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That's kinds of the main point, that I wholeheartedly agree with. Guys get the "bug" of their sexual aggression, and it never leaves them. It consumes them. And their conquest for that one prized woman is a bitter end, because they realize once they have her, which they never do, but once they "think they" do, then all is set. Quite the opposite. In reality, that's when the SEARCH begins for THEMSELVES. That's when they try to found out WHO they are. Because while they spent their most prized possession, their youth, jumping through hoops to get women to satisfy their biological urges, time and opportunity passed them by.
A woman is what a woman is. She will only be BETTER for you, when you are the best TO YOURSELF that you can be. When you don't really NEED outside counsel to get through an issue. When you can find happiness on your own and handle her whimsical ways. A woman is what she is, like an ocean is at times rough and violent. You wouldn't find a calm ocean, anymore than you would find a calm woman. But guys come to these such sites trying to MANIPULATE reality. They either think it will end with finding the PERFECT woman, or the PERFECT tactic, when the REAL paradox is that THEY are to blame. You won't find the BEST woman, but you will find one with whom the worst times aren't so bad, and the best times are the BEST with her that they can be. What makes woman, woman is just that sort of nature, but men are not normally PREPARED to handle her.
It's not any stretch of my imagination to think of a guy going off into the woods for his own good, returning a man, and being able to handle the most prized woman he can find. That's far better than forever remaining a young boy, chasing prized arse, but never really growing up to handle more mature, more beautiful women.
This is the odd paradox to this site. When you come, the PRIMARY driver is HER. Getting the one. Getting her. Or getting many women. IN any event, you continue on, learning the PRIMARY piece is YOU. In figuring that out. The dissolution of MANY relationships is because the person entering any kind of relationship IS NOT TRUE TO WHO THEY ARE. And many guys falter here, because they get the woman, but HOW they got her isn't who he really is. It's easy to WEAR DJ tactics in the short-run, but over the long-run your tendencies come out, and whatever habits you put in play, so that you reveal your inner you and your beliefs, whatever they may be. And then you're back at ground zero. SOOO many new and old posts are....
"Guys I came here like 1 year ago, began dating, had lots of success, worked on myself, got a bunch of women, then began dating one girl seriously. We were great. But then she got weird, and blah, blah, blah. No I'm committed to myself and this site again and the path."
What happened? You fell of the path. Lost hold of the truth. Put the SECONDARY (her) primary, and made the PRIMARY (you) secondary. Foolish. It isn't starting from square one, you were on the path, you fell off, now get back on.
A woman DOES not bring anything to you you don't already have, which is happiness. SHE AUGMENTS WHAT YOU HAVE. Alot of problems occur in a relationship because a guy isn't HONEST. TRULY honest. Guy finds girl, and does what's BEST for the relationship, and not necessarily HER or HIM. Thereby, "lying" to her. This creates a false image of who you are and it creates problems, because when you try to SPRING it back toward where it should be, her history with you is based on a different guy. If you're true to you, you have alot of greatness ahead of you.
A-Unit