The Silent Treatment part 2

[My Name is Nobody]

That young chic that I broke up with a month ago is back. Or so I thought.

We started talking again and we met up over a week ago and she came back to my place. We stayed up really late, had fun and fooled around. Just heavy making out no sex, unfortunately. She passed out cold on my bed @ 3am what was I supposed to do?

The next morning she had to leave early and she gave me a nice goodbye kiss, so I thought we were good to go. I was duped again.

I called her in a couple days no answer. Then 3 days later she texts me TWO long texts explaining how she's "so sorry! My phone was off and blah blah blah. I'll call you soon blah blah blah". Yeah right, the phone was off for a week. Sure.

I didn't hear from her this weekend and made another attempt to contact her and she ignored me again! I still haven't heard from her.

I guess she only got back with me to feed her ego since I broke up with her. Now she knows I still want her and she feels better. Maybe she faked passing out to withhold the sex as a power move. Now I'm about to tell her to f/ck off again I'm tired of the games.

I don't know how else to explain it what do you guys think?

 

[SunnyD]

If you still want her, why did you break up with her?

Well I'd say you're right. It's one of two things:

a) She went back to you to "dupe" you.

b) She is scared of getting hurt again so she is distancing.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

If you still want her, why did you break up with her?

Well I'd say you're right. It's one of two things:

a) She went back to you to "dupe" you.

b) She is scared of getting hurt again so she is distancing.

Because she is young and immature. She put out on the first date and I think that turned me off believe it or not. Plus my gut was telling me that she was playing me for a place to hang out with free beer, food and entertainment.

Now I changed my mind and I like her more but she is pulling this silent treatment crap. Neither of us ever talked about getting exclusive and she b!tched at me on the 4th date because I didn't buy her flowers yet.

To this day I still haven't bought her a damn thing. Plus I broke up with her right before Valentines day and didn't even say happy valentines day to her. She didn't act hurt when we broke up she played it like "whatever".. so I am confused now.

 

[SunnyD]

Hmm...well then I'd say she is how I am. I cried over this guy for months, he came back, I got with him again and felt pretty "meh" about it. Exactly that, "oh good, he does still want me..." I felt pretty indifferent about it until he found a new girl...then all of a sudden I find myself all hung up on him again. Maybe you need to let her know you've got other things going on...

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Maybe you need to let her know you've got other things going on...

How am I supposed to do that?

 

[SunnyD]

How am I supposed to do that?

I'm not sure..do you have mutual friends? Hang out at the same places? Don't rub anything in her face like your an ass just laying whoever...but make her wonder, "well where is he? Out with someone? Why isnt he calling me anymore? Does he have someone else already?"

I figured it out pretty quick. I'd say just don't contact her for a few weeks...trust me, she'll notice. If she doesn't, she's not interested enough to care so move on.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I'm not sure..do you have mutual friends? Hang out at the same places?

No.

I figured it out pretty quick. I'd say just don't contact her for a few weeks...trust me, she'll notice. If she doesn't, she's not interested enough to care so move on.

Yeah, that's what I did the first time and she came back but now I'm pretty sure I don't want her back.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Plus I am almost sure she lied about the phone being off because it rang like 6 times when I called. What cell phones ring when they are turned off? I don't know of any.

 

[reset]

Dude, if you're looking for casual sex with no strings attached, then you're doing fine. If you're looking for any sort of meaningful relationship, you're with the wrong chicks, and to get with the right girls, you have to change. You're not going to have a good relationship until you're ready to handle one.

Forget about what this chick is or isn't doing. Just use her for sex.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Dude, if you're looking for casual sex with no strings attached, then you're doing fine. If you're looking for any sort of meaningful relationship, you're with the wrong chicks, and to get with the right girls, you have to change. You're not going to have a good relationship until you're ready to handle one.

Forget about what this chick is or isn't doing. Just use her for sex.

yeah man maybe I'm to the point I'm looking for more, so what is she looking for?

 

[reset]

You're looking for more with her after this stuff has happened?

 

[j0n024]

I dont think you should blow up in her face and say "Fvck off!" I think you should forget her like you did before and DJ, IF she comes back and IF she wants to set something up then act indifferent....DONT kiss her cheek, DONT bring her to your house. I think you should freeze her out, but then again you seem to go right back with her without actually thinking of what she has done to you.

