Ok..End of week. Some good news and some bad news. Bad news is that I'm soo far from reaching the 50 hi's..I just can't seem to get myself to say hi to a random stranger. It just feels unnatural to me. People are not used to being greeted by strangers, so when they are they instinctively believe that they should know that person from somewhere. It creates awkwardness..But i WILL complete the 50 hi's, i just didn't make it this week. It's also been raining like hell this week and I haven't been out much.
Good news; I've managed to change my mindset. Everything i read in the bible and here on the forum, i make a part of my personality. I act in a different manner and my view on life and social situations has changed. I drink less when i go out, which has helped me to control the situation alot better. I no longer drool over girls, acting desperate and being just another drunken horny looser. I play it cool.
Eyecontact. I've really improved in this area. I lock eyes with practically every girl i walk past, wether she looks at me or not. When she looks, i don't look away before she does. It was a bit creepy in the beginning, but now i do it consistently and it gets easier. It's a great feeling when she maintain the EC for many seconds. It's actually a small adrenaline-rush.
I'm also able to hold strong eyecontact with girls when i have conversations with them. I rarely look away, only every now and then just so that i won't look like a staring psycho..lol.
Moving into week two, i think the lesson is to strike up 2-10 minute conversations with strangers, preferably girls. It will be a nice challange, but one that i think will generate good results and by completing it it will all be easier in the future. Practice makes perfect right? I went to a bar last night with some friends. Didn't drink much, but i did approach some girls. I approached a bartender at this bar i usually go to. She had the night of and was out drinking with some friends. She recognizes me, cause i'm a regular at her bar and i've had some light convos with her while she's been working. I walked up to her and we talked for a few minutes. She's really nice and the conversation was light but nice. She's incredibly hot. We chatted for a bit and i excused myself, and went back to my friends.
There were 3 girls sitting on the table next to us and one of them asked my female friend a question. Can't remember about what, but i engaged in the conversation and ended up talking to her one-on-one. I asked questions, cracked some jokes about the place we were at, and used the info in her answers to keep the convo smooth...textbook. After a little while they went to the next bar..we said goodbye, maybe i'll see you there later etc.. I also talked to her later at the other bar, and also with one of her friends. She motioned me over to their table and i think there might have been some signs of interest from her part, but i wasn't interested in pursuing it further. I'm terrible at reading signs btw.
3rd approach was also a girl i had seen before. She also works at another bar. She's not as hot as the other bartender, but very cute and has something about her that's really sexy. We talked for a while until she had to go back to her friends in the other lounge. I said i might go find her later. Found out she was the ex-gf to a guy I'm working with. Might try hitting on her in the future. I think she showed some signs of interest aswell, but again..I suck at reading signs
I also talked to several other girls that happened to sit at our table or tables close. Just fluff talk. I was nice and friendly without obviously hitting on them. My main problem in the past has been moving too fast. Just talking to a girl and going in for the kill waay too soon, without building enough rapport and comfort. I'll work on that.
I'm kinda looking forward to the cold approaches this week. It will be hard, but challenging and exciting. One thing to approach in a social setting, but quite another approaching during the day when people are just going about with their everyday life...
I also managed to get a date this week. Kinda blind date, even though we've seen pictures and flirted and talked on msn a while. I'm ****ing charming online
****y and funny and all that stuff. I get the girls interested and eager to meet me. Problem is the follow-up in real life. But I'm working on being more ****y&funny in real life aswell =) I'll keep you updated..
Hoping to see more reports, and good luck to us all the next week!
