I'm right there with you, brother. It's been just over a week for me, and I know EXACTLY what you're going through. You're lonely, you wonder how someone that supposedly loved you could just drop you, you feel like you're crawling out of your own skin. The anxiety sucks. Thinking about her being with someone else literally makes you sick. I know all of this, and I think we all go through it. You're not alone. Stay strong, and if you want, you can pm me. We are both in the early stages of no contact. Maybe we can help keep one another on the right track. Hang in there, bro!Romezu said:
Maybe that. Like the other day I was laying in my bed after banging this plate and I actually looked at my ex's profile while the plate was taking a shower.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Im trying my best but its so hard. One night stands dont help at all. Its fun and all but in the moring i feel so bad because its some random chick instead of the one that i love. This was my 2nd serious relationship, we were together for almost 2 years. Last time when i got dumped by my exex it took me over 1 year to get over her, i met this new girl and started dating her, at first i just liked to hang around her but i would still think about my exex but sooner than i knew i fell in love with her so badly and got over exex completly. So i know that i will get over this girl aswell, but i just dont want to be in same situation for like 1 year or so. That was worst year of my live.joshs1974@live.com said:
I know it's hard, because I fight the same thing, but it's better if you don't try to figure out what's going on in her head. You'll never figure it out anyway. I feel better on the days when I don't try to "crystal ball" what's going on in her life. We never really know anyway, right? Even if you were to ask her you would spend all of your time second guessing if she's even telling you the truth. I've already had a couple of one night stands myself, and I know it's just a temporary fix. You always feel worse the next day. You have to heal first before you can have anything meaningful again. At least that's what I believe. Just be careful that you aren't leading someone else on and hurting them when you're trying to make yourself feel better. If it's a roll in the hay, make sure they are aware of that or else you may be putting someone else in a position to feel the way that you do now. Any one of us that is posting here obviously has feelings, or we wouldn't be here, so I'm sure this is something that you wouldn't want to purposefully do to another person. God knows I wouldn't put my worst enemy through what I'm feeling now. Hang in there, bro. I'm trying to do the same. At least you're not alone.Romezu said:
Ouch. That must hurt... You are true that now its time to focus 100% on myself. Maybe its just too early to even think clearly but i am just trying to survive day by day. I hope i wont break NC and stay strong. Sometimes i also feel that even if she would want me back i would not want her anymore because of what she is making me going trought right now so i guess thats positive eh ?Mauser96 said:
No no a billion times NO. Stay out of there. I understand it's difficult, but you must develop the discipline to resist the urge to check up on her, or it will take you much, much longer to move on from her, and it will likely only get worse with time if you maintain that bad habit (ex. watching her add one potential prospect after another, possibly seeing her bash you in some way, seeing her together with a new guy). My suggestion is to begin to view that kind of behavior as something beneath you, offensive, malignant, self-destructive, on par with smoking meth.way2smart said:
TRUEBetween_The_Lines said:
It really wasn't anything big, no argument or cheating or anything like that. We just weren't on the same page as far as interest level...hers being much higher than mine IMO. She wanted full commitment, talked about moving in together, etc. I wasn't looking for that. So we split, she had a new BF in about 2.5 minutes, pics all over FB of them, etc. She doesn't want to be alone, I get it. That didn't bother me. But she tried to keep tabs on me, saying she missed me, texting regularly, etc. all that crap. I found that a little odd since she was with someone, so I went ghost. No interest in love triangles, thank you. She kept contacting me after I told her to stop. That's when I went into hardcore NC ignore mode and have been there ever since.Mauser96 said:
But I still get little "ping" texts from time to time. It's been so long I have no idea why she still contacts me, but that's women for ya.That's how you do it. Good job. Eventually you'll lose track of the days and realize that almost an entire year has flown by and you haven't dropped in on her page once. Take pride in not being like lord knows how many other dudes who do otherwise.way2smart said:
