forcerecon01
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thats why i like buddhism. attachment = suffering
So what is the point of this thread? Why did this event make such a strong impression on you? Are you shocked by the fact that the guy wanted to get away from a psychopath?So, I do not need to assume what she did to him. The point is (as I just said), whatever she did to him, that was enough for him.
I totally get that. The abuse I took came from the last woman on the planet who should have dealt it, my mother. She lied, manipulated and hurt me. Before that I would have thought I would never accept that, but she was my mother after all (one of many excuses)... Now I will never accept that, no matter who they are, period.When you are truly in love with a person, you will find yourself taking/accepting things that you NEVER thought you would accept.
I think I made that point very clear.So what is the point of this thread? Why did this event make such a strong impression on you?
She is a psychopath, eh?Are you shocked by the fact that the guy wanted to get away from a psychopath?
Aw sh!t. Sounds like you may have been dealing with a narcissist parent.I totally get that. The abuse I took came from the last woman on the planet who should have dealt it, my mother. She lied, manipulated and hurt me. Before that I would have thought I would never accept that, but she was my mother after all (one of many excuses)... Now I will never accept that, no matter who they are, period.
Yeah, getting it from a parent is bad, ESPECIALLY as a child.There was times I wished it was just a girlfriend, they can at least be replaced, but the woman who gave birth to me remains the same whatever I choose to tell myself. I considered my situation worse than just being in love with some girl for that reason.
No, Im with you.I walked away from that sh!t for about a year, only came back when I knew I would walk at any sign of such behavior. So I did occasionally for about another year, this time being taken a lot more seriously with her knowing I had no problem just walking away. She's not giving me BS these days and most interactions are genuinely nice.
The love in my marriage is strong, but no love can blind me again, I'd rather kill myself than to choose the suffering of denial again. May sound extreme, but my conviction is very strong about this.
M kay. I don't over analyze anything, like I said in the paragraph you didn't quote, I agree that walking away CAN BE a great tool if it's not used by a butthurt man child. I just wonder what the context is behind that man's action. This seems more like male cheerleading. The male "you go girl". For all we know he got in the car again like a little biatch and whatever happened in my imagination continues.No need to over-analyze. The fact of the matter is; he walked away and she, in dramatic fashion, begged for him to return.
If you want to let your imagination run wild on what she did to him, go ahead. I will leave you to it.
The point is; he apparently had the power to walk away from it all.
And that is the message.
Well again, "for all we know".M kay. I don't over analyze anything, like I said in the paragraph you didn't quote, I agree that walking away CAN BE a great tool if it's not used by a butthurt man child. I just wonder what the context is behind that man's action. This seems more like male cheerleading. The male "you go girl". For all we know he got in the car again like a little biatch and whatever happened in my imagination continues.
I wasn't there, but if that's the situation that really unfolded I'd find it most likely there was really loud yelling.I mean dude was 5-6 blocks away. In my neck of the woods, that would be about half a mile. So you sped up your walk and got close enough to HEAR what she was actually saying? Pleading, begging him to get back in car?
100% this! That base line is SO important to have! It's a reset every man needs in his arsenal before even considering a relationship. That and the ability to walk away makes you powerful as a man! Good post OP!The power isn't really knowing you can walk away, it's knowing you can stay away and live a great life without that particular woman in it. I know I can do that because that was my baseline before I met my wife, if anything I was skeptical about starting a relationship and it was only eased by reminding myself I can return to that baseline of having a great life already. If being with my wife feels worse than the way I felt before I met her, then walking away is a gain, not a loss.
It's why I tell guys to work on their self-esteem, their confidence and finding happiness in life without a woman. To establish that baseline, to use that as a bar for women, a woman must be and remain better than that to be worth staying with.
If a guy doesn't think highly of himself and considers his life to be pretty crap without a woman, then he's willing to take a lot more crap before walking away. That's because being with a sh!t woman is better than how they felt being alone without any woman. We compare all the time, if we're in the gutter before this angel appears and she turns out to be the devil instead we'll just take the abuse until it's worse than it was without her.
This is a great post by OP, I'm not giving critcism here. This thread just gave me this perspective when contemplating my own experience and principles, haven't seen it this way myself before now.
The car had stopped a little across the direct entrance/exit from the street.Yeah that makes sense. The part that's throwing me is the 5-6 blocks, again in my neck of the woods that's half a mile. Can't really see much of anything from that distance, enough to warrant speeding up one's walk to investigate further, but perhaps in Venom's neck of the woods, it's a shorter distance.
In any event, good story and message.
Brooo. Exactly!!!Keep in mind, walking away only works once or twice with the same woman. After that, it's not as powerful and she'll either stop going after you or she'll feel less remorseful about her actions.