The Logbook of an Aspiring Casanova

[Krassus]

SUNDAY, SEPT 05 2004

Hooked up with two wingmen to go to a huge club party! Stopped by a bar to grab a beer and warm up beforehand.


APPROACH: TRIO APPROACH, 3SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
We grabbed our drinks and just sat down at a table with three chicks. Unfortunately, they all ended up being over 30, and we didn't really bother closing them since they were only 7's. I pulled off a creative opener and kept the convo going with some routines and fluff talk for a good 15 minutes. The wingmen pretty much stayed silent the whole time, unfortunately!


Then off to the club we went. I hate to complain, but what an ugly crowd! It was a trance club, and that's the kinda crowd these clubs generally attract. Night and day compared to the Top40 club we went to last time. But hell, at least the music is better! Not that there weren't any hotties, there were. But the male/female ratio was disgusting, something like 65/35. And only about 15% of the girls were hot. So yeah, we're talkin dozens of guys for each hot girl. In four hours, i honestly found only about a half-dozen hot girls to approach. And that's pretty bad, even for that place!

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, KISS CLOSE
We were at the rooftop patio when i finally found a hot girl to approach. She was sitting on a bench all by herself so i asked if i could borrow her Gucci shades. Then i proceeded to try em on and get her and others to tell me if i look better with or without them. We talked for a bit, but then her girlfriend came back from the washroom and dragged her off.

An hour later, she found me on the dancefloor and pulled me into her group. At around 30, she was probably the youngest one there, as everyone else was well over 35. Crazy Asians, what the hell are they doing at a trance club where most people are half their age? We hung out for a good half-hour and she smoked me a joint. I kiss-closed her in return.

Then we went to another room and since she was too chicken to dance up on a platform, i got up there with two other chicks. Later on, she pulled my leg to tell me she had to go, but i stayed up on the platform and danced because she was only a 7 and i din't wanna fvck-close her. Had a great time dancing with chicks and hopping from platform to platform. AFCs were watching me with envious eyes

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 2/2 MIXED SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Approached an HB7 Filipina who was with her girlfriend and two guys. The guys were obviously AFCs so i went for it, and good thing i did because they all turned out to be friends. We started talking and she kept saying how its too loud for her. I feel so stupid right now for not taking that as my cue to isolate and venue change! Instead, we tried talking some more and she was really into me because she'd press her body right up against mine, lean into me, put her arms around me and whisper in my ear just to say something. But when i tried grinding with her, she started shying away and it all went downhill from there. I discussed this with some FastSeduction people and they said i shouldn't grind, just talk, kino and then venue change and fvck-close. Ah well, lesson learned!

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The other 2-3 club approaches i did that night were standard rejections by girls who are completely not interested. I attribute this to my failure to open them properly. Not making that mistake again. Of course, some may have been just plain not interested. I really did my best that night, but that's pretty much it PU-wise. I still had an absolutely incredible time though! Danced for hours and hours and made some serious progress. God i love dancing! Of course, i never give up on PU no matter how tired i am. So on the way to the car...

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APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Saw an HB7.5 who was also walking away from the club by herself. I was solo because i lost my wingmen in the crowds. So i opened her and she seemed pretty friendly. We talked for a bit, but when we got to where i parked, she just walked off. See, i just happened to call my wingman just before meeting her, and i think she heard me because i was walking just meters behind her. I told him to drive down to where i parked. So i think that when we got there, she realized that he's about to arrive, and she's gonna end up all alone with two strange (possibly drunk) guys on a deserted street at 5AM.

 

[Krassus]

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 7 2004


On the way to catch a flick with a buddy of mine, i managed to find quite a few targets. This is because i've trained myself to put myself in proximity to women. I purposely picked a theater in a downtown area particularly known to be packed with women. Not only that, but i made sure we arrived early so that i could take the long route from the parking spot and visit as many venues as possible on the way.

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
First came the coffee shop. Unfortunately, the only target here even remotely worth opening was the waitress. I say remotely because she was a 6.5. I opened her with "man, you look mean!" and mimicking her facial expression. She immediately started qualifying herself and telling me how she's the most 'un-mean' person ever. Talked to her and the other workers for about 5 minutes, then ordered a coffee and bounced.

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1/1 MIXED SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Right next to the theatre is a giant Chapters bookstore. Man, i never realized what a goldmine this place is! Upon entering, i immediately saw HB8Filipina and some dweeb AFC. Opened with an opinion opener. Talked for a few minutes, but failed to streer the convo in the right direction for #close.

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Next up was HB7Chinese who was looking at yoga mats. Opened with "soo.. what kinda useless junk are you looking at" and a big grin. Dammit, another traditional Asian! Burn in hell dammit, you and your lack of sense of humor! She actually thought i was being serious and started telling me how it's not junk. Had a pretty interesting convo with her afterwards, but didn't bother #closing since i'd never call.

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Keep in mind all these approaches are 1-2 minutes and 2-3 meters apart. Opened HB7Blonde with "hey blondie!" She smiled and we were on. Talked for a bit but she didn't really interest me and i didn't bother closing.

