The ERECTION PROBLEMS thread

[shock]

erection problems

I have been with my girl for 3 months..both of us virgins. Well about a week ago, she tried to go down on me for the first time. She got her hand to about my pocket.
The thing is she did this after about 2 hours of her being on the recieving end of all the fun. I was rubbing her down, sucking on her tyts, etc. Well sorry but I cant hold a stiffy for 2 hours. So when she started to go down there, I wasn't up at all. I played it off real smooth, sorta moved away but kept doing my thing with her.

Since then I have been thinking about erection problems, alot.

Well tonight, i guess we had "dry sex" all on top of the clothes, no penetration.

I didn't feel I was up to par in terms of being "up"

I realize a large part of my problem is psycological. The whole time I was concentrating on getting a stiffy.

I have also noticed though, that within the past 3 months, I have stopped masturbating as much. I am not as horny anymore, my testostrone level seems lower. The thing is I'm not even getting any action from this girl, but that's a whole nother subject. But why is everything slowing down??

Should I masturbate more??

How do I not really think about getting an erection??

I am also worried guys, becuase our relationship is getting more physical. If I can't perform, it's over. Plus im only 17...I shouldnt be having these problems.

 

[Soshyopathe]

It's all in your head. Just enjoy the moment.

 

[Digitz]

I dont think it is all in your head.

I have this same problem with my girlfriend who i am very comfortable with. We've been banging for 2 months now and im having problems getting it back up after the first time and keeping it sometimes.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

 

[Fragem]

Haha what a loser you can't get it up.

Stop smoking the drugs man.

 

[shock]

Fragem, dude shut the fvck up... it's sort of a mature issue here. Otherwise I wouldn't post here. Please take your disrespectful remarks elseware.

 

[Drifter]

I too am coping with this problem.
I dont think its physical cause I'm young, and I can get hard when I wack off... but when I'm with a girl its sometimes hard or it dies quickly.

Dont know if its all in my head (i think and hope so), or if its cause I smoke cigarettes which lower your sex drive.

I'm planning on quitting, and taking some yohimbe bark extract.

If its physical the smoking, and exercising should take care of it.
If its in my mind well I hope the Yohimbe will help me bang a chick good and get my confidence back.

To the smart ass guy who made the post, thats very immature.
I hope this problem happens to you someday so you can understand how much it hurts.

 

[Soshyopathe]

You are adolescent males. You get boners in math class, but not with women.

IT'S IN YOUR HEAD!

 

[De La Soul]

Anything Else.

 

[The Wiz]

Erection problems from a hangover?

To make a long story short, I got rather drunk at a party last night (8-10 drinks, but spaced over several hours) and hooked up with a girl at a party. By the time things started to get pretty heated between us, it was about 4AM and I was sober enough that I could have driven if I had to and been below the legal blood alcohol limit (if it were the typical .08 and not the .02 for someone underage like me). However, I was badly dehydrated from the alcohol and was already beginning to feel a hangover coming on. As things progressed, she attempted to give me a handjob, but I could not manage to get an erection. It's not a problem with how attracted to her I was or anything (in fact, I'm getting hard right now just thinking about last night), but it's pretty hard to deny that something was quite wrong at the time with my little buddy down there. I can't recall ever experiencing anything like this before. Is this simply from the drinking, or is there some other problem?

 

[bman]

is this the first time its happened? its probably from drinking. i've had the problem when i was really drunk once on the dance floor.

 

[Shiftkey]

It's from drinking.

 

[Corndowg]

I can imagine it being hard to get to that confident state of mind. Any ideas that might help me out mentally? Also, can you possibly take those yohimbe pills and still lose or not get your errection?

I had a bad first time and i'm hoping my second is how i want it to be. Luckly the girl is VERY COOL about this. I'm hopeing to pop some of those yohimbe pills. Would marijuana help you get calmer and help out? I'm not talking about being fully blown out your mind but that calm feeling like 2 hours after.

Any info appreciated.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Re: erection problems

Originally posted by shock

The thing is she did this after about 2 hours of her being on the recieving end of all the fun. I was rubbing her down, sucking on her tyts, etc.

Sucking her tits doesn't give her any pleasure. Women don't have a G-spot on their tits.

 

[The Wiz]

Thanks. I was fairly sure of this, but didn't know if it was a common occurence or not. I'll just have to explain to the girl that things will be a bit different if I'm sober the next time she puts her hands down my pants.

 

[darkhorse]

Re: Re: erection problems

Originally posted by wheelin&dealin
Sucking her tits doesn't give her any pleasure. Women don't have a G-spot on their tits.

Depends on the woman. For some women the nipples are very much an erogenous zone. In fact, some women get very erotic feelings from nursing a baby:

http://www.after-glow.com/breast.html

 

[De La Soul]

If you have an erection problem...

... post it here. This is just a trial, but we'll see how it goes.

I'm a little tired of seeing 2 or 3 erection threads every time I clean the forum up. I'll merge all the erection threads I can see into this one, and then if you have a question, you can refer to the thread before you ask.

So, let's get this thread UP .

- De La Soul

 

[De La Soul]

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[The Irish Tongue]

Any mature woman will realize, even if after having it explained, that it does happen and will happen again.

Just because you don't have a raging boner doesn't mean you can't still have fun. Try 69'ing, or having her go down on you while you're soft. I don't know about you, but I'm actually more sensitive when I'm soft(er).

Try this...

Have her go down on you. Tell her to just play with it (and the boys) if she can't do the usual bob up and down.

The ONLY thing you need to concentrate on is the sensation. Something I've noticed is, after being single for a little bit and only jerking off, I've basically desensitized myself. It takes a bit to get back into the realm of being able to enjoy the more delicate sensations of a mouth or vagina. While you're concentrating on the sensations only, that should allow your mind to not worry about being hard and I'm willing to bet it'll pop right up.

Another question I would ask is what kind of a sexual relationship do you guys have? Is it playful, or still too serious because its all pretty new? Try to learn to be light hearted, after all, sex is supposed to be FUN.

 

[Digitz]

We all experience this at sometime in our life.

I know for a fact that these contribute to erection problems:

1. Amphetamines (even prescribed ones for ADD i.e. adderall)
2. Smoking cigarrettes, pot (what really messes with you is jacking off while high)
3. Mental state
4. Alcohol (after your drunken peak has been reached)
5. Pain killers

 

[Corndowg]

That desensitizing idea is soooo true. I remember back in the day, I'd go to a concert or something and see some hot chick flash her chest to everyone and I'd get hard. Now thanks to the damn porn industry i've seen so much that I couldn't get hard my first time especially since i had a 9 out of 10 with me.

Basically what i'm wondering is....How would you re-sensitize yourself or your mind? I understand the whole idea of thinking about the sensations but that just puts the "i gotta get hard and i'm not yet, WTF is going on" idea in your head.

What i'm looking for is anything that will help.

And about jerkin off while high...If you were a daily pot smoker (it becomes a lifestyle for some people) wouldn't being high just solve your problem of getting hard? I know i'm calm and definitely in the mood more when i'm high.