The girl i have fallen for who has a Boyfriend.
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nothing you can do now. Maybe cut all contact with her for at least 6 months, in which time you change yourself and then approach her as a different, more attractive person. Though most likely after that time you won't want to bother with her.Inspired said:
Inspired, take note of the attitude her bf has: she is 2nd in his life; she's expendable. Aside from being strategically viable in the sphere of mindgames, its also the necessary outlook to have on such relationships. That's what you need to emulate.
You are demonstrating that you feel they should come 1st in life ('her bf doesn't appreciate her!', you insinuate), and that attitude will get you cheated on and/or dumped excessively, if you continue it.
as far as education on women and you:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/member.php?u=19268
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/member.php?u=23336
just read through their posts in any given thread; spend some hours doing it. Take their advice to heart, and ye shall be enlightened.
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You are demonstrating that you feel they should come 1st in life ('her bf doesn't appreciate her!', you insinuate), and that attitude will get you cheated on and/or dumped excessively, if you continue it.
as far as education on women and you:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/member.php?u=19268
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/member.php?u=23336
just read through their posts in any given thread; spend some hours doing it. Take their advice to heart, and ye shall be enlightened.
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avoid any unnecessary contact. If you work with her just treat her like a coworker and if she tries to talk to you about things that aren't work related then politely end the conversation. And do not text/IM/call her, EVER!Inspired said:
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ironically, the only way to get her to like you now, is to improve yourself so much that she won't be up to YOUR standards.Inspired said:
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1. forget about her. I know exactly how you feel, but if you just cut contact with her for a week or so, you wont feel like this anymore.Inspired said:
2. her thinking that you've lost interest is exactly what will spark interest in her.
3. #2 is only true if she had some respect for you in the first place, and she didn't, so lets go back and do #1.
well the best thing I can say to this is as follows: you probably won't get her, she's not interested in you so you can't make her interested in you. She just doesn't find you attractive (don't know why, but there's a reason). The idea of cutting contact with her is that in 6 months (or whatever) when you come back into her life as a different person (this is key, if your the same as now you'll get the same result) she might forget what you were like before and be attracted to the new you. Yes it is a gamble, there is a chance it will turn her off. Most likely though she'll be confused to why your acting the way you are and she might even come after you for your attention. The best thing to do is to forget about her and change yourself. Good luck.Inspired said:
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What i meant in that post was that for you to get to the point where she will like you, you will have already lost interest in her because you will have become so great that she does not live up to your standards.Inspired said:
I know it's mind boggling at first, but read that sentence again and try to understand it.
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cut off all contact with her. The only way
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First of all!!!!!!!!!
You are almost twice her age. Most 18 yo girls are immature
Second you work in a store and you are her supperior... not sure where you work but most jobs will consider firing you if they find out u guys are together.
Third , its not good to mix work and pleasure...if the relationship goes bad work will be very ackword.
Forth, she says she has a bf who she loves so you are prolly friendzoned already
You are almost twice her age. Most 18 yo girls are immature
Second you work in a store and you are her supperior... not sure where you work but most jobs will consider firing you if they find out u guys are together.
Third , its not good to mix work and pleasure...if the relationship goes bad work will be very ackword.
Forth, she says she has a bf who she loves so you are prolly friendzoned already