The journal of Dedication

[Dedication]

The plan:
Go out from 01-07-2013 till 31-08-2013.

Goals
- Showing up! Going out every single day.
- Enjoying the process.

I am:
A guy who is direct, honest and has a healthy amount of self love. I’m honest, direct and clear in my communication. Although it can take a while, I come up with my own solutions, ideas and dreams. If I deem them worthy, I will look for ways to make them reality. I’m always looking ahead, what to do next to achieve my goals. This can cause me to not be present, be quite serious or just genuinely disinterested if I don’t see the point in the current conversation.

I love explaining things in great detail, I love self-improvement and I like helping others to get to my level. My coaching style is blunt, direct and focused on what needs to be improved, but it gets the job done exceptionally well. At times, when I know I could’ve done better I will scold myself, the one who truly cares about my success or failure is me. So I will take responsibility, I’d rather have more of it than less. Anyway, I think I’m a great guy. I love ‘riding solo’ and experience new adventures.

I know that there is no reason why I couldn’t do this.

I want to develop:
- My playful side, I want to be able to joke around and enjoy the ride.
- The ability to get the women who I want.
- Aligning my thoughts, words & actions, acting towards my intentions and being congruent.

I want to keep experimenting in social situations. Since I do not like small-talk and I lose interest really quickly, I have to set goals and objectives. I have to keep challenging myself or else I will lose interest.

My end goal:
- A log of at least 60 days.
- Either (at least) 2 plates or a (solid) girlfriend that supports me in my quest. As in, she’s mine but I can still go out and game while being honest about what I do.

Side notes:
English is my second language. I will not write out every set in English, I think that it loses essence in the translation. I will however, post every lesson and insight that I gain.

I am impressed by Snow PlowMan’s journal and the fact that Espi repped me when I told him that I was going out, even if it was just for 1 night.

If I don’t follow through for whatever reason, I will quit any and all activity’s focused on ‘game’ and do something entirely different. I either do this or not at all, no middle time wasting road.

I will reflect on this journal each Sunday and set (new) objectives and a plan for that week. I have to follow my objectives but the plan can be altered. At the very least, it is there for back up.

 

[Dedication]

Dawn of the first sunday!

The view of the week:
As this is my last school week I won't be really focused on game. My objectives will be simple to start out the 60 day challenge. During the week I'll be staying in my home town, getting to know the life night. During the weekend I'm going out to a new town I haven't been before.

Objective's
- Go solo
- For as long as you're out, stay in set.
- Be free, express whatever is on your mind.
- Arrange at least 1 date during the week.

Side objective
- Buy a phone, you're going to need one for the phone numbers.

 

[suavesuave]

if you want to improve yourself you should not use names like "DEDICATION" lol

 

[( . )( . )]

Good job man. Now you've thrown down the gauntlet we want to see this page filled with "she laughed in my face ", "she told me not if I was the last person on earth" "she said I had a head like a foot" etc etc.

What's the worse that can happen? Rejections? Bring it on I say.

Rejections=thicker skin=self evaluation=improvement=hotter chicks. You'll learn what works by learning what doesn't work . Then once you've got that down you'll learn not to give a sh!t either way.

 

[Dedication]

Day 1

My home town is pretty dead during the weekend. Well, guess what? It is deader than dead during the week! Especially on monday. Anyway, I went out solo and met a few people.

Set 1: Met 2 guy's and shared a couple of story's. One of them is into getting girls (but knows nothing about game) I might go out with him just to shoot the **** with him.

Set 2: Opened a group of 7 I had the attention of all for 1 minute, then I didn't had anything to say and walked along. (I won't walk away next time. Let them feel the uncomfortability heheheh.)

Set random: I said 'hey' with a smile to a couple of people, trying to open them. They all look bored and didn't feel like socialising. (Next time I can plow these people by calling them out on being boring.)

Set random: I went inside the only 2 bars that were open. It was dead inside. The bartenders in both bars were not even paying any attention. Just doing their own thing. or helping me, I had to plow to get their attention.

Set 5: Met an old lady *Hurray for lady's!* walked into a church with her and talked for about 10 minutes, because this town is DEAD!

Set 6: I went inside the only store that was open and just got a worker to to give me advice on healthy foods. The girl who worked there was *****y, next time I'll just plow.