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED
Right inside the theater was HB9Black. She was talking on her cell when i passed by, but after buying my ticket, i walked back to her (she was done) and opened with 'hey, lemme ask you something... are you single?' Turned out she wasn't. After the movie, i saw her with the boyfriend she was apparently waiting for.

 

[Krassus]

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 8 2004


APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1/1 MIX SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
On the street, i saw a stunning Asian MILF standing with a man. They were standing sideways, so i couldn't really see the man's face. Regardless, i walked right up to her and faced her while staning only about 1.5 feet away. Then i slowly looked her up and down with a serious face. At which point i grinned and said "YOU STOLE MY STYLE!" since we were both wearing black shoes, white pants and black tank tops. She started cracking up. Then i looked at the man and he was looking at me with this completely blank face. I thought it must be her husband and walked away, still laughing. Only later i realized that she was 30 tops and he musta been in his late 40's. That was probably her father! It was an in-the-moment funny throwaway approach but i'm genuintly upset at myself for missing such an opportunity. I really love Asian women and a 30-year-old woman who looks as good as her is like my holy grail. I know someone my age who's sleeping with a 30-year-old Jap and he says it's the best thing ever! Dammit!

 

[Krassus]

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 9 2004


APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
On the sidewalk waiting for a green light, saw HB8Vietnamese standing next to me and listening to music with earbud headphones. So i waved my hand in front of her face, cusing her to take em off. Opened with an opinion opener. We walked together for about 2 minutes, but then she slowed down to presumably see if anyone she knows is at a bar's outside patio, and didn't want to stop for her and continued walking. The reasoning behind that was that she got a little too aloof in the last 10-15 seconds of the convo and missed something i said. Had she been attentive, i would have stopped and waited. Ha, i'm already starting to subconsciously qualify hot chicks, how cool! As i continued walking, i heard her yell "you have a good night!"

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Walking down the street, saw an HB9.5 2set indecisevly walking in my direction, then slowly turning and walking back. I opened with some crack at their behavior and then went in with an opinion followup. I was walking pretty quickly so i actually got them to speed up and walk behind me for about 20 seconds, but then they realized that they're two 28-year-old HB9.5s following this 20-year-old guy who's probably an 8 and started gradually slowing down. That or we got to the place they were planning to go to. Either way, it ended very much like the previous set. Except i actually liked these two and i'm really pissed at myself right now for not at least trying to number close. Those two were easily the hottest girls i've ever approached.




So what have i learned today? First off, always close. I'm sick and tired of missing opportunities like this - that musta been the 5th time i failed to close just because i couldn't steer the convo in that direction. WTF, am i afraid of rejection again? I need to stop being a pvssy and close regardless of circumstances. What the hell do i care about their opinion? I'm there for their number, period!

Second, i need to pace my targets while opening walking sets. I never want to slow down for targets because that makes me look and feel needy and clingy, so i always end up walking kind of ahead of them. To address this, i'm gonna start pacing them from far away so that i'm already walking at their speed when i open them. I also need to get sharper at C&F to handle girls like one of HB9.5's - she was awesome at it!

Finally, i put to use some of the @/# from Operation Autopilot last week. First, i fired off two emails. They were highly customized for their targets to remain congruent with the way i opened them. One of the targets, HB9CurlyHair was a VERY cold @close with zero rapport or anything. So i threw some of that in the email along with neg-hits and C&F. Wrapped it up with a qualifying question. That was a big gamble. But she replied saying i'm a cool guy and we should hang out soon.

No reply to the second email yet. I also called the girl who's staying here for a month. She wasn't in her hotel room and they don't have voicemail, so i left a message with the lobby person. He said he guarantees it'll reach her. We'll see if she calls. If not, i'll try again in a week and then delete the number. Gonna call the rest of the numbers tomorrow. I'll keep you guys updated on how things go.

 

[Krassus]

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 10 2004



Went down to the mall to do some solo sarging. Same rules as always apply: approach all desirable targets regarless of circumstances. The day started off great, as i immediately learned a lesson. This happened immediately upon entering a mall when an Asian girl appeared from behind the corner and walked quickly by me, while staring into my eyes at the same time. I was so startled by her appearance that i didn't do a damn thing! So the lesson is: always be prepared and conscious of your environment! Judging by the way she looked at me, i missed a great opportunity. But the good news is that i learned from my recent mistakes and made it point to attempt to close all targets, no matter what. My conversation skills have also improved, and i'm starting to be able to lead the conversations where i want them to go.


APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 2F/1M MIXED SET, CLOSE FAILED: BOYFRIEND
After checking out clothing at a large store, i opened group of sales clerks by asking one of the guys if they have white cashmere sweaters. They said another store at the mall might, so i immediately used this as a directions opener for one of the girls who was part of the set. Talked to her for a bit and got her to draw me a map. Tried to #close, but it turned out she's in an LTR.

