The Importance of Spinning Plates

[SteR]

Honestly, this might sound weird, but it's actually to find the "soul mate". I know that sounds weird coming from a guy with Red Pill Knowledge, but I just don't understand how PVSSY and PVSSY only can be the goal? How spinning plates is the goal? After I bust a nut....then what? Like I said Poon King, I've been dating/fvcking/doing short term relations since 2010 and it's been a lot of women man.

But I have nothing to show for all of those dates, those nuts I've busted, those numbers I got...nothing. 90% of those women don't even talk to me anymore due to us falling out, stop talking, etc. It's like while the previous 6 years have had some great moments and I learned a good amount about women in the process.....other than that, it all was a significant WASTE of time, energy, money, and "nut busting".

I think you're onto something here. I think people on these boards are mistaken if they assume we all want the same thing. Now while someone like Poon King may only see women purely for entertainment, I do think there is more to a relationship than just sex.

I don't believe in the whole 'soul mate' concept but I do believe that there's something special (at least to me) about being truly intimate with a woman - something more than sex. But to each his own..

 

[Glassguy]

You guys are right, there is more than just sex. The point of this is to keep your frame. If you don't, the next thing you know is a LTR and in 2 years you'll be posting in the just got dumped thread.

Think about this: you are red pill, meet an amazing woman. She knocks you off your feet all the while you are red pilling her. Changing YOUR ways only puts you in the opposite frame that attracted her to begin with. Nobody is saying you can't have a LTR, marriage, buy flowers, tell a woman that you love her......its to do it without becoming a faggot beta. Keep your frame. If not, she will get bored and start looking for excitement elsewhere.

You lead and she will follow. That never changes.

 

[Huffman]

I think of "confirmation" to be more related to facts while "validation" is more related to emotions.

I think this is a pretty good distinction and also ties in with the last couple of posts.

 

[Tenacity]

I'm really good at finding "soul mates" let me help:

1. Online dating in the trashcan
2. Good Wife/Good Mother litmus test standard in the trashcan
3. Date women with extremely high subjective positives regardless of any negatives...think about what you wanted in a woman before you started dating or reading
4. Date women from social circle or with mutual friends that feel obligated to give you a fair shake
5. Choose to be open with them and rely on them for emotional support
6. Make constant progression in the relationship
7. Shame cheaters
8. Openly talk about how what you really want is to get married and share your life with someone
9. Choose to trust her completely and never "trust but verify"
10. Date pseudo-family oriented or baby crazy women
11. Pay for dates
12. Talk about how good your finances are as much as you do on here

You will find so many soul mates this way I promise, one a year at least lol

Good list but explain, why do you say throw away online dating? Why do a lot of guys on here say throw away online dating? Am I missing something?

I don't particularly see any difference between a girl I met online (POF, OKC, Tinder, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram) than a girl I met while standing in the line at Boston Market to get an order of a half rotisserie chicken. Speaking of Boston Market, I might go get me some today lol.

 

[blind_one]

I really believe all men instinctively know how to "act" around women and how to flirt with them and f*ck them good. Even virgins. I think most men allow their natural instincts to get suppressed by blue pill society, Disney movies and feminist propaganda.

I believe spinning plates and doing most of what I preach comes natural to men. Most men are just too brainwashed, scared or conflicted to let that lion inside roam free. Just like real lions can be tamed to a certain degree.. women and society has found a way to tame the majority of men. The blue pill faggot white knight is nothing more than a tamed man. A wolf reduced to a little Chihuahua dog through conditioning, brainwashing and manipulation.

I really think this is it. You need to be present in the moment and unleash the beast on her.

