Hey guys, I have come across this article below at this website http://www.lovefallacy.com that actually i feel that's the truth about relationship and love, what's your opinion about it?
"It all started out great when you dated this beautiful,
hot girl. You are attracted to her and she is attracted to you.
Everything in the first few weeks was like living in
heaven, whatever you do, your mind kept thinking about her
and the girl too, you are always in her mind.
The love was passionate, intimate and full of fire. Both of
you started to promise each other to be together forever,
and planning the future, in the married life, and even
producing babies, living together. You may even have given the
'baby' a name.
All of a sudden, all the passion and love just disappeared,
she started to have her own life, friends and seldom talk to
you, or even go out with you.
And you, sometimes you are alright with it, you know the
honeymoon period is over but somehow you are doing your
very best to keep the relationship intact.
And as time goes by, both of you are tired to be together,
perhaps you still stick with her because you can't forget
the intimate times or the happy moments.
She's the one who initiate the break up and you couldn't take
it, you thought things would get better if both of you stay together.
But still she insisted on the break up and there's nothing
you can do.
This crushed you and everyday you just think of her, you began to
ponder what went wrong and what you can do to correct it. You
even called her to ask her what's going on.
There's nothing wrong with that.
The only thing that causes relationships to fail is because
you don't understand what is love all about.
There is one truth that most people can't figure it out.
Most of us have taken physical attraction for love.
You may not think that I'm right but look carefully and analyze
this logically. What is bringing 2 person together in the beginning?
Love? No! It's physical attraction...
You may say the love is slowly built up in the relationships.
Wrong again!
It is physical attraction that builds up in the relationship till the point
where you felt the strongest attraction pull and then the feeling
is suddenly gone.
After that, some guys will be thinking about the memorable times you
had deep intimacy with her. Most of the time, you hoped to
feel the same peak feeling again. But the truth is you won't get
the same pleasure again.
You and your partner don't know what happened but the love that you
and your partner felt is suddenly gone. And that's the real reason why relationship fails.
Most couples don't understand the difference between love and physical
attraction.
Once the physical attraction is gone, both of you will actually
see each other's true self, especially those bad habits which will reveal
itself when the physical attraction is gone
and the relationship won't last long unless both of you know
what love is all about.
That's why a true long-term relationships should be getting to know each other well first and not jumping into relationship straight.
Only when both of you get to know each other at least a year, where
both of you know each other pros and cons, then slowly, start a
relationship.
One important thing about relationship here, don't get intimate too
fast, something which is common nowadays that causes relationships
to fail too. You may hear some guys would say that you would be losing out if you don't have sex with them.
What do you have to lose?
Nothing! And everything to gain.
Why?
First, if you really want a long and everlasting relationship,
it doesn't matter whether you have sex with the girl.
And because both of you controlled the temptations of having sex,
your relationship won't be based on physical attraction.
It will be based on other factors like communication, connection,
love, character, personality, and chances are you will have
a longer relationship if you build the relationship on this.
And most guys will only tell you the opposite because of their
egos, What I mean is it's certainly a ego boosting to guys who get a lot
of sex. One reason- to prove how masculine or attractive they are...
However, a guy with wisdom and intelligent would know to withhold
sex to a later stage in the relationship.
Of course, there are also cases whereby a relationship turn out
to be successful through physical attraction. But there's not many
cases out there.
What I suggest to most people would be to make as much friends of the
opposite sex, get to know them and mixed around with them, not as
couples but as normal friends.
This way, they get to know you and you get to know more about them
as well, and when both of you know each other well, then decide whether
to start a relationship.
And a relationship is for you to make sure and confirm that your partner
is the one for you and vice versa. Because you don't want to spend your
whole life together with someone you can't tolerate. "
"It all started out great when you dated this beautiful,
hot girl. You are attracted to her and she is attracted to you.
Everything in the first few weeks was like living in
heaven, whatever you do, your mind kept thinking about her
and the girl too, you are always in her mind.
The love was passionate, intimate and full of fire. Both of
you started to promise each other to be together forever,
and planning the future, in the married life, and even
producing babies, living together. You may even have given the
'baby' a name.
All of a sudden, all the passion and love just disappeared,
she started to have her own life, friends and seldom talk to
you, or even go out with you.
And you, sometimes you are alright with it, you know the
honeymoon period is over but somehow you are doing your
very best to keep the relationship intact.
And as time goes by, both of you are tired to be together,
perhaps you still stick with her because you can't forget
the intimate times or the happy moments.
She's the one who initiate the break up and you couldn't take
it, you thought things would get better if both of you stay together.
But still she insisted on the break up and there's nothing
you can do.
This crushed you and everyday you just think of her, you began to
ponder what went wrong and what you can do to correct it. You
even called her to ask her what's going on.
There's nothing wrong with that.
The only thing that causes relationships to fail is because
you don't understand what is love all about.
There is one truth that most people can't figure it out.
Most of us have taken physical attraction for love.
You may not think that I'm right but look carefully and analyze
this logically. What is bringing 2 person together in the beginning?
Love? No! It's physical attraction...
You may say the love is slowly built up in the relationships.
Wrong again!
It is physical attraction that builds up in the relationship till the point
where you felt the strongest attraction pull and then the feeling
is suddenly gone.
After that, some guys will be thinking about the memorable times you
had deep intimacy with her. Most of the time, you hoped to
feel the same peak feeling again. But the truth is you won't get
the same pleasure again.
You and your partner don't know what happened but the love that you
and your partner felt is suddenly gone. And that's the real reason why relationship fails.
Most couples don't understand the difference between love and physical
attraction.
Once the physical attraction is gone, both of you will actually
see each other's true self, especially those bad habits which will reveal
itself when the physical attraction is gone
and the relationship won't last long unless both of you know
what love is all about.
That's why a true long-term relationships should be getting to know each other well first and not jumping into relationship straight.
Only when both of you get to know each other at least a year, where
both of you know each other pros and cons, then slowly, start a
relationship.
One important thing about relationship here, don't get intimate too
fast, something which is common nowadays that causes relationships
to fail too. You may hear some guys would say that you would be losing out if you don't have sex with them.
What do you have to lose?
Nothing! And everything to gain.
Why?
First, if you really want a long and everlasting relationship,
it doesn't matter whether you have sex with the girl.
And because both of you controlled the temptations of having sex,
your relationship won't be based on physical attraction.
It will be based on other factors like communication, connection,
love, character, personality, and chances are you will have
a longer relationship if you build the relationship on this.
And most guys will only tell you the opposite because of their
egos, What I mean is it's certainly a ego boosting to guys who get a lot
of sex. One reason- to prove how masculine or attractive they are...
However, a guy with wisdom and intelligent would know to withhold
sex to a later stage in the relationship.
Of course, there are also cases whereby a relationship turn out
to be successful through physical attraction. But there's not many
cases out there.
What I suggest to most people would be to make as much friends of the
opposite sex, get to know them and mixed around with them, not as
couples but as normal friends.
This way, they get to know you and you get to know more about them
as well, and when both of you know each other well, then decide whether
to start a relationship.
And a relationship is for you to make sure and confirm that your partner
is the one for you and vice versa. Because you don't want to spend your
whole life together with someone you can't tolerate. "
