Lishy said:
I would like to discuss the games we all (yes men and women) play when in a relationship!
It starts when you first meet
Girl gives guy her number
Guy waits 3 days to call (cos thats what the game rules state) even though he wants to call the next day
Girl doesnt answer as he has waited 3 days (game) then wonders why she didnt answer as she was interested in him
Guy rings again in 2 days girl now answers ..... and so the story begins
That is just the start of the games. Then they start dating on a casual basis, getting to know each other and behaving quite different from how they really are. You test each other to see how far you can push.
The guy doesnt call when he said he would so the girl doesnt answer the phone for 3 days to teach him a lesson.
This goes on and on and it even continues after months and maybe years of dating.
It is so silly BUT so neccessary! Without the games the relationship would be too intense and burn out or would be extremely boring after 2 weeks.
We play the games (even subconciously) to keep things alive and to keep our interest piqued. We can all second guess why the other is doing it and yet we act like we dont notice. We give lots of security and then we whip it straight back and so the cycle continues.
It is full of drama but happens to virtually everyone I know (male and female)
Wouldnt life be easier just to be natural and say how we feel? But wouldnt it be more tedious?
We all like attention (yes men too), we all like to feel chased and wanted and to top it off we all LOVE to feel loved and that is why we do these things (IMO) Cat and mouse games, we all clain to hate it but we all do it to some degree!
If you disagree let me know ..............
With respect to game playing, I disagree 100%.
The men and women who play games are insecure people.
Let me give you an example of how I operate. I get the number and I call her that night. I make plans for a drink right away. At our first sitting, i talk about how PATHETIC some women are that they need to play games and read books like "The RULES". I also go on to say if I think for a minute the girl is playing a game or she does not show HIGH INTEREST LEVEL, I will immediately close the door on her. Ill describe the truth. I say "I have plenty of very interested women, why would I waste time on one who shows reluctance. I am a no nonsense guy. Show me or I walk away."
I can tell you the reactions I recieve are of total RESPECT. Not only will 95% of these women text me or call me after the date. They will call me the next day. When I leave the suggestion "I do not engage with game players"; The GAME is reversed.
We play the games (even subconciously) to keep things alive and to keep our interest piqued. We can all second guess why the other is doing it and yet we act like we dont notice. We give lots of security and then we whip it straight back and so the cycle continues.
You play games for EGO preservation and out of fear. I do not play games and neither do the women I date. My interest PEAKS if a women shows me RESPECT and HIGH IL. Not vice-verse. I have too many options to even fathom dealing with otherwise.
To note: I am surrounded by quality women between 8-9.5 in the looks department and not ONE will ever play the above game. Sure they will test me. I cannot blame them. They want to see if I am a real man. But they will never DISRESPECT or play these kiddie "UNAVAILABLE" games.
My suggestion to you LISHY. Realize your worth and do not PLAY. Put your cards on the table and if the MAN does not like the GENUINE you with high interest level, then kick him to the curb.
REMEMBER,
You cannot successfully INJECT interest long term. This will inevitably bite you in the A**. The key is to find a partner most compatible and genuinely interested in YOU.