Lesson:
1. Plow!
2. If you run out of things to say. Just stand there, make yourself not care. Do not give your own body the statisfaction of running away, if your own mind doesn't give you words, well, it's going to get a little uncomfortable. Mind! You either give me words or you're ****ed, I'm not going to let you have interactions go your way, just to save some feelings.

Good job man. Now you've thrown down the gauntlet we want to see this page filled with "she laughed in my face ", "she told me not if I was the last person on earth" "she said I had a head like a foot" etc etc.

What's the worse that can happen? Rejections? Bring it on I say.

Rejections=thicker skin=self evaluation=improvement=hotter chicks. You'll learn what works by learning what doesn't work . Then once you've got that down you'll learn not to give a sh!t either way.

Thanks, I already saw that saving my own feelings by walking away from a set doesn't get me results. Now that I think about it, I can just re approach as well. Even if there are only 2 sets, I can bounce & bounce from the same 2 sets.

I literally only saw 3 approachable females today, the others were 10 years younger *like 13 y/os haha).

if you want to improve yourself you should not use names like "DEDICATION" lol

1: It's my username
2: Read your own signature. You use the word 'dedication'.
3: This is a journal for self-improvement and you're stuck on some petty words. It's the action that counts, talking about action you should clean that sperm off your face and get out of your mothers basement. Do some approaches and then we'll talk.

 

[Die Hard]

Go for it, guy! I like your enthusiasm and dedication If you stick with this project of yours, you will reach good results for sure!

Just make sure you consider each day as a seperate day, instead of it being part of a succession of days. Day 10 doesn't neccesarily have to show better results than day 1 just because it's further down the road, you get my point? Each day holds its own successes, or lack thereof...which is all fine, don't compare the days to each other, just look at them seperately.

 

[mike465]

Will be following this closely

 

[Dedication]

Day 2

The day started with drama, my project team mates were fighting with each other because some people produced bad quality. Eventually I couldn't stand their incompetence and I said that I couldn't give a **** about their emotions. I told them wtf we are going to do for the upcoming week and if you don't do it, you'll be kicked from the team.

*I've learned to pick my partners.
- Listening to their whining so early on the day drained me.

From 10:00 to 16:00 I've been cramming theory in my head, only to have an assessment about it the following 1,5 hours. Me and my project partner produced pretty much top class results, I'm happy about it.

- It drained me a ton.
- I was in a logical head space.

After that it was out to celebrate, we went to a pub and there were only old people >.<. Were the F are all the girls my age? I'm doing something wrong here. The ride home wasn't much better, I missed my bus and had to wait around 1,5 hours. I used it to walk around, didn't see anybody except for old people...

Set random: I said hi to a couple of people who were passing me, got a few laughs and very quick convo's, nothing noteworthy.

Set 8: A (young) girl (16?) at the bus station, I opened her and I talked for 2 minutes. At first she was happy, I guess she was bored anyway, but after a couple of minutes it was clear to me that my logical headspace & tiredness bored her. That didn't bother me, so I kept talking. Her friend joined and they were high energy + having fun. After a witty comment that didn't land I left the set.

- ****, logical head space sucks. I'm going to search up for some quick 'technique's' to get myself out of it after a long day of hard word.

A great day for my (school) career.
A weak day for my game.

*Regardless, I should learn that emotions are no excuse for a lack of action. Even though I felt out of it and I didn't get much opportunity, I could've forced some sets to work.

Plans for tomorrow:

1. I'm off and I'm going to use it during the day to get a date. Well, date is kind of a big word. I'm going to get a girl to tag along with me while I'm doing my shopping.

2. Since I still live with my parents (hah, I'm a loser) I'm going to have to set the logistics right. I'll think about were I'll take girls to **** and take action upon it.

 

[Dedication]

Go for it, guy! I like your enthusiasm and dedication If you stick with this project of yours, you will reach good results for sure!

Just make sure you consider each day as a seperate day, instead of it being part of a succession of days. Day 10 doesn't neccesarily have to show better results than day 1 just because it's further down the road, you get my point? Each day holds its own successes, or lack thereof...which is all fine, don't compare the days to each other, just look at them seperately.

Hah, thanks. I understand that results are out of my control. I can only control the proces and what I do, so as long as I've done my best I won't feel pissed about it.

I felt depleted yesterday, but that should be no reason not to do any approaches. I know that sometimes my body is just being a faggot and doesn't want to do things.

Heh, I just thought of something funny.

"So what you're trying to tell me is that I can avoid rejection?"
"No, what I'm trying to tell is is that when you're ready, you don't have to."

