The problem with intelligent guys is they treat dating like operating a computer, they want the dating manual 101.
They seem to think all there problems can be solved by picking up the ‘how to programme your GF’ and life will go on.
The logic is a product of:
What do I say to this situation
How should I act in this situation
What should I have said
Did I say the right thing
e.t.c
In translation lets put this to uber geek speak for the intelligent male.
What programming do I need in this situation.
What was the correct up down left right left left down down press x twice combo I should have used for that situation.
What should I have said to my pc screen why my character died a death.
Did I make the correct action by wielding the axe of +1 magic ability?
You see what your doing, as most intelligent, guys do is think of external solutions to your problems:
What manual tip or trick can I perform to correct this programming behaviour?
Is the fundamental logic at play here.
These questions are a product of a man that ‘thinks’ too much and sadly has not grounded his reality to his sense of ‘self’ and purpose.
Most of your questions seem to be from the product of ‘how do I programme this situation’, instead what you need to be coming from is how can I programme myself!
What I am trying to say is:
You can as people state, be a typical nice guy and do nice guy things and still command respect from women.
You can be an as* and still command respect from women.
The point is both situations are usually products of guys who are confident about there abilities, hence they don’t ask for advice they give it.
The question of what I should say or how I should act is not in the vocabulary of a guy with options since to him, he is not trying to programme the computer to what he wants, he simply trades one in for a better model if it does not perform, where has the intelligent guy thinks there is a solution to the problems on page 4 paragraph 6 line 7 9 (i just need the magic programming code and all will be fine).
In all essence what I am trying to put is its all BS, when one can project there frame has been a guy who has options and knows his value and worth. Most guys don’t get to this stage since they revolve around what others want and not what ‘they want’.
The questions you should be asking are:
Not; what I should have done to please women.
But what your doing to please what you want.
Now read that last again with caution because most nice guys (chumps I call em) read that as: what I want is what she wants, which is not what YOU TRULY WANT, I am talking about being concurrent with SELF not being a supplicating door mat for someone else’s whim, or morphing your personality and self to someone else’s expectations.
Most nice guys read the thing about doing what they ‘want’ has going straight in and verbalizing some rubbish (to the women in there life) since they think they know best, in-fact all they are doing is trying to ‘manipulate’ to a programming manual designed for geeks.
When you know who you are and what you want out of life including women, you don’t have to worry about conforming to a set of book rules, you act normal to your true nature, nice guy chumps don’t act in there true nature they cater to manipulation and fear. Where a man, is not afraid to do what he thinks is right, he is ready for the consequences of his actions, either good or bad, he is ready to learn from them.
Phone calls at certain times, saying the right thing e.t.c is all manipulation tactics, where most real men imo opinion would be doing tings cos they simply want to, if others don’t like it its there problem, granted some ‘tricks’ work, but nothing works better then gaining unfounded confidence in your own abilities.
The point is, if you keep trying to gain tips from the geeks manual of dating, your going to be referring to this manual most of you life.
Instead what you should be doing is looking at the manual to be yourself<< this is dangerous ground to suggest since most guys ideas of being themselves is to suck up-to the first piece of ass that comes there way and be a door mat, this message is so hard to describe for most AFC’s since they have no self identity, they instead want to supplicate to the whim of others.
Women want to date a Man and men are not usually afraid to take action, or do things that are suitable to who they are.
You can do anything you want has long as you maintain self and ‘self respect’, never compromise either and you should be ok.
Shame most guys are in the frame of how can i please xxx to get what i want, when in reality the true status is... Hey i am going to have fun here and a great time, if things work out, great if they don’t, hell that’s cool too but I had fun on the way.
It’s ok to get tips and tricks on how to do certain things, but a man who has a very positive foundation based self appreciation and self actualization wont need any tips and tricks.
Most of the dating stuff is a placebo effect to break out of manipulating ways on how to cater to a sense of low self esteem, confident men don’t play with such games or if they do, its a product of using it to get what they want.
