aliasguy said:
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No "quality" women, no REAL marriage anymore. I'm depressed. It's really too bad. But I accept it, and will continues to go forward, even in this big mess our society has become. (Maybe it wasn't better before, I dunno, but it SURE is a mess now.)[EDIT: For the record, I filed for divorce, not my ex.]
i know i'll sound like a old record here... but i think a lot of this has to do with mass media.
almost EVERYONE (well a good 90% of folks) are living in a 'the grass is always greener' world. their expectations of what life should be is soooooo out of wack its crazy.
people dont want to work hard for anything. they don't want to be the masters of their own destinies. they just want to jump in to things blindly and hope its a miracle cure. when it turns out not to be, they just jump back out.
women today have seen soooo much bullsh*t on tv that their idea of what a husband should be is insane. and men have seen so much bullsh*t that fat slobs think they should be nailing america's next top models and are p*ssed that they aren't.
people have gone f*cking nuts. they aren't living in reality anymore. and i include myself in this. while i'm unplugged more than most, i still have more to go. to unplug completely is not easy, but it MUST be done. my most recent effort to 'unplug' has been to quit smoking (after 14 years!). the world shapes us, but every now and then in life you have to stop and ask yourself are you living the life you want, or are you living a life that simply 'happened' to you. and when you do this you have to make changes to OWN your life, instead of letting life own you. and for me, quiting smoking is, im hoping, the last big step i have in terms of unplugging from the effects this world has had on me up to this point.
as for whether things are better or worse than before - when it comes to physical comforts its obviously WAY better. medicine, plumbing, electricity, grocery stores, etc. we have it very cushy.
but just like children who are spoiled turn in to brats, because we are spoiled with regards to the physical necessities of life we are turning into shallow, pathetic people. in terms of interpersonal relationships we are so much worse than in the past.
most individuals feel connected to almost nothing now (CNN is the new world church, heaven help us

. at least in the past people were a part of something - a community, a church, a monarchy, etc. - they had a place in things. A real place. they were important to other people, just like others were important to them, everyone had a place that meant something.
today no one really has a place in anything, because there is no 'thing' anymore. everything is transitional. you have a job one year, you dont the next. you have a wife one year, you don't the next. everything is in total flux now and people are just scurrying about blindly trying to keep their life going.
we have reached a point in life now where the individual is now fully responsible for their own happiness. and while this may sound like a good thing, its not - because peopel have no f*cking clue how to be happy. in the past people were raised to think a certain way - and whether right or wrong, that way of 'thinking' had been tried and true to an extent.
today though all of us are left to our own devices, and MOST people, as to be expected, aren't making any effort to grow as a person. as a result we've got a world full of adults with the emotional and psychological growth of a child. and it doesn't help when half of america is watching oprah and listening to new age bullsh*t that has no practical application in the REAL world.
but you can still unplug from it all. let the rest of the world live in madness, you can still find peace and live a happy life.