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
A 25-year-old HB8.5Filipina and her 2-year-old daughter, so this is technically a 2set. They were eating at the food court, so i just walked up to her and opened, talking about her kid and my little brother who's about that age too. Several minutes later, her husband arrived and sat next to her! Dammit! Before approaching, i was hoping the kid was her niece, then when i found out she wasn't, hoping she's divorced. But nope! I'm really proud of myself for two reasons: first is that i actually had the balls to approach: regardless of what i was hoping for, i knew she was probably married. Second, because when the husband arrived, i didn't let it affect me at all. I kept on smiling and talking to all of them as if nothing happened. My FB if Filipino so i had a pretty interesting conversation with them, since i know a thing or two about their way of life.

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, @CLOSE
Ran into HB8.5Asian with her mom while at a clothing store. Opened by asking for her opinion on a certain item. She then walked off to the changing rooms and i continued browsing through the items. When she returned, her mom was nowhere to be seen, so i gradually positioned myself in her proximity, then went in with direct game. She looked really flattered and started asking me questions. Seemed like a real sweetheart, possible LTR material. Asked for her email and got it.

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: BOYFRIEND
HB9Indian was working at another clothing store i visited. I was really acting aloof with her and i think i pulled it off really well. We had a good conversation, but all the while i was checking out clothing doing give/take with my attention. I'm really pleased with the way i played this, i think i'm really starting to get the hang of sarging store clerks. As it turned out, she had a boyfriend, but she still seemed interested and asked me to come talk to her again soon as she'll be there every night next week. So i guess she's not too happy with him, but i don't think i wanna deal with this right now.

APPROACH: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: BOYFRIEND
Spotted HB8.5Asian sales clerk all alone at a cosmetics store and went right in. This is the second time i've done this, and i must say i did a lot better than the first time. I opened by busting her balls for being there all alone and looking so sad and lonley, and the conversation flowed pretty smoothly from there on. Unfortunately, she turned out to have a boyfriend, so i didn't get the digits.

 

[[look]aRhino]

An inspiration man.

Which mall did you do the most recent stuff in?

rhino

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by [look]aRhino
An inspiration man.

Which mall did you do the most recent stuff in?

rhino

Shereway. I'm starting to like this place. It's minutes away from my house!

 

[Krassus]

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 14 2004


Went to the mall to do some solo approaches. I've actually never done this alone. This is my third time going to the mall after establishing the Approach Autopilot habit, including the initial mission i established it on. The first time was with a wingman, the second time i ended up running into a friend (who stayed way back when i approached though), so today i figured i'd try it solo. I feel this is a better way of doing it because it's far more challenging and therefore helps develop skills faster. Unfortunately, i arrived late and the only hotties i found were store clerks. However, I kept up to the promise i made to myself earlier and tried to close no matter what, making the best of the few opportunities i got.

With the first two approaches, i tried mixing indirect game with direct game. In other words, using an indirect opener and then going direct and asking if they're single. I got the impression that both girls lied to me when they said they were taken - this is something that hasn't happened when i was using pure direct game last time. I'm starting to see how important congruency is: at least with direct game, you come off as confident and fearless because you don't hide your intentions. Here, you use a bull**** opener and then start acting all honest. I think this is what most guys do and the girls are quite used to it. The only times i've pulled this off succesfully is if i openen indirectly, had a lengthy convo, and only then tried closing. I'll have to experiment some more, but i do feel a lot better using direct game. It feels so much more natural, more honest, more true to self.

Later on i hit the streets, but only found one target to approach. I missed three targets because they walked by me alone really quickly, before i could react. I should start practicing the 3s rule. I'm so used to taking at least 10s to approach a target that when one appears out of nowhere, i just let them walk by me! If it wasn't for this flaw, i would have approached 7 targets instead of 4. Definitely gonna start working on it!


APPROACH #69: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: BOYFRIEND
Approached a sales clerk at a leather clothing store, asking if she knew whether any other stores had a jacket i was looking for, since they didn't. Then asked if she was single and she momentarily looked away, then said she wasn't. I got the impression that she was lying, but who knows.

APPROACH #70: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: BOYFRIEND
Another sales clerk in a both, opened by asking her about one of the items, then said "I'm gonna be honest with you, i wanna get your number, but i can't tell if you're 15 or more like 20. So which one is it?" She turned out to be 19, but acted incredibly introverted during the conversation. Arms crossed on her chest, body facing away.

This is the second time this has happened to me, and both times it was a direct approach used on an Asian girl. I think those two are either incredibly LSE (low self-esteem), have never dated a white guy before, or both. The one thing they both had in common is that they sounded/acted like traditional Asian girls, yet dressed like whitewashed ones. This is a new trend i've been seeing lately. These girls are pretending to be someone they're not and this makes it really difficult to get through to them.

APPROACH #71: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: FIANCE
Seeing how my two previous attempts of mixing indirect with direct failed miserably, i decided to practice the new sales clerk tactic i started developing during the HB9Indian approach from the last post. Basically, i open with an opinion opener, then do a takeaway by turning away and starting to walk around and looking at items. During this time, fluff talk continues on and off, somehow making it seem like she's failing to keep me interested enough.

