This is a great post. Way to completely tear apart the AFC mindset!
However, I want to comment on several points. Some of these you might have wrote to get a specific point across though.
Girlfriend material women ARE available in nightclubs and bars. Just because you picked her up at a club/bar DOES NOT mean that she is only interested in ONS. Conversely, just because you meet her at a church/yoga class DOES NOT mean that she is interested in LTR.
Through my social circle, I've picked up few girls who RARELY (once every 3-4 months and special events like birthdays) go to bars/clubs, and they turned out to be just as *slutty* and non-LTR material as the girls I've picked up at clubs/bars.
On the other hand, I've recently met somebody at a bar who is very much an LTR material. She goes to bars/clubs with her friends to hang with them and have a good time. She actually told me the other day that she still can't believe I was able to pick her up at the bar since she *always* rejects a guy's advance when she is at a bar/club.
My point is, do NOT limit yourself to venue...whatever it is you're looking for. The place that you meet a girl doesn't define the type of relationship (ONS/LTR) you will have with her. The type of person she is, and more importantly, your interest in her will define the type of relationship you will have with her.
On the same token, some guys will RELIGIOUSLY stick to meeting girls ONLY from the internet (myspace, eharmony, etc.). They think that approaching and meeting women in real life is too difficult because they don't know what to say, they think women in public aren't looking to get approached, etc. whatever bull$hit reasons they can concoct up. They preach on and on and on about how meeting women from online saves them time, the headache, lets them choose better, etc.
While the underlying truth is that they are just too afraid of rejection from approaching and meeting a woman in real life. On the internet, at least, the rejection won't be as severe because they've invested a whooping 2 seconds in sending their cheesy message. The less they invest themselves in the process, the less the impact of rejection.
Seduction community does NOT teach how to form and/or maintain relationships where you are the Man. Maybe the community's purpose ISN'T to form/maintain relationships. Whatever the case may be, the fact remains that very few guys on here know how to act/behave after you get in a relationship.
And you know what the paradox/irony is? It's that to remain the Man in a strong relationship...all you have to do is apply the basic principles and mindsets of DJ 101. This is why being a DJ is a lifestyle, and not a set of tricks and techniques that is so profoundly advertised on this site and others.
If everybody embraced this mantra, majority of their problems will become trivial.
And the interesting thing is that you have to go through certain experiences in life in order to know what you want or what you do not want. This is why I get irritated every time some rookie makes an extensive list about the qualities he is looking for in a woman. It's like, what makes you believe that you WON'T like a girl who doesn't fit most of the qualities that you pulled out of thin air?
Again, A+ post! Outstanding work, my friend. I just wanted to share some of my thoughts regarding those things above.
However, I want to comment on several points. Some of these you might have wrote to get a specific point across though.
The part in bold, I believe, is a HUGE misunderstanding that almost everyone on here has. As I said before, you might have wrote this to get a point across and if you have, then I'm glad we're on the same page. If not, then here is my thinking:Craig Reeves said:
Girlfriend material women ARE available in nightclubs and bars. Just because you picked her up at a club/bar DOES NOT mean that she is only interested in ONS. Conversely, just because you meet her at a church/yoga class DOES NOT mean that she is interested in LTR.
Through my social circle, I've picked up few girls who RARELY (once every 3-4 months and special events like birthdays) go to bars/clubs, and they turned out to be just as *slutty* and non-LTR material as the girls I've picked up at clubs/bars.
On the other hand, I've recently met somebody at a bar who is very much an LTR material. She goes to bars/clubs with her friends to hang with them and have a good time. She actually told me the other day that she still can't believe I was able to pick her up at the bar since she *always* rejects a guy's advance when she is at a bar/club.
My point is, do NOT limit yourself to venue...whatever it is you're looking for. The place that you meet a girl doesn't define the type of relationship (ONS/LTR) you will have with her. The type of person she is, and more importantly, your interest in her will define the type of relationship you will have with her.
Exactly! Another term for this is "buffers" against rejection. Some guys will AVOID the club/bar scene like a plague simply because they believe that they don't stand a chance AND they falsely believe that girls at clubs/bars are not girlfriend material.
On the same token, some guys will RELIGIOUSLY stick to meeting girls ONLY from the internet (myspace, eharmony, etc.). They think that approaching and meeting women in real life is too difficult because they don't know what to say, they think women in public aren't looking to get approached, etc. whatever bull$hit reasons they can concoct up. They preach on and on and on about how meeting women from online saves them time, the headache, lets them choose better, etc.
While the underlying truth is that they are just too afraid of rejection from approaching and meeting a woman in real life. On the internet, at least, the rejection won't be as severe because they've invested a whooping 2 seconds in sending their cheesy message. The less they invest themselves in the process, the less the impact of rejection.
Bingo!
Seduction community does NOT teach how to form and/or maintain relationships where you are the Man. Maybe the community's purpose ISN'T to form/maintain relationships. Whatever the case may be, the fact remains that very few guys on here know how to act/behave after you get in a relationship.
And you know what the paradox/irony is? It's that to remain the Man in a strong relationship...all you have to do is apply the basic principles and mindsets of DJ 101. This is why being a DJ is a lifestyle, and not a set of tricks and techniques that is so profoundly advertised on this site and others.
"Don't wish things were easier, wish you were better."
If everybody embraced this mantra, majority of their problems will become trivial.
YES!!!
And the interesting thing is that you have to go through certain experiences in life in order to know what you want or what you do not want. This is why I get irritated every time some rookie makes an extensive list about the qualities he is looking for in a woman. It's like, what makes you believe that you WON'T like a girl who doesn't fit most of the qualities that you pulled out of thin air?
Again, A+ post! Outstanding work, my friend. I just wanted to share some of my thoughts regarding those things above.
