The quality of posts around here is pretty bad lately, so I've thrown together something that I hope you can all appreciate. No, this is not 'new' material. Credit goes to all the Internet resources I've found, The Bible (lots of good stuff in there), Dave DeAngelo, and of course, personal experience.
I've spent hundreds of hours of my personal time dedicated to being more successful with women and in life in general, and I finally feel like I am 'over the hump'. I feel as though things have 'clicked' for me, and I just need to polish up the foundation that I have.
Anyway, I have refined what I think are the most important things to do in order to be successful with women. Notice that there are no techniques here?
Dedicate 2-4 weeks of solid work on each of these things and by the time you get to the end, you will be a much more attractive person, and the best part is, you will still be YOU. You won't be memorizing routines or running game. You will be a man who is extremely attractive to women, you will have a large social circle to pull high-quality women from, and you will be able to screen out the girls that are not worth your time. Do these in whichever order you feel suits your lifestyle, but DO THEM ALL:
Get in the gym
- Getting in shape will give you a confidence boost unlike any other
- Will help regulate body chemistry
- You will feel great and use less sick days at work
- Check out http://www.bodybuilding.com for all the info you need
Have above-average grooming practices
- Get your hair cut at a top-notch stylist and take pictures
- Whiten your teeth
- Keep a shaving / skin care regiment
- Carry gum or breath strips with you at all times
- Find a fragrance that says something about your personality
Be fashion conscious
- Buy a few fashion magazines and STUDY them. Pay attention to the details, because this is what makes all the difference.
- Figure out a look that works for you and is comfortable to wear. Have a female friend help you.
- Dress a little bit edgy. You will stand out if you have the confidence to do it.
- Wear clothes that fit as they were designed to fit
- Have great shoes. Yes, women notice. I have asked.
Have 3 or more hobbies that you are passionate about
- Women can sense that you are passionate about something in your life, even if the topic itself does not necessarily interest them
- You will meet new people through your hobbies
- Keeping busy is an attractive quality to women. It shows that you have a life of your own.
Make friends with three attractive women
- You will get to know the way attractive women communicate, think, and act
- Women make great fashion consultants
- You will exercise your boundaries by being platonic friends with an attractive woman
Make friends with three men who are great with women
- You will see how men who are successful with women act
- Their attitudes and beliefs will rub off on you, and you will become more successful yourself
- Peer pressure is a great motivator for positive change, such as approaching women
Be THE leader
- Always have a plan
- Physically lead the women around you. Take her hand and lead. Guide her through doors.
- Demonstrate to her how to act around you, and what acceptable behaviour is
- Set short term and long term goals and achieve them
Learn to flirt.
- Learn how to properly use ****y comedy
- Learn the body language that makes anything you say funny
- Learn to communicate sexuality with your eye contact and posture
Do the right thing.
- You are leading a woman and possibly a family. You must make wise choices and act appropriately.
- Doing the right thing is not always doing the easiest thing.
- Balance what you were taught with your personal experience, know your morals and stick to them
Be the prize.
- Have a very strong sense of self
- Know that you are a great catch and any woman is lucky to have a chance to get to know you. If you do not truly believe this then do whatever you have to do to make yourself the best man out there.
Set very strong personal boundaries and guard them
- Know what parts of your life you control, and maintain control of those parts
- Do not waste energy worrying about or trying to control the aspects outside your boundaries
- Be firm in guarding your personal boundaries
- YOU control who or what you allow inside your boundaries
- Do not tolerate anyone trying to take advantage of your boundaries
Deal with any issue in your past that bothers you.
- Past issues can become problems with your boundaries
- Sometimes your issues might cause you to not do the right thing out of fear or guilt
- Know your weaknesses and work to overcome them
I've spent hundreds of hours of my personal time dedicated to being more successful with women and in life in general, and I finally feel like I am 'over the hump'. I feel as though things have 'clicked' for me, and I just need to polish up the foundation that I have.
Anyway, I have refined what I think are the most important things to do in order to be successful with women. Notice that there are no techniques here?
Dedicate 2-4 weeks of solid work on each of these things and by the time you get to the end, you will be a much more attractive person, and the best part is, you will still be YOU. You won't be memorizing routines or running game. You will be a man who is extremely attractive to women, you will have a large social circle to pull high-quality women from, and you will be able to screen out the girls that are not worth your time. Do these in whichever order you feel suits your lifestyle, but DO THEM ALL:
Get in the gym
- Getting in shape will give you a confidence boost unlike any other
- Will help regulate body chemistry
- You will feel great and use less sick days at work
- Check out http://www.bodybuilding.com for all the info you need
Have above-average grooming practices
- Get your hair cut at a top-notch stylist and take pictures
- Whiten your teeth
- Keep a shaving / skin care regiment
- Carry gum or breath strips with you at all times
- Find a fragrance that says something about your personality
Be fashion conscious
- Buy a few fashion magazines and STUDY them. Pay attention to the details, because this is what makes all the difference.
- Figure out a look that works for you and is comfortable to wear. Have a female friend help you.
- Dress a little bit edgy. You will stand out if you have the confidence to do it.
- Wear clothes that fit as they were designed to fit
- Have great shoes. Yes, women notice. I have asked.
Have 3 or more hobbies that you are passionate about
- Women can sense that you are passionate about something in your life, even if the topic itself does not necessarily interest them
- You will meet new people through your hobbies
- Keeping busy is an attractive quality to women. It shows that you have a life of your own.
Make friends with three attractive women
- You will get to know the way attractive women communicate, think, and act
- Women make great fashion consultants
- You will exercise your boundaries by being platonic friends with an attractive woman
Make friends with three men who are great with women
- You will see how men who are successful with women act
- Their attitudes and beliefs will rub off on you, and you will become more successful yourself
- Peer pressure is a great motivator for positive change, such as approaching women
Be THE leader
- Always have a plan
- Physically lead the women around you. Take her hand and lead. Guide her through doors.
- Demonstrate to her how to act around you, and what acceptable behaviour is
- Set short term and long term goals and achieve them
Learn to flirt.
- Learn how to properly use ****y comedy
- Learn the body language that makes anything you say funny
- Learn to communicate sexuality with your eye contact and posture
Do the right thing.
- You are leading a woman and possibly a family. You must make wise choices and act appropriately.
- Doing the right thing is not always doing the easiest thing.
- Balance what you were taught with your personal experience, know your morals and stick to them
Be the prize.
- Have a very strong sense of self
- Know that you are a great catch and any woman is lucky to have a chance to get to know you. If you do not truly believe this then do whatever you have to do to make yourself the best man out there.
Set very strong personal boundaries and guard them
- Know what parts of your life you control, and maintain control of those parts
- Do not waste energy worrying about or trying to control the aspects outside your boundaries
- Be firm in guarding your personal boundaries
- YOU control who or what you allow inside your boundaries
- Do not tolerate anyone trying to take advantage of your boundaries
Deal with any issue in your past that bothers you.
- Past issues can become problems with your boundaries
- Sometimes your issues might cause you to not do the right thing out of fear or guilt
- Know your weaknesses and work to overcome them