So we did that for about 3 minutes and then some guy walked up directly to her and started talking. I continued checking out items, as i slowly positioned myself near them and overheard that he was asking her about her home country, the Philippines! Ah, wrong subject buddy, you're gone! The moment he mentioned he stayed in Makati, i immediately opened him with "so how'd you like the bar scene?" The girl gasped and laughed, while he started to blush. In case you don't know, bars in the Philippines double as brothels, and my opener suggested that he was there as a sex tourist.

He said that he's never visited a bar there, but the lengths he went to in order to convince us how bars were the least of his intentions made me think he was full of sh1t. And quite frankly, i think she thought the same. I kept 2/3 of my attention focused on him for about 2-3 minutes, then put an end to his misery by saying "oh... i'm sorry for holding you up, are you waiting to pay for something?" This immediately caused him to eject and i laughed inside. Me and HB8.5Filipina talked face-to-face for about 3 more minutes, but then her shift ended and i asked if she was single. She showed me her engagement ring and said that she's engaged as of 3 days ago. I didn't let it affect me at all, and we talked for another minute or so before i ejected. I'm giving myself a huge hi-five for this approach! The way i opened, used give/take attention, made the AFC eject and didn't let rejection affect me at all really demonstrated to me that i'm making real, measurable progress!

APPROACH #72: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Saw an Asian girl standing across the street. She looked really gorgeous from afar, so i went up to her and opened with indirect C&F "do you have earplugs? or perhaps a gun?". People were honking their horns like mad because Canada won the big hockey game, and she started laughing hysterically and kinoing me. Based on the amount of laughter and kino during out 5-minute convo, i figured she wanted me pretty bad. Unfortunately, she only ended up being a 7.5 in person and her teeth were kinda messed up - this is sometimes the case with Japanese girls. If it wasn't for the teeth, i could have closed her with ease.

 

[Krassus]

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 16 2004

APPROACH #73: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, CLOSE FAILED
Was eating sushi at a Japanese place when a 2set, presumably a girl and her mom, sat down at the table next to me and started speaking a Germanic language. I was aleady almost finished with my meal, so i got up to pay the bill a few minutes later and it turned out that the restaurant doesn't accept debit. So i went to the bank next-door to grab a 20, then came back, paid and asked the girl if she was single in front of the entire restaurant. Man, the last time i've done that with so many people around was on a bus almost a year ago. Some older guy at a table next to her started cracking up and said "i don't think so." With a big grin, i replied with "uh oh, she's not like your fiance or something, is she?" To which he said that he thought i was actually asking him. Still grinning, i told him i don't swing that way and repeated my question to the girl. She could barely speak English, but she was single. Unfortunately, she's going back to Austria in 4 days. Ah well, at least i tried! But man, she looked absolutely SHOCKED! Am i like the only guy with balls in this city?

 

[Krassus]

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 17 2004


APPROACH #74: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, #CLOSE
Was walking by a coffee shop and saw an Asian girl sitting by the window and looking at me. She didn't even look away when we locked eye contact as i passed by. A few minutes later, i was on my way back and passed it again. I just went right in, sat next to her and said hey. She got to startled that she jumped up in her chair She turned out to be traditional, so i kept the convo fairly "normal," which is cool because i needed to practice that anyway. We talked for about 15 minutes and i #closed. I could have extracted her for a bite, but i just ate and didn't really feel like it.

APPROACH #75: DUO APPROACH, 4SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
At a lounge, approached a 4set of Indian girls with a wingman and tried opening with Jealous Girlfriend story. Unfortunately, they were all standing by a huge speaker and couldn't hear me at all. So we exchanged a few short jokes and ejected.

APPROACH #76: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Still at the lounge, sat down next to an Asian girl and opened with "what do guys usually say when they hit on you?" She didn't get it at all and asked me what my name was in broken english. Wow, by the way she dressed, i coulda sworn she was born here! I recovered pretty well and she was feeling me, but then her girlfriend walked over and accidently knocked over a glass of rum and coke all over her white pants. They went to the washroom.

I spotted them with my wingman about 15 minutes later. They were sitting on a couch like so: him, his target, my target, bunch of clothes, other people. So i walk up and wave to my target, then point at the clothes. Then i pick up a jacket and ask the people who were sitting on the right of it if it was theirs, but they shook their heads. So i pretended to hide it under my leather trench coat, and then pulled it out, laughed and asked my target how much she thinks i could get for it. She didn't get it.

So i shrugged and started moving the clothes away so i could sit next to her, and at one point she started helping me, but then all of a sudden, got up and dragged her friend away. What the hell was that? I hate to sound redundant but i hope all traditional Asian girls burn in hell! They have no sense of humor! I'm sure they make great girlfriends though. I'm gonna try to stay positive and try to tune down my audacity once i realize an Asian girl is traditional.