And I will add to that in a humorous way

 

[BeTheChange]

I'm really good at finding "soul mates" let me help:

1. Online dating in the trashcan
2. Good Wife/Good Mother litmus test standard in the trashcan
3. Date women with extremely high subjective positives regardless of any negatives...think about what you wanted in a woman before you started dating or reading
4. Date women from social circle or with mutual friends that feel obligated to give you a fair shake
5. Choose to be open with them and rely on them for emotional support
6. Make constant progression in the relationship
7. Shame cheaters
8. Openly talk about how what you really want is to get married and share your life with someone
9. Choose to trust her completely and never "trust but verify"
10. Date pseudo-family oriented or baby crazy women
11. Pay for dates
12. Talk about how good your finances are as much as you do on here

You will find so many soul mates this way I promise, one a year at least lol

I'm going to tell you straight your list is questionable and probably why you are still pedestalizing women you end up in a relationships with.

For example, there's a good chance that "amazing" gf of yours probably had a tinder profile too bro. Didn't you just get out of a BPD relationship...bet you thought she was "special" because she was "above" all these other women.

1. Close minded.
2. What?
3. Disagree. Negatives will be far more destructive in the long run.
4. Not a bad thing but massively limited if you ONLY focus on such women. Also more likely to lead to pedestalization
5. Disagree. You should be able to rely on yourself or friends for such things. If you still need a mother figure you aren't ready.
6. Leave thoughts of "progression" to the women.
7. Agree
8. Agree to the extent that you should lay out your expectations if you think this is in your best interest
9. Trusting anyone completely is stupid, least of all women. Did you vomit up the red pill or something?
10. Sure that will end well...
11. Disagree. But you've already discussed how you want to rely on provider (aka beta) game so not surprised to see this...
12. Disagree unless you want a gold digger but again not surprised to see this

 

[BeTheChange]

List was virtually entirely facetious

But it was a pretty accurate reflection how how you used to think. Finally learning.

 

[Poon King]

Honestly, this might sound weird, but it's actually to find the "soul mate". I know that sounds weird coming from a guy with Red Pill Knowledge, but I just don't understand how PVSSY and PVSSY only can be the goal? How spinning plates is the goal? After I bust a nut....then what? Like I said Poon King, I've been dating/fvcking/doing short term relations since 2010 and it's been a lot of women man.

But I have nothing to show for all of those dates, those nuts I've busted, those numbers I got...nothing. 90% of those women don't even talk to me anymore due to us falling out, stop talking, etc. It's like while the previous 6 years have had some great moments and I learned a good amount about women in the process.....other than that, it all was a significant WASTE of time, energy, money, and "nut busting".

How can "nut busting" ever be a waste of time? Hahaha. You want a "soul mate"? I want 10 million dollars. Have you considered that you might not be living in reality?

Seems to me you don't actually enjoy having sex with women or even interacting with women unless it leads to something that gives you emotional security. Ironically.. this is probably the very reason you get "nothing" out of your relationships with women. No women wants to be your security blanket. A man that is not secure WITHOUT a woman is a faggot in a woman's eyes.

If you need WOMEN to define your life then you lost the game before you spun your first plate. You have red pill knowledge.. but you don't truly believe the red pill.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

Tenacity,

I agree with you about the next level or LTR. I understand what you're talking about with regard to just spinning plates. After a while you feel like: "Is that all there is?"

So yes, spin plates and if you should happen to meet someone who seems to have the qualities you're looking for in an LTR and she constantly shows you via her ACTIONS that she truly appreciates and respects you, then if you want a LTR, go for it.

But never forget that it could end tomorrow. The reality is that most relationships have a shelf life. She changes, you change, whatever. It happens. However, if you maintain an attitude of abundance, keep your frame, and refuse to accept bvll**** or disrespect from any woman, the LTR will most likely last longer. And you'll be better prepared to get back in the game and start spinning plates again when the LTR ends.

And with regard to spinning plates in your 50's, not a problem at all.

-Augustus-

 

[PantyWhisperer]

I don't think there's any such thing as a wasted busted nut. Not even the ones that go into the Kleenex or the shower drain. They are all special to me.

 

[corrector]

Honestly, this might sound weird, but it's actually to find the "soul mate". I know that sounds weird coming from a guy with Red Pill Knowledge, but I just don't understand how PVSSY and PVSSY only can be the goal? How spinning plates is the goal? After I bust a nut....then what? Like I said Poon King, I've been dating/fvcking/doing short term relations since 2010 and it's been a lot of women man.

