So basically i am just going to school and thats pretty much it at the moment. I used to go to parties a lot but stopped doing that a while ago although thats really a gold mine and i prob will hit some people up and do that again. But yeah at the moment its just school and the mall.
Yeah you've limited yourself.
You should make a list of places you know girls are
and go to these place atleast one time a week.
Mall, Pool Hall, Arcade, Coffee Shop, Nite club (Dance Club)
Food Court, Casino, Parties, CD store ( Best Buy), Walmart
and so on.
My problem is that cold approaches are just so hard. I dont want to ramble on and on again as i have stated my troubles with it before. I try and do it but at the last moment i just get stuck and tell myself okay if you do this your gonna be embarrassed most likely. I try and just do it but it seems that a real fear still exists. I guess im allowing my ego to ruin **** for me. I am afraid of rejection and dont want to feel less of a person after i leave. I dont want to feel like im not worthy since a hot female turned me down, that type thing. Speaking of it now i know that i am worthy and that even if she turns me down it wont kill me. I dont get why i cant just do it.
I'll tell you what I told another guy on here that I learned
Start training yourself to think, understand
that your not getting rejected she just disqualifying
herself from being part of your happy world, that little bubble
of happyness and surrounds you. IF you get a not interested
responce well it not really you it's her.
You might think that's a load of BS, thats trickery
thats not true at all it rejection.
But it is true because if she knew the real you
she'd be begging for a date.
Get it?
I am trying ot learn how to not care but it is a process. It wont happen over night. I just seem to feel like any situation outside my bubble is going to hurt me if that makes sense. I can tell i am making progress but the demons are still there. Like i was saying earlier about awkwardness in school or work. I guess i just feel like it is a annoying thing to get rejected and then see them agian over and over. Honestly though Drak ool made a lot of sense and i will try and soak in the comments. Basically though JD is just approach fear i wish i wasnt so busy and had more time to focus in on this issue but then again i guess just doing it and failing is the key. I guess i have to man up soon if not tommorow in a week or month cause i want change and crave it.
Your just going to have to approach.
You need to thicking up your hide dude.
Trust me it hurts more in the long term to sit around and
watch guys getting chicks then some girls
turn down a offer to be with you.
The more you cold approach the easier it gets
and the disqualifications won't bother you.
Wake up everyday from now on and remember you rock.
Every single girls should experience you.