APPROACH #77: SOLO APPROACH, 3SET, #CLOSE
On the rooftop patio of the same lounge, saw a 3set sitting like so: guy, his target, her girlfriend. So i sat next to the latter chick, which was luckily a lot hotter than the other one, and opened with "you look bored. i'll let you entertain me." She was completely whitewashed and ate my stuff up. Finally, an Asian girl who digs my style! #closed somewhat originally:

Me: You wanna hang out sometime?
Her: *pretends to consider it*
Me: Of course you do.
Her: Do i, why?
Me: I dunno, i just like making people's minds up for them What # can i reach you at?

So i got the digits and because i wanted to close with a bang, showed her the "SMILE IF YOU MASTURBATE" photo that i'm using as a background of my cell. She started cracking up and i bounced.

 

[Krassus]

THE POWER OF DECISION
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=59134

It's been three months to the day since The Logbook of an Aspiring Casanova was born. On that day, i reached a decision to stop leaving seduction to chance, stop being lazy, stop making excuses, stop talking, stop thinking and start DOING. I solidified this by making a promise, writing it down and informing others of what i have done. As i said on that memorable day:

So i've made the promise to put the best possible effort into seduction, and do everything in my power to seduce every girl i run into that i happen to want. I'm leaving no room for excuses, such as lack of opportunity. If there isn't one, i'll create it, regardless of what it takes.

And today, i can honestly say that i've stayed true to this promise. When times got harsh and life kicked me around, i kicked back twice as hard and it backed off snarling, with the tail between it's legs. When i felt down and tempted to stay home, i forced myself to go out. I allowed nothing and no one to get in the way of my goal.

As a result, i learned more about women in the last 3 months than in the 20 years that lead up to them. Approaching women everywhere is becoming second nature and anxiety has all but disappeared. I've approached women in literally every venue i've been to. Single women, women with female friends, women with male friends or boyfriends, women with parents.

To put it bluntly, a single decision has changed the course of my life forever. I can feel the incredible power it placed in my hands already. I've been reading this site for a year prior to June 18th, and while i made some progress, it couldn't compare to what i achieved in the weeks and months leading up to today simply because i never made that commitment.

If you doubt the power of decision, note how the girl i met ONE DAY after making up my mind ended up becoming my first FB, whom i've had some absolutely unforgettable adventures with this summer. I would have never even ended up in that part of town had i not decided to get out more the day before! Note how the number of cold approaches i've done in my life could be counted using the fingers on two hands back then, and look where it is now!

I approached 4 girls in June. In July, the number went up to 8. In August, it was 14. And in less than three weeks from September 1st to today, the number of cold approaches peaked FIFTY, bringing my total up to over EIGHTY. The success ratio is increasing and phone numbers are pouring in. I'm getting better at approaching, talking and closing. I'm starting to incorporate a lot of techniques that i once considered to be advanced, but now see as being simply common sense.

Once you destroy your fears, the world is truly your sandbox. You can do whatever the hell you want and people will stand back and watch with awe. If you're reading this right now, i want you to get the hell out of the house! I don't care if you've never approached a girl in your life. Go out, find one, come up to her, smile and say "hi." That's it, that's all there is to it! She'll smile back and you two will talk.

Think about it, that could be your next girlfriend right there! And if you stay home, she'll walk by that place all alone and never meet you! Stop sitting there, stop reading, stop analyzing, stop making excuses. Make up your mind, reach the decision to grab life by the balls and squeeze until it screams out in pain and agrees to give you whatever it is you're asking of it, no matter how ridiculously high your demands! DECIDE NOW!

 

[Krassus]

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 18 2004


Purposely made a haircut appointment downtown at 1PM because i know that after 2PM on Saturdays, downtown is packed with hotties! So i hit the streets, the mall, the streets again, some stores and so on. I'm lovin this! Man, i got shot down many times today but i can seriously feel myself learning something with each and every rejection that will prevent it from happening in the future.

APPROACH #78: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Saw a cute waitress at a bubble tea place when i was walking by it and decided to drop in. Opened her with a story and she seemed to like it, but then we started talking about her work and she suddenly turned around and started walking away. I figured she lost interest and was being a *****, so i turned around and left, but saw her immediately walking back with my peripheral vision. A minute later it hit me that she was writing something down on a piece of paper when i opened her and simply went to give it to her manager a few feet away. Doh! I need to work on my frame. I need to ASSUME ATTRACTION, not LACK of attraction.

APPROACH #79: SOLO APPROACH, 3SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED: BF
Grabbed a bite at the mall, but there weren't any spaces at tables that had chicks so i had to sit on my own. A few minutes later, two guys got up from a table, leaving a 2set of HB9s there. I took this as my cue to sit with them, and an UG5 also appeared from somewhere and joined us. I guessed right: those guys were total AFCs and just sat next to the girls, ate and left without saying a word. I started telling them about Europe and how much warmer people there are. I made it a point to give the UG5 as much attention as the HB9s, but one of the HB9s turned out to be completely LSE and completely sulked when i got around to showing them funny photos on my cell and gave it to the UG5 first. She then mumbled something about having a boyfriend out of nowhere and her friend also mumbled something along the lines of "me too." We talked for a bit more and i jetted. Come to think of it, her "me too" friend looked like she was really digging me. Why the hell didn't i go for the #? Dammit, i have GOT to stop sabotaging myself like this!