 

[Dedication]

Day 3

0 results, don't read it's a waste of your time.

During the day I tried to get this girl out on a date, she agreed but found out later that she couldn't because of school. (No bs I verified) She didn't make a counter offer and she's flaky, but I don't fault her for that because she isn't the sharpest tool in the shed and she hasn't had a real man in her life..

I tried to set up a pull location, but that didn't work out because of a huge mess. I might clean it all up or just work it out differently.

I went out and got a haircut, she didn't listen to me and somewhat ****ed up my hair, just great.

During the night I made it happen, going out with 4 friends without having their controlling women interfere. I wanted to go out quickly and get in town but it ended up getting a lot later than expected, I had a ton of fun. No approaches done, the only women we met were working.

Reflection: I made the decision to go out with my fellow man, this was the first and will probably be the very last time we had a fun night out with just the guys. At the cost of a night of self-improvement in my deserted home town.

This week is already half way over and I'm seriously considering traveling 3 hours every day to quality places just so I can game, hard. This place isn't geared toward results.

Tomorrow I'm having my last day of school, after that it's summer vacation! With a little homework.

 

[Dedication]

Day 4

I went to school today, I talked with strangers on the bus and train. Most notably was a business man who coached people. I opened him and began asking him direct questions about his private life. Because, why not? I was bored. He began asking my if I behaved like that towards all people *He felt intimidated by my directness* Heh, kind of an ego boost. He let a school kid like me intimidate him for a second. Anyway, he flipped the script on making me seem like the wrongdoer pretty quickly, after that he gave me some advice.

- When you talk to somebody you should explain why you're talking to them, like: "I'm working for a project and I'm out socialising" and then you can ask for information.
- A conversation is an information of give and take. So you should give something.

After that I let him end the conversation. When I was alone rethinking about what had happened I noticed that his reasoning had massive flaws and that I could very well have made some counter arguments.

- I converse to ease the boredom, why the **** would I want to do nothing at all when there's new people to talk to and while we are on the subject, I worked for all the information I got out of you. I stepped up and you answered, it was of your own choice to give me information.

Man, I love arguments I find them so playful.

I also talked to a couple of old people on the train, had quite a lot of fun because we were talking about war and stuff.

The night is approaching, let's see what I'm going to do.

 

[mv.89]

We should make it as a requirement. Anyone who starts Journals like these should describe themselves physically also.

Race:
Height:
Weight:
Body Fat:
Car: yes or no ?
Job: yes or no ?
Money: Stable ? Rich ? or just fine ?
Living: Family ? Roommates ? Alone ?
Studying: If it matters ? What are you studying ? college ? or uni ?

It'll allow others to understand the condition and situation.

 

[Dedication]

Race: White as white can be (Whatever it is called, can't be arsed)
Height: 180 CM
Weight: 70KG
Body Fat: 11
Car: None (Public transportation, but won't get you laid)
Job: None (Temporarily for 2 months)
Money: Getting by without any debts
Living: Family (Can't pull to my parents house)
Studying: College of Higher Education - Economics & Management. (Or whatever the translation is. Our school ranking system doesn't translate.)

Anything else?

 

[Dedication]

Day 4:

0 results, don't bother reading.

It's night time! I went out in my home town, in 3 bars, 1 was closed and there were 8 people attending in total. I had a quick conversation and pretty much left. People are unfriendly, bored and pretty much never want to be opened. Talk about low consciousness.

A girl was staring at me, she must've been noticing how awesome I am I'll see her again and lets see were that's going.

On a reflective side note: I've been going out for 4 nights now and **** hasn't gotten real. Almost no girls to speak off in this deserted wasteland, while there are quite a few hottie's because I see them shopping with mommy or daddy regularly. Maybe I'll approach them and just ask them were they are going out.

 

[mv.89]

Race: White as white can be (Whatever it is called, can't be arsed)
Height: 5 feet 9 inches = 180 cm
Weight: 70KG
Body Fat: 11
Car: None (Public transportation, but won't get you laid)
Job: None (Temporarily for 2 months)
Money: Getting by without any debts
Living: Family (Can't pull to my parents house)
Studying: College of Higher Education - Economics & Management. (Or whatever the translation is. Our school ranking system doesn't translate.)

Anything else?

So you are 5 feet 9 inches = 11% fat
You are pretty cut then ?
Also, you see your weakness. No car, no place and just enough money. Totally understandable things.