But I have nothing to show for all of those dates, those nuts I've busted, those numbers I got...nothing. 90% of those women don't even talk to me anymore due to us falling out, stop talking, etc. It's like while the previous 6 years have had some great moments and I learned a good amount about women in the process.....other than that, it all was a significant WASTE of time, energy, money, and "nut busting".

Be careful what you wish for. Soul-mates have the potential of causing deep emotional wounds.

 

[Red Legg]

Spinning plates is the best way, even for a relationship - LTR guys. Not molding yourself into the perfect beta.

Learn. Adapt or suffer.

Back to basics for me..Just say "NO" to monogamy...

 

[TheGambino]

I think people need to be refreshed on WHY its so important to spin plates. Its not just good for the individual man.. but its good for men as a group BECAUSE it destroys the myth of "scarcity".

The sexual market is a lot like the stock market. When people over-value something, the price goes up. When people under-value something. .the price goes down. So what happens when the majority of men stop being desperate faggots? You guess it.. women become more desperate. Which leads them to become better behaved. This is good for men as a whole.

Post feminism blue pill culture has manipulated men into believing women are scarce: Hard to get, hard to find and hard to keep. But even worse.. men have been manipulated into embracing vaginal values like Disney love and co-dependent commitment. Gay sh!t. This benefits women of course.

Here is what happens when a man spins plates:
1. He realizes that most women are not "special" and he becomes more relaxed and natural around women
2. He doesn't tolerate sh!t because its easy to walk away.
3. He is never thirsty because there is always someone their to s*ck his c0ck
4. He becomes more confident and arrogant which makes him even more attractive to more women
5. He gains enough experience to see through all female headgames and manipulations
6. He no longer has to actively "pursue" women because the women in his life compete for him.
7. He meets new women constantly through the women he already knows.
8. He can have relationships with women on HIS TERMS because the b!tches who don't act right get ignored and forgotten.
9. He removes the pedestal from ALL women because he sees them for what they are
10. He no longer fears "being alone" or a relationship failing because he knows scarcity is a myth and women can be replaced pretty easily.

Now some men will read this and ask something like: But what about long-term? The answer to that is stop drinking the Disney Koolaid. "Long-term" is a problem the women in your life need to figure out, not you. If a woman wants to lock you down she needs to figure out how to keep YOU long-term and get you away from your plates. This is not your problem.

So spin plates. Not just for yourself but for man kind.

I live by This since 2013.

 

[The Duke]

This summer I was dating a girl exclusively. She did some things to pizz me off so I retracted my exclusive agreement and put my online dating profile back up and even told her I was doing so. lol. She threw a fit which I ignored. She then told me she wasn't going to get back on OLD. I said yeah that might be true, but you aren't going to tell all of the guys on your FaKebook to get lost that hit on you and ask you out every week either. And lets not forget the guys that hit on you when you go out.

That arrangement worked fine for a while until her anxiety over what I was up to got out of hand. I just couldn't take her angry drama anymore. she tried to make me jealous by going on dinner dates with other dudes hoping that would reel me back in. But I never cared. I'd rather fuhk her than take her to dinner! Let those blue pill biatches take care of that for her.

 

[Urbanyst]

If EVERYONE is spinning plates.. we run into a little MATH problem don't we?

Women don't dramatically outnumber men. So if every guy has two or three plates that leaves some guys with nothing OR you have women spinning plates too lol.

 

[Glassguy]

@deesade Good stuff for sure.

Treat a woman just good enough for her to stick around. Give her just enough attention to keep her around.

Ever have those decent looking chicks that either got on your nerves or did something to make you not be around her anymore? Notice how hard it was to "get rid of her" and she kept just coming back for more and hanging around?

Women want what they cant have. Keep some of your time and attention as something that is not obtainable for her and she will always chase it.

 

[TheGambino]

Always expect bullsh1t from a woman at some point, be prepared. How? Spin plates brother.