APPROACH #80: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Cashier at a shoe store. Opened her with "are you keeping count?" from half-way across the store. She asked me what i meant twice and i finally walked over and told her: "of how many guys try to pick you up here." This is a great opener - i unconsciously set it up so that it looked like she was asking me to approach her! Worked wonders, she was digging it. Too bad she only turned out to be a 7, so i didn't bother.

APPROACH #81: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED: BF
Two girls buying a model car at a booth. Stood next to them and opened the guy who was selling the stuff, asking if he's got a McLaren. At this point, the girls were checking out one of the cars and pointing out to eachother how detailed it was - even had carpet in the trunk! I just stuck my finger in the trunk and was like "where the hell is the subwoofer?" They started cracking up and all 4 of us started talking - myself, them and the cashier that is. Man, this was the funniest approach i've done in awhile! The convo floowed so smoothly and i was making them all laugh the entire time. At one point, the guy pointed out how they had a model Escalade with spinners, and i asked him if it comes with a little black guy inside. Holy sh1t, they were dying. At first, she told me she was getting it for her boyfriend. Minutes later, she was calling him a fag and saying how she doesn't like him at all. "She" was an HB7.5 and her friend was a UG6. I ended up buying a BMW keychain and she asked if it was for my BMW, to which i replied "soon" and she was just like "woowww." I didn't bother #closing since she's got a BF though. Looking back, i shoulda #closed and fvcked her brains out - she wanted it!

APPROACH #82: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED: BF
Ten meters after the first approach, ran into an Asian HB8 with a guy. "Hey, i wanted to ask you something... are you single?" And... the guy turned out to be her boyfriend! Ah well.

APPROACH #83: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Starbucks girl who was cleaning the milk counter as i was preparing my tea. Talked for a few minutes but didn't #close because she was only a 7.

APPROACH #84: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED: BF
Outside, saw an HB9 sitting on a bench. Sat next to her and asked who she's waiting for. Her boyfriend. LOL! Chatted for two minutes and ejected.

APPROACH #85: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Walking down the street, opened an HB7 who was walking next to me with "hey shortie!" She forced a smile but ignored me afterwards. I think that in over 80 approaches, that's the first time i got such treatment. She musta just gotten dumped!

APPROACH #86: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: LOW IL?
Opened an HB8.5Filipina at a bookstore with "hey, can i be honest with you? i think you're attractive and i wanna get to know you" for some variety since i felt like direct game at this point. Unfortunately, she warmly said she's not interested and walked away. Judging by the accent, she just came here, which explains her reaction.

APPROACH #87: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Another HB8Asian at the bookstore opened with "lookin for anything in particular?" She was slowly walking along the aisle and looking at books, smiled and said she's just looking. I figured i'd re-open later, but lost sight of her. Direct game would have worked SO much better here! She looked like she was looking for something to do and we coulda grabbed coffee right then and there!

APPROACH #88: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: LOW IL?
Outside of a huge clothing store, saw HB8.5Korean and opened by asking if the beer bottle next to her was hers. Hah, what the hell? We talked for a bit and she seemed pretty into me. Asked me to come clubbing with her but when i whipped out my cell, shook her head and told me which club she's gonna be at next Friday. What the HELL was that?!

APPROACH #89: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: OUT OF TOWNER
Inside that store, saw HB9.9Asian sitting on a little chair and getting makeup done by an artist. The store's doing a promotion where they're offering this for free right now. Started talking to her, did a few takeaways, but in the end found out that she's only here for another week. What a shame. This girl was... different. It took me almost 90 approaches to meet a girl who reminded me of why i'm doing this. Her face was picture-perfect. I just wanted to hold it with my palms and stare at it for eternity. And the personality, body language, etc was just... mmm. So sweet, delicate, with a touch of shyness. It's so rare to see a natural beauty like that! I was surprised that i actually managed to keep it real cool and confident, with bedroom eyes and all. But that was something else. That girl put me in a different state for a few hours after. I can't describe it. It's like i was instantly in love! That has never ever happened to me before!

 

[chicksrock]

COOL STUFF!

please don't feel disheartened if you didn't attempt to # close or failed the # close.....because its natural....and happens also to me in the same ratio (if not worse ratio) than you....

You just sometimes know when the vibe is right and you can make a successful # close.

