The truth is out

[lonelyeditor]

Yes, fellow DJers, it's true: I'm a lsoer
I've been coming to this site and collected the wisdom of the group and nothing has happened. I changed my attitude by lightening up a bit. I also starte to work out and I've the weight and I'm keeping it off. I' also trying to go out more to more places instead of the same old hangouts.
So if I made those changes, I should get at least one girl to fall head over heels?
No.
We're back to square one except for the working out, which I still do, but recent disappointments have started to give me some thoughts.
Maybe it's me is the first one, Maybe it's the DJs and experts or just the women.
My answer is all three.
While I haven't been exactly Mr. Swinger, I feel that a breakthrough should have been made. The attitude of you guys and the experts make it seem that anyone can do. Have the self-esteem to go up to a bunch of girls and just talk to one without the friends saying something or a girl by herself who you think is cool but you know she might be busy or have a bf, fiance or worse -- husband and come out with the same gung-ho attitude. And the women, how dare they run my life. I cna't go to sleep, I cna't really eat because of women.
I may be turning into one of those needy guys but I dont care. I want and I need some p***y and there's no way of getting it, because I have no game or nothing in what I do that interest a woman. I can see the repulsion behind a momentary smile, I can see the way they walk faster. It's no coincidence .. everyone sees it. I've learned to suck it up through the years, but I'm starting to crack. I can't do this forever and I'm afraid of what I would do if my lonliness breaks out for good. Masturbation is not as fun as it used to be, I get ashamed every time now. I'm tired of pretending to F***k these broads. now I wnat to and I'm getting to the point where I would do anything for it. So I guess that's why I left this. To vent my anger for the umpteenth time and ask how do you stop from getting to the point of desparation?

 

[BobbDobbs]

Hey, try one of those escort or outcall massage services. I was reading over at www.nomarriage.com that a lifetime of paying call girls on a weekly basis can be cheaper than some marriage/divorces.

 

[lonelyeditor]

What's Bull is the whole DJ inside you. See I had one years ago, but now he's dead.The weight of "No's" from women has killed him for good.
Obviously, you have never failed, therefore you don't know what it's like.

 

[lonelyeditor]

What's Bull is the whole DJ inside you crap Giaglo. See I had one years ago, but now he's dead.The weight of "No's" from women has killed him for good.
Obviously, you have never failed, therefore you don't know what it's like.

 

[MisterAl]

Women can detect your attitude and don't want any part of it. Look at your signature for heaven's sake! Just reading it brought me down.

Change your attitude, now.

Your inner DJ isn't dead. You've got the poor bastard strapped to a chair and gagged with duct tape. Cut him free!

 

[b's nuts]

desperation is a stinky cologne. if you have to (desperate times call for desperate measures) go for a girl that you have no chance of getting denied with. If you want to bring the numbers up, sometimes you have to bring the quality down till you get some of your confidence back, and can kick your game back into gear. can't sleep? get loaded. anyone can be a dj, because you are a man - a protector, a provider; and this is what girls need. This might seem small, but watch the movie Boiler Room. Act as if. Act as if you have a 9 inch c0ck. If you really know what you want, and you work your ass off for it, you will get it.

 

[Starman]

"Yes, fellow DJers, it's true: I'm a lsoer
I've been coming to this site and collected the wisdom of the group and nothing has happened. I changed my attitude by lightening up a bit. I also starte to work out and I've the weight and I'm keeping it off. I' also trying to go out more to more places instead of the same old hangouts.
So if I made those changes, I should get at least one girl to fall head over heels?"



No where in your post have I read that you actually took everything you learned here..or the improvements you made ..to actually GO OUT there and TRY to get women.

Do you expect just by trying to improve your confidence..trying to exercise and look good..that the women will just FLOCK to you??

WRONG

Tell us HOW many times you have actually TRIED..to get some numbers?

