Hey fellas!
I've been away from this place for quite a while. Some may know me....and some may not.
I have learned so much in the past 3-4 years of my life it scares me sometimes. And it's only gonna get better.
So, I decided I would dispense some wisdom here today. Some may find it useful, and some may not.
The key to any woman, no matter what, is strength/masculinity. This is CRUCIAL in life guys. Just adapt strong traits....and you'll do fine....as far as attraction is concerned. All women by their very nature are wired to respond to masculinity. I think a major problem with many guys on this board, and I know for myself it was at one time....and still is a growing process.....is that you (we) fail to embrace or allow ourselves to act our gender. You gotta be strong. We are males, we are designed to be masculine... simple, strong, passionate, visionary, to lead/take charge, to be brave etc. I could go on and on.
Learn how to behave and respond accordingly in all situations in life. Face a problem with courage and determination. Don't cower away and hide.
Masculinity (Strength) isn't necessarily the same to each woman and for each man. 'Activities' don't determine whether you are manly or not. But behavior does.
It's a certain waywe have about ourselves that determines how others see us. Our ways are determined by how we act.
Have convictions!!!!!!!!!!! Oh man, this is a big one. If you don't assert convictions, you'll be seen as moldable, or 'soft'. Remember, stand for something or you'll fall for anything! That phrase may seem tired and cheesey, but there is alot of truth behind it.
Listen to your fears!! It's been said before on here...but your fears should be your guide. Go to where they call you. Don't be afraid. In today's world especially, with all the feminized men there are around, you'll gain mountians of repect for simply doing your best even if you do fail.
Now, on to a deeper relationship level.
Once again, be strong. If she cries alot at movies....you don't!!
If she is scared....pull her close and reassure her.
Be nice......!!!!!!!!!OUCH there it is.....the big 'n' word!!!!! Know that as long as your strong enough, niceness will work wonders for you!! If you're not strong enough....you're just a 'nice guy'.
Get it???
Niceness was never the problem to begin with. It's lack of maleness that is. The mistake is in putting the responsibility for getting the girl on niceness.....that's not even what it's about.
Honesty....this is a big one too. Be honest about how you 'feel'. I know many of you fear that, but here is the issue. Let's say you let something get to you and your woman takes notice. You can't hide it from her. She KNOWS you were frustraded by something, or she realizes that you got upset with yourself b/c you failed at something. Many times the tendancy is to cover it up and act as though it didn't get to you. But, she knows it did. If you try to pull some sort of overmacho act or avoid the issue she will lose respect for you!! Simply say "I'm upset because of.......... or, I failed and am upset with myself, but I know I'm going to do better next time. You see, this shows her that your in touch with yourself AND that you're not afraid od dealing with the issue in a straightforward manner.
You have the confidence to admit/deal with/ and press on.
Get it???
You're doing yourself no good by bottling everything up all the time b/c you might deny yourself an opportunity to bond with her. And she needs that bonding to continue to feel deep/intimate w/ you. Many times a woman's orgasmic abilities and sexual comfort are a result of masculinity combined with closeness to the guy. He may be masculine, but if the closeness/emotional factor isn't there, she will be unsatisfied. And, vice versa.
It's all about the balance.
I'll post next on 'connection' and the implications it has for a LTR.
Until then, I need to get back to some things.
Later guys!
I've been away from this place for quite a while. Some may know me....and some may not.
I have learned so much in the past 3-4 years of my life it scares me sometimes. And it's only gonna get better.
So, I decided I would dispense some wisdom here today. Some may find it useful, and some may not.
The key to any woman, no matter what, is strength/masculinity. This is CRUCIAL in life guys. Just adapt strong traits....and you'll do fine....as far as attraction is concerned. All women by their very nature are wired to respond to masculinity. I think a major problem with many guys on this board, and I know for myself it was at one time....and still is a growing process.....is that you (we) fail to embrace or allow ourselves to act our gender. You gotta be strong. We are males, we are designed to be masculine... simple, strong, passionate, visionary, to lead/take charge, to be brave etc. I could go on and on.
Learn how to behave and respond accordingly in all situations in life. Face a problem with courage and determination. Don't cower away and hide.
Masculinity (Strength) isn't necessarily the same to each woman and for each man. 'Activities' don't determine whether you are manly or not. But behavior does.
It's a certain waywe have about ourselves that determines how others see us. Our ways are determined by how we act.
Have convictions!!!!!!!!!!! Oh man, this is a big one. If you don't assert convictions, you'll be seen as moldable, or 'soft'. Remember, stand for something or you'll fall for anything! That phrase may seem tired and cheesey, but there is alot of truth behind it.
Listen to your fears!! It's been said before on here...but your fears should be your guide. Go to where they call you. Don't be afraid. In today's world especially, with all the feminized men there are around, you'll gain mountians of repect for simply doing your best even if you do fail.
Now, on to a deeper relationship level.
Once again, be strong. If she cries alot at movies....you don't!!
If she is scared....pull her close and reassure her.
Be nice......!!!!!!!!!OUCH there it is.....the big 'n' word!!!!! Know that as long as your strong enough, niceness will work wonders for you!! If you're not strong enough....you're just a 'nice guy'.
Get it???
Niceness was never the problem to begin with. It's lack of maleness that is. The mistake is in putting the responsibility for getting the girl on niceness.....that's not even what it's about.
Honesty....this is a big one too. Be honest about how you 'feel'. I know many of you fear that, but here is the issue. Let's say you let something get to you and your woman takes notice. You can't hide it from her. She KNOWS you were frustraded by something, or she realizes that you got upset with yourself b/c you failed at something. Many times the tendancy is to cover it up and act as though it didn't get to you. But, she knows it did. If you try to pull some sort of overmacho act or avoid the issue she will lose respect for you!! Simply say "I'm upset because of.......... or, I failed and am upset with myself, but I know I'm going to do better next time. You see, this shows her that your in touch with yourself AND that you're not afraid od dealing with the issue in a straightforward manner.
You have the confidence to admit/deal with/ and press on.
Get it???
You're doing yourself no good by bottling everything up all the time b/c you might deny yourself an opportunity to bond with her. And she needs that bonding to continue to feel deep/intimate w/ you. Many times a woman's orgasmic abilities and sexual comfort are a result of masculinity combined with closeness to the guy. He may be masculine, but if the closeness/emotional factor isn't there, she will be unsatisfied. And, vice versa.
It's all about the balance.
I'll post next on 'connection' and the implications it has for a LTR.
Until then, I need to get back to some things.
Later guys!