Lots of HB's just love the attention of being approached and just ride with it and flirt... however they very often they are not wanting to commit....
they just like to enjoy the MOMENT with you....

so good luck and keep up the great work...
you are a fitting example for all the DJ's on this board

 

[Krassus]

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 24 2004

APPROACH #90: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: LOW IL
Cashier at a clothing store. Walked in and went right up to her in a straight line through the entire store. "Hey, i wanted to ask you something.... are you single?" She smiled and started blushing. At this point, the manager, whom i passed on the way in, came up behind me and asked if i needed any help. I ****ily responded with "not really, i'm just here to hit on your cashier." As funny as that was, i shouldn't have said it since her ASD kicked in and she, still smiling, said "yeah i am... but i'm not looking, sorry." I need to start carrying business cards around so that i can at least respond with "Well in case you change your mind... here." It may work 1/10 times, but it'll still work

APPROACH #90: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: BF
Girl sitting on a bench at a mall. Came up to her and told her to smell me. Made her lean way in to actually do so. Then asked her to guess what cologne i was wearing and to my surprise, she did. Chatted for a bit, but it turned out she wasn't single. Kinda regretted not approaching her with a direct opener, i felt like i was lying to her and i was, since i didn't really give a damn what she thought of my cologne.

APPROACH #91: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: BF
Girl sitting on a bench at a bookstore. Sat down beside her and opened with "you're kinda cute, i wanna get to know you." She responded with "sorry, i'm here with someone." She was a real stunner, so she didn't seem surprised at all by my direct approach. I said it was nice meeting her anyway, and asked what she was reading as i got up. The book was titled "The World's Most Evil Women." I started laughing and told her that i wished i saw that BEFORE approaching her. She started laughing hysterically. Funniest approach ever, i swear to god

APPROACH #92: DUO APPROACH, 2F/1M MIX SET, CLOSE FAILED: BF
Later that night, my wing approached a 2F/1M mixed set at a lounge. I saw him talking to them when i walked out of the washroom and joined them. I realized who his target was and kept that in mind while talking to all of them. Later did a takeaway and went on to approach #93 in the other room. While i was away, my wing #closed his target. I later returned to #close the other girl, but the guy sitting with them turned out to be her BF.

APPROACH #93: SOLO APPROACH, 8SET, CLOSE FAILED: LOW IL / ASD / BF?
Man, this coulda been real tricky, but somehow i pulled it off rather well. My target was a girl i "greeted" 10 minutes ago by patting her on the head with a flyer and saying "hey" as we passed eachother by minutes earlier. It's true what they say, when you're feelin it, any opener works! So while doing a takeaway from #92, i found her again, and she was now part of the above-mentioned set. I re-opened with "hey" once again and she introduced herself and shook my hand. I laughed and busted her for being too formal, so she just hugged me out of nowhere. This was a MASSIVE IOI if you ask me. We started fluffing and a few minutes later, while talking about clubs, she suddenly seemed to lose interest and and walked away to her girlfriend a meter away. At this point, i excused myself and went back to #close #92. I told them a story before trying to #close, and made small talk with the DJ before approaching them, so about 10 minutes have passed until i returned to #93. I told her that i had to run and ASKED if she wanted to hang out sometime. Why the hell did i ASK? Stupid. Of course, she started 'thinking' about it and then said she had a BF. I think that's bs. I used a boyfriend destroyer: "i have one too, he'd kill me if he was me talking to you," and she laughed but no go. I'm really confused as to what happened here. To the last moment, she really seemed to be digging me. It's like her body was saying yes while her lips said no! I can't tell if i said something about clubs to make me look like a player and make her lose interest, if her girlfriend triggered ASD, or if she really did have a boyfriend. I don't like when this happens, as i'm not sure what lesson to extract from this. But when all is said and done, this was one incredibly fun approach and i'm glad i did it!

*MORE ABOUT THAT NIGHT SOON, I GOTTA HEAD OUT*

 

[Krassus]

We finally arrived at Club Lucid. What a great place! I've realized that all these months, i've been going to the wrong clubs. Venues that play electronic music are horrible places to pick up women. The male/female ratio is bad, which results on girls being hit on by way too many guys and they start acting accordingly. R&B joints like Lucid are a whole other story! The ratio is even and all the girls i've met there were incredibly friendly. I didn't see too many chicks that were taken though, but this changed towards the end of the night as a lot of the girls who came there alone started hooking up with guys. Anyway, my memory of the night gets a little hazy here so i'm bound to miss a thing or two, but i'll try my best to get everything right. Keep in nite that in this outing, while approaching sets, i only interacted with the target unless otherwise noted.

APPROACH #94: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, CLOSE FAILED: LOW IL?
Opened a girl that was part of a 2set and talked to her for a minute or two. Tried to #close, but she smiled and said "sorry." I should have taken a few extra minutes to talk to her.

APPROACH #95: SOLO APPROACH, 4SET, #CLOSE
Girl who was part of a 4set. Fluffed for a couple of minutes and #closed. The # eventually turned out to be fake. That or she typed it in wrong. That's the second time i've gotten a fake number. I should have opened her directly instead of using a lame-ass indirect "i-need-to-make-an-excuse-to-approach" opener and qualify her.

