insanity said:exactly! women don't take advice and if they do....it's the opposite.
Very recognizable. Bet you've been there too..
insanity said:exactly! women don't take advice and if they do....it's the opposite.
Do you think i handled this well in not becoming an emotional tampon?
Do you think i handled this well in not becoming an emotional tampon?
her: im frustrated
her: my bf never calls me or msgs me
her: im too scared to talk to him about it
me: slap him around abit teach him a lesson just joking
her: he only calls me for one thing
me: seems like a good guy lol (in a sarcastic sort of way)
do you think i handled this well?
and what does this mean when a chick that somewhat likes you tells you about her bf troubles does this mean im definetly in the friends zone? or is she hinting on breaking up with him and subtley letting me know?
do you think i handled this well?
and what does this mean when a chick that somewhat likes you tells you about her bf troubles does this mean im definetly in the friends zone? or is she hinting on breaking up with him and subtley letting me know?
At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Do they really get off that much on having one or more advisor guys around to be a sounding board for the latest? I guess it's hard to understand from a male perspective. I could never imagine calling, texting, or e-mailing a girl or bunches of 'em to share what's news or how my day went. Thanks!Rollo Tomassi said:You essentially become a surrogate boyfriend for her - fulfilling all the emotional and security needs the Jerk isn't providing with no expectation of reciprocating intimacy on her part. It's an ideal situation for a woman and is analogous to a guy with a Booty Call - unconditional sex with no expectation of reciprocation of security or emotional support.
hahahah, he's got a point R19. Digging up some oldies huh? That's fine that you're doing your research and all but.......horaholic said:THREAD NECROMANCER!!!!!! Why????????????
From the standpoint of a guy who's aware he's become a surrogate BF, and those who can objectively see that he is, it seem incredibly manipulative and deliberate for a woman to put a guy whom she knows has a definite IL for her into that role. I would argue that, more often than not, a woman doing so has done so repeatedly in the past so often that it becomes normalized for her.R19 said:Do they really get off that much on having one or more advisor guys around to be a sounding board for the latest? I guess it's hard to understand from a male perspective. I could never imagine calling, texting, or e-mailing a girl or bunches of 'em to share what's news or how my day went. Thanks!
So, in a sense I'd say yes, they do get off on perfecting a gestalt BF from both the Nice Guy and the Jerk, but relatively few are aware of it, and among those who are, even fewer will expressly admit to it. They'll quite happily allow a surrogate to continue in his qualifying himself to her in his efforts to "be a good listener" and "be there for her" until such a time as he grows frustrated and he becomes a liability in his own right, or a liability to her Jerk sex / drama interest. The hot guy who uses her up and leaves her on the bed wanting more will always take precedence over the emotional surrogate because they're so easily attracted and entertained.There are methods and social contrivances women have used for centuries to ensure that the best male's genes are selected and secured with the best male provisioning she's capable of attracting. Ideally the best Man should exemplify both, but rarely do the two exist in the same male (particularly these days) so in the interest of achieving her biological imperative, and prompted by an innate need for security, the feminine as a whole had to develop social conventions and methodologies (which change as her environment and personal conditions do) to effect this.
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Point made. Point taken. I don't post too many new threads but before I do, you bet I'll check out the archives.R19 said:The problem with this forum is that too many users (I am sure I have done it) start a new thread when there are many others of the same subject with tons of replies and views. Sure they may be old, but they are worth their weight in platinum. Or is it efficient to reinvent the wheel over and over because all women are different and things change so much?