The truth is out

[Santos]

Joined this board in 2001 when I started college. Met one girl that I liked. She had a BF. Left board (hence my new user name). Whole of 2002 NOT ONE GIRL! This year come back to this site: Dated 4 girls, got to second base with two of them. They're around a 7 on my scale . Moral of the story? Keep trying, you're bound to succeed.

 

[CLOONEY]

Man at least you realised you had no confidence. At first you were saying you are not insecure blah blah blah. Man the first step in becoming a DJ is realising exactly who you are. I can tell you, everybody is insecure as fukc. They might go through a patch where they feel invincible (I thought I was for a year or two), then some big things happen in your life, when you really have to look deep down inside and turn yourself around, and the only way to do this is be open with yourself first. Everyone can say they are "the man", whatever they want, but when they go through a hard time, as you are, sometimes for similar reasons, sometimes for things totally different, they feel like sh*t too.

All I can say is you have to change your attitude, which you seem to have done. This is a good start, just dont let yourself slip back into that hole, because once you are inside it is hard to climb back out. Just remember that the first instinct of a human when times get tough is to quit. You have to be a warrior and keep on pushing on, just one foot infront of the other, Life is a struggle...fight it.

Finally all I can say is I am in the opposite situation to you, I have girls chasing me around all over the place everywhere I go. But this has got me into quite the predicament. I went to a party the other night and a girl kept giving me drinks all the time, getting me REALLY REALLY drunk, then she fukced me without a condom. I now have been in heaps of trouble, trying to get her to tell me if she is on the pill, and now have the worry about STD's. Seriously man there are good sides and bad sides to everything. Just try to see the positive things, and keep on pushing through the hard times and you will turn out alright.

Best of luck mate, take it easy.

 

[DonJohn83]

Go watch fight club.

If you have, then watch it again.

DonJohn83

 

[wildleopard]

hey clooney..

what do you look like? its normally said u dont get gurls unless you approach em.. so how do they fall for you.. it must be the looks.. or what is it?

thanks.

 

[NMMWCR]

The dark side of DJ

NLE has been getting help. He'll get there.

This seems like a good time and place for me to go on a rant. This whole 'seduction' movement online from SS, asf, DJ center, DYD, etc is al very predatory. You can jump up and down and insist that this site or any of the others are unique and provide real value but there is an achillees heel for each on. They are all preying on your insecurities. The universal theme at every one of them is this DON'T JUST BE YOURSELF.

Being yourself is bad because they assume that who you are, who you REALLY are, sucks. I'm going to suggest something that is utterly and completely anathema here. The only thing that will ever, and I mean EVER get you real success with women (or in any other area of life) is to...*drum roll*...just be yourself. That's right! The dreaded JBY!!!

There is a never ending supply of people who will post articles about how JBY doesn't work. Because who you are sucks you see? And you need to visit our site, click our banners, buy our stuff so we can teach you how to be someone who doesn't suck. Because we care. But you're a sucker if you believe it.

There is nothing wrong with JBY because THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WHO YOU ARE. That goes double for (Not) Lonely Editor. Don't let anyone convince you that you need to change. You need to learn how to Just Be Yourself.

Here's the part where I'm going to smack you upside the head. Don't give me any of that sh1t about you "tried" just being yourself. Like fvck you did. You were too chickensh1t to just be yourself. You wussed out and took on a bunch of supplicating behaviors because you thought you could make her like you. The real you is buried under a mountain of crap.

You see, Just Be Yourself is actually one hell of a lot of hard work. It means you have to be open to rejection. Real rejection. Not this throw mud on the wall until it sticks and shrug it off when it doesn't work cause you're better than her anyway. You wouldn't have asked if you thought you were above her. Pfft. Duh. JBY means you have to put the real you out there and risk having the things that are most important to you dismissed as irrelevant. A true DJ is a guy who is comfortable enough with the real person he is to not be bothered by a rejection. He knows he is worthwhile based on his own perception, not what others think, say or do.

Somewhere inside you, buried under years of bullsh1t social conditioning is a guy that people, women included are going to love. A guy that YOU are going to love too. When the real you, the REAL you, is unleashed, you will not have confidence problems anymore. No more of this fake it till you make it bullsh1t. Here's a clue, the guys who tell you that faking it gave them real confidence, are STILL FAKING IT. (Flame away gentlemen, I know that one got under your skin.) The real them is still buried. That's why they are still here. They needs tools to keep up the illusion. When they become themselves, it is effortless. See Pook's "Be a Man" for an example of what I'm talking about here. Embrace your inner self. Embrace that which is you. Don't let anybody tell you that the essential characteristics of who you are represent something broken.

Stand and just be yourself. Face the world without fear.

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by wildleopard
hey clooney..

what do you look like? its normally said u dont get gurls unless you approach em.. so how do they fall for you.. it must be the looks.. or what is it?

thanks.

I am not bad looking ............but thats not the point, the point is that in everything there are goods and bads, and u just have to see the positive things. See the glass half full, not half empty so to speak.

 

[Jango_Xavier]

LonelyEditor, I have only 3 words for you = follow boot camp.




Jango_X

 

[stuartSan]

Getting nostalgic memories of bashful, anyone?

 

[am4591]

posted by NMMWCR:

There is nothing wrong with JBY because THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WHO YOU ARE. That goes double for (Not) Lonely Editor. Don't let anyone convince you that you need to change. You need to learn how to Just Be Yourself.

Wrong. This is the kind of If-it-ain't-broke-don't-fix-it attitude I hear all the time. Everybody can improve themselves in some area. Just because nothing's wrong with somebody doesn't mean he can't better himself.