Im serious, Give us an answer to this, and you will find a clue into what you are/arent doing wrong

 

[stormwriter]

Dude, there's somebody for everyone out there. Are you aiming too high? Are you going for chicks out of your league?
What do you look like? Can you post some specific examples of your pickups, and what you said or did, and their reaction? What key points of DJ'ing do you need help with? What are your strong points?

And don't say, "i'm a loser. i dont have any strong points... " Cause i know you have some. Give us something to work with. We know you have SOMETHING going for you. Just give us some material to work with, and we can help your game.

How old are you? Have you tried match.com? Take some good pictures of yourself, subscribe to match.com and write a good, interesting profile. Practice Practice Practice talking to women, even if over email.

Dude, the greats get shot down all the time. I'm the most neurotic dude you will meet, and i have LOTS going for me, but i still screw up nearly every chick i am interested in. That's why i'm here.

And change your USERNAME!!

Pretend to be confident. A stranger doesn't know your past, or ANYTHING about you, so put on a fake show and pretend you get the HOTTEST chicks in town. They don't know any better! It's all a game man, and you gotta play the game. Everytime, and i mean EVERY SINGLE GODDA*N TIME i walk down the street, i have to think, "OK, stand up straight, shoulders back, chest out... it looks better for the chicks... makes me look confident and powerful..."

Try dude. You can't give up.

 

[squirrels]

Stop thinking about it.

The more you think, the more confused and depressed you'll get. It's not something you can understand and reason your way through. It's not something where you can devise these great DJ strategies...

It's an innate, hard-wired function. It's part of who you are by your very nature. It works on a layer beneath logic, whichh is why people like Pook PREACH letting go of all "philosophies" and just believing in yourself.

It's easy to say that it's not working because it's not there. It's there, but your eyes can't see it, your ears can't hear it, and your hands can't touch it. It's like trying to listen to light or look at music. No matter how hard you try, you can't do it. Doesn't mean it's not there.

Stop making conditions for yourself. Stop saying, "I'm not DJ because..." cuz all that's garbage you create for yourself.

So you're not laying women yet. SO WHAT?? Women don't want men who are insecure if they don't get laid for a while. That's the pinnacle of AFCdom. You have to understand that these feelings you're having aren't just the EFFECT of your state of life...they're the CAUSE as well.

Stop thinking. Just be.
"..."

 

[Gonzalo]

You´re setting yourself for frustration if you think that by improving your looks and social skills you are sowing in order to harvest when you get the girl. You harvest when you enjoy looking what you see in the mirror, when you enjoy the adrenaline rush you get from walking up to a stranger just for the hell of it. I think of the positive and negative responses as tallys in a chart, I dont care much for the NOs, because they´re just that, numbers.

Gotta enjoy DJying for the sake of DJying. "Whatever you dream, keep walking..."

 

[Player_Supreme]

I have found that you create your own reality. If you believe you will never get this izm down then you never will. Try to fake it until you make it. Here is something from my files from another posting site:

This is for the brotha who asked me privately about how to fake it*
So how do you act like an alpha?
Imagine how you would behave toward the biatch if you had 8 other ho’s waiting in line to fulfill your needs right then. Imagine if these ho’s were just waiting for you to call to throw some pusasy at you then you:
1. You act smooth as ****, ****y confident and super sure of your self. This alone sets them panties to burning.
2. You play hard to get. This is also a disquised test to see if your like those other symps who wanna just fuack.
3. You exude confidence, because it doesn’t matter what she thinks of yo ass you got 8 other ho’s who think highly of you and will drink your spew from a champaine glass.
4. You let her ass do most of the work. Buy “me” a drink biatch. This **** really works too.
5. You spit some game at her but she has to meet you more than half way in the convo.
6. If she said something stupid like she doesn’t sleep with someone on the first date,. You tell the biatch she’s gotta do better than that. “You gotta do better than that baby” “Shaquitta, yo’ big ass is going to have to do better than that ****”
7. If she declines, you walk the **** away first. I did this with that Russian ***** I met last week. She thought a nigga was going to jump through hoops (tried to test me to see if I would symp the **** out). I walked the fu*ck away from her, and went to talk to another ho’, like I stated in another post who do you think she went to at the end of the evening?
8. If you do grace the biatch with some of your valuable time, you set your tolerance low. You ass is a pimp, your not going to sit there for hours and listen to her babbling **** about the starving children of the world. “baby this has been real but I gots things to do.” Seriously direct that convo where you want it to go.
9. When she says or does something stupid point that **** out. Make fun of her silly ass. I am a master of this ****. I can impersonate people to a tee and believe me when I get done making fun of dime ass biatches they know who their daddy is.
10. If you don’t agree with the ***** on something step the **** up and say so. I told this fine sista a few weeks ago she was full of ****. She thought she was so hot because she knows Danny Glover and works for him on occasion with her PR company projects. Hell biatch I know the business too, I’m not impressed. Wanna impress me take my black di*ck and swallow every last inch of it and not gag, ****.
11. One of Paradise’s jewels. Compliment the biatch sparingly or if at all.
12. When you do grace a ho with your eye presence, you look at her as if you are evaluating or appraising the biatch. Keep that wolf under raps. Essentially you are appraising her for her chances to hang with YOU. See that shi*t on eye contact fellas.
Keep this **** as your operating procedures and you will land some serious ho’s. If you find you don’t agree with me on this **** or any of my ****, just hit your ignore button and you will never hear another word that I spit.

 

[Oxide]

no, no , **** this, you are a lsoer!

now how about you tuck your ***** in and find some confidence?

 

[lonelyeditor]

The naem and the signature will not change because those two things describe who I am. I'm an lonely reporter/editor at a news paper that's lonely and my signature is true no matter what you say.
All I wnt to be for once is noticed. It seems that can't and will never happen, so I waill just go around my little town and just work. I feel I'm much better with that.
My attitude or desparation does not drive away the women, I think many other factors contribute to it. A big one is they are all married or have a boyfriend. All of them. I have lowered my standards, but it still does not work.
You see, there is someone for everyone except for mr. It may be my anger talking, but the truth is there, No smiles, no winks, no hellos. (I would like at least one hello from a woman) Oh yeah, I'm not insecure, I'm horny, there's a big difference. Just like all of you, but since I can't be like all of you, I have to be called insecure or have low self-esteem.
I've always tried to be nice and reserved and I feel that has gotten me to a point where I can't jsut go up and talk to a woman. What if they say "get away from me" or something like that. I would be looked at as some stalker or something. Called a stalker for jsut saying Hi? I don't want that. I cna try to fake having confidence, but that falls apart quickly when boyfriend or friend or No comes up.
I'm a boring loser who has lost all faith in my abilities in almost everything I do. But I can shock you once in a while like this:
Oxide, F*** you!
I got that off my chest, so I'm going to masturbate some more and think about what you have all said, since I'm not going to get laid anyway.

 

[Starman]

man, if you have been like this all your life..check into Social Phobia..but the fact still remains

YOU ARE NOT TRYING TO GET #'s!!!

THEY WILL NOT..I REPEAT WILL NOT!! COME TO U!!

You wont get hello's, you wont get winks, or smiles unless you do something about it..wallowing in pity has NEVER done anyone good..Does it make you feel better when you consider yourself a useless, loner? with a hopeless future??

 

[lonelyeditor]

Yes, because it gives me an explanation for what I am. HTe roblem is, I don know what or who I am? I don't know if I'm a DJ, an AFC, a loser, a loner or anyhting.
At 25, you should know everything, but I don't know that. I've never really had a chance to develop anyhting that lasts.
Friendships?? Not that many, if at all
Women?, well, it's mostly me and a fear of embarassment. I can't make a fool of myself no matter what.
I actually think I have some skills, but I never have the chance, it's like a second-string quarterback behind a guy who has started for 10 years, jsut sitting and not doing anything
So to at least feel like I can get some attention, I vent my anger on this forum. Sometimes I listen, other times, I retaliate, but I'm actually getting attention, if for a little while.
Isn't that what at DJ's all about? To put attention to themselves so people can notice them. I'm not even close to that at all, but I guess Ijust better start with some friends first, because this chasing women stuff gets exhausting.
Even though I think men and women can't be friends, I will try to prove myself wrong.

