this night does)".
Agree. Sadly though I never go out to dinner. I figure the best I can do now is indeed to either ignore or to invite her to something I'm doing.
My best shot (least investment) would be simply to invite her to my work, lol (yes I do work, in a bar. Where she met me). I prefer she come to me. Though the invite might be redundant as she should remember where that I work there. Your idea might be better, but it's not really congruent with my life, u see.
Thanks for the responses by the way. I also don't consider you an autist, just so you know, lol.
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