Now to be a better man, what are your plans to overcome those weakness and turn them into your advantages ?
How would you turn them around ? Share your thoughts, plans on how will you use those or would you just give up when it came down to those ?

Use your logic and we can help you configure and tweak those , if they needed any.

 

[escaleraroyal]

So you are 5 feet 9 inches = 11% fat
You are pretty cut then ?
Also, you see your weakness. No car, no place and just enough money. Totally understandable things.

Now to be a better man, what are your plans to overcome those weakness and turn them into your advantages ?
How would you turn them around ? Share your thoughts, plans on how will you use those or would you just give up when it came down to those ?

Use your logic and we can help you configure and tweak those , if they needed any.

THis is garbage to me. i saw fat /short/ ugly /ghetto/ broke/ negros motherfukers pick up hot chicks

 

[Dedication]

So you are 5 feet 9 inches = 11% fat
You are pretty cut then ?
Also, you see your weakness. No car, no place and just enough money. Totally understandable things.

Now to be a better man, what are your plans to overcome those weakness and turn them into your advantages ?
How would you turn them around ? Share your thoughts, plans on how will you use those or would you just give up when it came down to those ?

Use your logic and we can help you configure and tweak those , if they needed any.

My health
I might be meassuring the wrong way, but I am pretty cut. I go to the gym 3 times a week and I never eat any unhealthy foods. I don't eat junk-food or snacks. I don't eat pie or other stupid **** when I'm visiting somebody. I have never had to eat out when I'm out because I usually have my own food prepared. But that might change when I'm going to travel 3 hours a day to get to some good places to game. I also don't drink beer or cola or whatever the ****. Only water (even when I'm out).

Logistics
At times, I'm able to borrow a car from my parents. How to turn my logistics around? I have no ****ing idea, I've tried a couple of things, like having a friend of mine help my out. But since he doesn't even remotely like the idea of me ****ing in his house (which is kind of understandable) I just cut him out of my life. He didn't add anything else anyway, he felt more like a drain.

How does anybody turn around not having something? I know that I can just hang around with a group, or just wait at the exit of the club and then walk with a (few) girl(s). Start being ballsy and enter their cab or just keep walking with them and entertaining them untill they arrive home. It's messy, with a low chance of succes but it can be done.

I (think that I) simply don't have any solid place to pull, especially since I'll be going out of town to even have a chance to build up my social circle. So what can I do? Either make up an excuse to somehow see something inside their room, **** them behind dumpster or make something up on the fly according to the situation. If anybody else has some great idea's I'd love to know.

Before I forget I'm also trying to get a social circle going with girls in it. Since I have pretty much nothing solid to offer, it might be hard but **** it. What else are those people going to do? They certainly aren't going out every night so hanging out with me will at least give them some fun.

 

[mv.89]

THis is garbage to me. i saw fat /short/ ugly /ghetto/ broke/ negros motherfukers pick up hot chicks

Hence, the more reasons to know.

It'll give people learning from the journals an idea if OP is getting success based

on physical prowess alone or actually gaming chicks regardless of status.

 

[mv.89]

Also bro, never ever once again never ever think that all these secondary things will keep a girl from jumping your bones if she wants to.

If you bag a chick you can go back to her place, you can pay for the cab or walk home with her while messing around on the way back (depending how far you live).

Why this mentality ? you have nothing solid to offer ? Bro, your presence alone should be a prize for them.

This may seem hard to fathom but secondary things do not matter as much because in the bar , you don't have a profile on your face that says what you have and what you don't , all they see you for that time is looks, confidence and attitude.

 

[Dedication]

Day 5:

During the day and during the night I had some playful banter going on. I planned it all out for the night, I drove to a big party only to find it empty... Because I messed up on the date. I felt dissapointed and wanted to go home straight away because I envisioned all that could be but wasn't there. Anyway, I still pushed myself to go to a local bar and check it out, while doing that I also found a nice spot to park a car for a potential lay. That settle'd my mind a bit.

After entering the bar I noticed that there were only 15 people or so. I said around 2 lines and left, I was still effected by my dissapointment. I did something that I wouldn't have done in the past, and that is to do something else on the spot when my initial plan fails. It gave me insight in logistics so that's a win. I hope that I've become a bit stronger and will be capable of pulling through a whole new plan next time.

Tomorrow: I'll be handeling some business during the day, after that there will be a marriege goin on so thats a party right there. After the party I'll drive to a big city in my country and start my game there. Expect some real approaches tomorrow!