 

[DonGorgon]

You were supposed to f her... some women get very angry when you dont f them when you have a perfect chance.. I lost one 3 weeks back due to that... =(

 

[00Kevin]

well... She is most likely fuc-king some other dude now. A hor is as a hor does, but why do you care?

 

[DonGorgon]

well... She is most likely fuc-king some other dude now. A hor is as a hor does, but why do you care?

True... we care cause our egos get hurt

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Well after a couple weeks of not contacting this girl I sent a ****y funny message to her about "dropping her new guy I am much more interesting". This was Saturday.

She comes back with this "I think it's SO funny you think I am with another guy. I've been doing blah blah and blah and I am not with another guy"

OK, so maybe I believe her. I call her yesterday to hang out she doesn't answer. Then at night, she sends me a text

"hey I just got to blah blah we are going skiiing until Thursday maybe when I get back we can hook up"

WTF? So I check my calendar and it's spring break for the college she dropped out of. Who wants to bet she is over there getting shagged all week by her college boyfriends? I don't know this for sure, it could be a family trip.

Then she tells me "maybe" we can hang out when she gets back. This one is a piece of work.

In summary, it makes sense that she acted so distant the last few weeks because she had this ski date planned where she will meet up with guys she likes to f/kk. And not f/kking me for those 2 weeks will make her feel better about it, or something.

Should have got rid of this one a long time ago, but for some reason I always let them come back for more.

 

[reset]

Should have got rid of this one a long time ago, but for some reason I always let them come back for more.

Because drama can be addictive, you like the highs and lows of anticipating her next move, which is btw what chicks get off on, but you know that. And why can drama be so addictive? Because it adds excitement, excitement that is lacking in OTHER aspects of your life. What else do you have going on in your life other than trying to nail chicks?

You like drama dude. If you can't accept that you're not going to have successful outcomes here.

And if you're looking for successful outcomes, you'll learn to qualify much better. I'm sure you got a sign or two here or there early on that she was not LTR candidate, but you allowed it to progress. Even when she was no contact, you couldn't handle and had to contact, which means you're looking for validation.

Basically your self-esteem goes on hold as long as she is "MIA" and you need a fix to know what your next move in life is going to be.

All pretty much my story as well, but I have decided I'm going to do my best to not repeat those mistakes.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Because drama can be addictive, you like the highs and lows of anticipating her next move, which is btw what chicks get off on, but you know that. And why can drama be so addictive? Because it adds excitement, excitement that is lacking in OTHER aspects of your life. What else do you have going on in your life other than trying to nail chicks?

You like drama dude. If you can't accept that you're not going to have successful outcomes here.

And if you're looking for successful outcomes, you'll learn to qualify much better. I'm sure you got a sign or two here or there early on that she was not LTR candidate, but you allowed it to progress. Even when she was no contact, you couldn't handle and had to contact, which means you're looking for validation.

Basically your self-esteem goes on hold as long as she is "MIA" and you need a fix to know what your next move in life is going to be.

All pretty much my story as well, but I have decided I'm going to do my best to not repeat those mistakes.

The funny thing is I dumped this girl and didn't care about her but I let her come back a few weeks later and THEN I started feeling something for her. And then she was nice and sweet in my face but now we see what she was really up to.

Don't worry I won't be contacting her again. And when she contacts me I will ignore her ass so she knows how it feels.

 

[SunnyD]

I don't know about liking the drama. My last situation just like this, that I am going on ONE month no contact btw! Good for me... anyway, it was FULL of drama. That's all it was...drama. And I'm pretty sure he didn't like that and that's why he got tired of it and found someone new less full of drama. Can't say I liked it much either, pretty glad to be out of the situation now, even though I miss him. Guess he doesn't miss me much since he hasn't bothered getting in touch with me at all. Because he knows, it will just be drama.

Anyway, MNIN...I wouldn't jump the gun so quick about blowing her off. She may be off with the family, and she did say you could maybe hang out when she gets back. I don't think she meant maybe as in "if you're lucky" but more of a "maybe if you'd like..." You said you dumped her, obviously she's on guard.

I'd just see if she contacts you when she gets back like she said she would. Don't assume she's off "banging all her college guy friends." But don't contact her first, let her.

I don't think you need anyone to tell you that though, just saying...this hasn't necessarily been nipped in the bud yet..if you still want it.

 

[reset]

You already ignored her ass. Who cares if she feels bad. Wanting her to feel pain is you saying your pride is hurt by her, therefore, you still need validation from her.

Think about what I said though. What else do you have going on besides women. What are your passions in life, do you have any?