APPROACH #96: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Upstrairs, the house dancefloor was empty with the exception of a few guys scattered here and there and a 2set in the corner. I walked on the dancefloor and walked right up to them. They weren't dancing so i talked to my target for a few minutes. She was only a 7 so i didn't bother closing. Caught her eyeing me at a different part of a club later but didn't bother.

APPROACH #97: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, CLOSE FAILED: BF
At a loungy part of the club, spotted a girl sitting next to a guy, both of them looking real akward. My buddies were at the other side of the room, so i chilled with them and watched. For 5 minutes, the two didn't exchange a word. That's when i realized they're not even a set. That AFC has just been sitting next to her, afraid to say a word. So i walked up to her and because there was no space to sit, put my arms on the armrest and opened her. A minute later, the AFC bounced and i took his spot next to her. We talked for almost 10 minutes, but it turned out she's been dating someone for 3 years. Her girlfriends eventually showed up and dragged her off - i didn't really resist because i didn't want her, but i should have tried something just to practice anti-****block maneuvres. Regardless, this is a landmark approach because during it, i reached a level of comfort previously unknown to me. I was able to let go of my desire and just talk about her because i was genuinely interested in her as a person. I truly look forward to being able to talk the way i did consistently.

APPROACH #98: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, CLOSE UNATTEMPTED
Playfully approached an HB9Asian on the dancefloor. Talked for a bit and did a takeaway. This was my 3rd time running into this girl, so i figured i'd close her next time. Later on, it turned out my wingman has already #closed her and i didn't run into her again, so that took care of itself. It's a shame though, she was hella hot and looked easy too.

APPROACH #99: SOLO APPROACH, 2SET, CLOSE: ?
Opened a girl with Mystery's "nice hair... is it real?... omg it's moving!" opener. She laughed, but i can't remember what happened after for the life of me. Something went wrong, but i have no idea what - it's all really hazy!

APPROACH #100: SOLO APPROACH, 3F/3M MIX SET, #close
Back at the house dancefloor upstairs! I felt at home. This was my music, not like R&B downstairs. I could dance! And i did! There were only about 20 people on the floor but i had a blast anyway. Two sets that had women was a 3f/3m mixed set and a 2f set in the corner. I picked out my target in the first set before entering the floor. Something to note is that when i wasn't talking to her, i was completely ignoring her and dancing away from her, often looking in another direction, usually meters away. So after entering i danced for 10 minutes and opened her, but she couldn't hear me. So i didn't bother repeating myself and just went back to dancing, then reopened 10 minutes later. We talked briefly, and i moved away and danced some more. Then she left to the washroom and when she came back, stayed off the floor and watched us. Sometime later, the only people left on the floor were me, her two girlfriends and one of her guyfriends. I didn't as much as look at any of them the whole time and continued dancing and going all-out with the craziest movies i could think of. Eventually my wingman dragged me off the dancefloor, but on the way out, i reopened her with "we should hang out sometime" and she readily agreed. Very interesting, i could have SWORN i lost her when she left the floor! Make the hoe say no gentlemen, make the hoe say no!

APPROACH #101: SOLO APPROACH, 1SET, #CLOSE
After the club, opened a girl who was in line with me at a fast food place with "sup ms williams!" She looked at me with wide open eyes and asked me how i knew her last name. I said i didn't and that i called her that because she looked like the tennis player. Man, i was really ****ing with my style on this approach. Very strong frame, relaxed, laidback, aloof. Free of desire. Made her work for attention. Outright ignored her some of the time. Made her qualify herself and took it real far. There was a 5-minute stretch of conversation when she did nothing BUT qualify herself. The effect was interesting to say the least. The less desire i showed, the more her desire grew. She turned out to be 3 years older and worked as a dancer at that same club we just left. At one point, some guy sat down next to her and she jokingly said he's her stalked from the club. I let him have a few minutes, then told him she's my girl and he left. Needless to say, i #closed. She even called my # to make sure i gave her the real one.

 

[[look]aRhino]

Good **** man.

 

[Krassus]

Sorry for the lack of updates guys. I've been approaching so many girls lately that updating this journal would become a full-time job if i kept up with it. Long story short: i'm sticking with direct game for the daytime, and working on mastering it. I've probably crossed the 150-approach mark by now, and am fairly comfortable with doing direct approaches in just about any situation. Now that anxiety's out of the way, i can focus on perfecting what really matters, which is the game itself. This'll take some time, but i'm really enjoying it. I've stopped taking things personally and now view every approach as an opportunity to learn, enjoy myself and get to know someone new. I've realized that having, and showing sincere interest in women can get you further than all canned, indirect material in the world ever could. The key is having inner game strong enough to pull this off, and while i'm definitely getting there, i've stilll got ways to go. I've had some successes, and lots of failures, but i can see my success rate improving and that's all that matters. I'll do my best to keep you guys updated on any major discoveries.

 

[Mantra]

Hey Krassus.
You are an inspiration man! Way to go.
Happiness comes to he who is bold!!!

 

[Krassus]

I'm thinking of starting this up again, possibly in form of a blog this time.

 

[MVP]

So what happened to this?