 

[PreceptMan]

Buddy -- Loose the loser attitude

For you own sake, activate your motivation. You are posting about how lonely and desperate you are... The truth is... YOU ARE!!! If you believe it, you are... If you see yourself as a true DJ, then you are one... The self-fulfilling prophecy my friend. Just keep at it... You have no confidence and you need it!!!!!!! Listen to the advice on the boards and show the world you are the man!!!

Louis.

 

[MetalFortress]

ghaaaaaaaa!!

YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE FIRST THING ABOUT BEING A DJ!!!

Let me clear something up... being a DJ is not about being an attention *****... being a DJ is about being a confident, happy man, who can adapt seamlessly to situations and doesn't fret if he's alone and not getting attention...

And stop whining about the word "no"... part of being a DJ is knowing how to gracefully take "NO" for an answer from women, and to even ENJOY getting no for an answer, because it is chalked up to more experience for you!!! You can't just read a few DJ Bible posts and expect a miracle to happen... you have to MAKE it happen. If your inner DJ is out, hearing "no" will only help him to grow as a DJ, realize what he is doing wrong, know what he is doing right when he gets yes's, cut off the deadweight and overtake your AFC self...

If you get said no to 100 times in a day, and get said yes to 10 times in that same day, then look what you have... 10 PHONE NUMBERS! That's 10 potential dates!! It's like one of those candy machines that guarantees that you'll pick up something with the claw each time you put in a quarter... it doesn't matter how many times you screw up, all that matters is more experience from it, LEARNING from the whole bit, and getting what you want at the end of the day. I DARE you to talk to at least 30 women a day for an entire week and go for numbers... unless you are a talking parrot or Saddam Hussein, you WILL get some numbers...

 

[lonelyeditor]

Answer this question? How can I get 10 phone numbers if every girl in the world has a significant other?? Tell me that!!
Because it doesnt matter what the excuse, boyfriend, I just met you, I'm too busy to go out, you try too hard.
The results are the same:
Other guys: 10 phone numbers or more
lonelyeditor: 0 and a word of advice from the last girl he asks out: Don't try too hard, give me space and drop dead off the face of the earth.

 

[OddTech]

Dude, you can flame me, but what DO YOU WANT FROM US? People like Starman, squirrels and stormwriters are giving you sound advice, but you counter with "oh, I'm a loser." You're not making it easier.

What do you want to hear from us? You want some magic transformation spell or something? What?

Everybody wants to get "noticed," but most of us don't. Heck, I never got a wink or anything like that before. That's just life, it's going to be unfair. You just gotta keep trudging along. Dating is a numbers game. So if your odds are 1000:1, take the challenge and ask 1000 girls! Damn it. As Doc Love said, "get it on!"

 

[Don Ronny]

Choice #1

Go out there and collect 30 rejections. Yes this is a challenge and you are probably too big of a wuss to do it but fukkit, you need some tough love cuz you sound pathetic! Every day, go out and meet women. Say hello to them and ask them for directions, or whatever. Just today I opened a girl by asking if she liked to dance. She said yes so I took her hand and twirled her around. We are goin dancing this weekend. This is not hard once you get over your fear. You are lonely because you are scared. You are scared because to you rejection is this terrible monster waiting to devour your soul.

I DARE you to face this monster. Collect 30 rejections and then come back here and post.

Choice #2

Keep doing what you are doing. You can always get one of those Real Dolls, or move to someplace with a lot of sheep. Failing that you can always just lower your standards and spend the rest of your life with a fat, sloppy old hag who will make every day of your existence a living, nagging hell until the sweet release of your death gives you the only peace you´ve ever known


The choice is yours numbnuts.