Met a chick and we decided to go out.
Date 1:
On our first date we held hands and made out at the end of the date.
There was a good amount of texting going on (initiated by her, which I kept to a minimum as to avoid being text buddies and having nothing to talk about on the next date), and admitting we wanted to keep going further.
Date 2:
On our second date we went out and she was putting her arm around me, we were making out pretty heavily in public, and she was clawing at my back as she was reaching down my shirt and clawing at my legs. She told me she hates PDA but turned down going to my place and got us a cab to leave but continued making out with me pretty aggressively at the bar, cab, and when the cab dropped her off at her place.
Date 3:
On our third date, same thing, we made out heavily and she wanted to go for drinks after dinner, but everything was closed, so I grabbed some wine and we went back to my place (actually a place I was renting with a friend as she knew he would be in town and we wanted to have an empty place - since my parents were visiting from out of town and I let them stay at mine). Talking and heavy making out which led to us being in my bed with our shoes off and us reaching up and down each other's shirts, me reaching down her pants and grabbing her butt, etc. I figure at this point cool, deal is sealed, then out of nowhere she can't do this because this is only our 3rd and she doesn't know me that well. She kisses me a few more times, then leaves the room and brings some wine back in, lays on top of me and starts making out again and I think okay we're back on.....then her uber cab calls her telling her that the cab is outside (err what the literal f*ck?) At this point, I don't act like some AFC and just play it cool, telling her text me back when she gets home safely and to enjoy her weekend out of town.
She gets home and thanks me for a great night, and I text her back saying Good, we'll do the date she wanted to do the following weekend, and to let me know how her trip out of town to visit one of her good female friends and said friend's boyfriend.
Don't hear anything for 4 days, so (and this probably my AFC moment here) I figure alright I'll send a ping out and see what happens. Ask her if anything interesting happened on her weekend, and she comes back with a text (26 hours later!) with the normal size text she normally does, tell me it was really good and it was nice and relaxing, and thanks for asking but it seems kind of off...doesn't attempt to keep the conversation going directly or even ask about my week/weekend.
I was busy the next day with my friend who was visiting and we had gotten bad news about someone close to us passing away. I end up shooting her at the end of the day, playing it cool and saying:
Glad she had a nice time, let's meet at the place for the date we talked about the last 2 dates at noon.
Get no reply.
What the hell? So it's been 4 days, the day for the date already passed (and I could sense a flake was coming so I made other plans and enjoyed myself anyway), but what the hell gives? She goes from being all over me and me escalating then her backing off, and now full on disappearing.
How do you guys deal with it? I am obviously not going to contact her again, and I have a few other dates lined up, but this chick seemed to have high interest level that just vanished into thin air?
Date 1:
On our first date we held hands and made out at the end of the date.
There was a good amount of texting going on (initiated by her, which I kept to a minimum as to avoid being text buddies and having nothing to talk about on the next date), and admitting we wanted to keep going further.
Date 2:
On our second date we went out and she was putting her arm around me, we were making out pretty heavily in public, and she was clawing at my back as she was reaching down my shirt and clawing at my legs. She told me she hates PDA but turned down going to my place and got us a cab to leave but continued making out with me pretty aggressively at the bar, cab, and when the cab dropped her off at her place.
Date 3:
On our third date, same thing, we made out heavily and she wanted to go for drinks after dinner, but everything was closed, so I grabbed some wine and we went back to my place (actually a place I was renting with a friend as she knew he would be in town and we wanted to have an empty place - since my parents were visiting from out of town and I let them stay at mine). Talking and heavy making out which led to us being in my bed with our shoes off and us reaching up and down each other's shirts, me reaching down her pants and grabbing her butt, etc. I figure at this point cool, deal is sealed, then out of nowhere she can't do this because this is only our 3rd and she doesn't know me that well. She kisses me a few more times, then leaves the room and brings some wine back in, lays on top of me and starts making out again and I think okay we're back on.....then her uber cab calls her telling her that the cab is outside (err what the literal f*ck?) At this point, I don't act like some AFC and just play it cool, telling her text me back when she gets home safely and to enjoy her weekend out of town.
She gets home and thanks me for a great night, and I text her back saying Good, we'll do the date she wanted to do the following weekend, and to let me know how her trip out of town to visit one of her good female friends and said friend's boyfriend.
Don't hear anything for 4 days, so (and this probably my AFC moment here) I figure alright I'll send a ping out and see what happens. Ask her if anything interesting happened on her weekend, and she comes back with a text (26 hours later!) with the normal size text she normally does, tell me it was really good and it was nice and relaxing, and thanks for asking but it seems kind of off...doesn't attempt to keep the conversation going directly or even ask about my week/weekend.
I was busy the next day with my friend who was visiting and we had gotten bad news about someone close to us passing away. I end up shooting her at the end of the day, playing it cool and saying:
Glad she had a nice time, let's meet at the place for the date we talked about the last 2 dates at noon.
Get no reply.
What the hell? So it's been 4 days, the day for the date already passed (and I could sense a flake was coming so I made other plans and enjoyed myself anyway), but what the hell gives? She goes from being all over me and me escalating then her backing off, and now full on disappearing.
How do you guys deal with it? I am obviously not going to contact her again, and I have a few other dates lined up, but this chick seemed to have high interest level that just vanished into thin air?
