I was debating, for a moment or two, whether I was a "Don Juan" or a "Pickup Artist" and I realized that that two weren't mutually exclusive.
The fact of the matter is, being a PUA is somewhat of a prerequisite to being a DJ. How can one exclude or even diminish the importance of getting girls when they are idealizing a man whos greatest legacy was that he could seduce women better than most men who have ever lived?
A PUA, simpy put, is a man who studies how to seduce girls. Whether he uses canned material or not, as long as he approaches regurlarly and studies what is effective and what isn't, then he is a pickup artist.
This doesn't mean you can't improve yourself. We all need to have things going for us in our lives, interesting hobbies, good friends, and aspirations to look forward to. All these things also make you more attractive to women too.
In fact, most people who have trouble with women cannot become a pickup artist without improving themselves first. The first thing that likely needs to improve is confidence. This requires major change. Then social skills must be improved. This is not to be taken lightly. Most good PUAs know more about socialization than somebody with a bachelor's in communications. They know how to make interesting conversation, read subtle social clues, understand the importance and meaning of body language, and know what makes a person 'cool' or 'weird' to name a few things. To take it further, men are encouraged to lead interesting lives so that they can tell interesting stories. They learn how to dress well also, making sure to look their bests to further improve their chances. To add icing to the cake, all of this uncommon understanding of women and what makes them tick make a competent PUA immune to the deceptive traps set by attention wh0res and gold diggers.
Not bad for a guy who likely started off as an anti-social nerd who couldn't get laid to save his life. If that's not self-improvement, I don't know what is.
The problem I'm having with this website right now is that it is too vague. The forums here all serve as introductions to the topics, and I've grown out of them. I can spend hours reading every post and not learn a damn thing. With the exception on the info about working out, anybody who finds any success with a particular area seems to grow out of this place and go somewhere more advanced. Since this website is, afterall, about picking up chicks, the self-improvement talk is vague and only presented as it is relevant. This is the way it should be. The problem is, however, that when it comes to talk about women people focus too much on the self-improvement. "Fix yourself, and the girls will come naturally!" Meanwhile, the advice about picking up girls here is fairly static. I rarely, if ever, see an answer to a question that makes me pause and think to myself "Hmm, I've never thought of that before". Most of the time it's more like "Yeh, I've read that 100 times... but it sounds wrong to me." By now, I can predict the answers to most questions before even opening the topic. Often I see a thread two pages long with 30 something responses where nobody has given a good answer, and I'm shocked! In a forum dedicated to the discussion of "meeting, dating, and attracting women" it's amazing what the majority of people don't know.
But, problems with the forum aside, my point is simple.
A Don Juan should also be a pickup artist. We should focus more on "meeting, dating, and attracting" girls and less on looking in the mirror every morning and telling ourselves "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and, gosh darnit, people like me"
BrotherAP
-The Don Juan Pickup Artist-
The fact of the matter is, being a PUA is somewhat of a prerequisite to being a DJ. How can one exclude or even diminish the importance of getting girls when they are idealizing a man whos greatest legacy was that he could seduce women better than most men who have ever lived?
A PUA, simpy put, is a man who studies how to seduce girls. Whether he uses canned material or not, as long as he approaches regurlarly and studies what is effective and what isn't, then he is a pickup artist.
This doesn't mean you can't improve yourself. We all need to have things going for us in our lives, interesting hobbies, good friends, and aspirations to look forward to. All these things also make you more attractive to women too.
In fact, most people who have trouble with women cannot become a pickup artist without improving themselves first. The first thing that likely needs to improve is confidence. This requires major change. Then social skills must be improved. This is not to be taken lightly. Most good PUAs know more about socialization than somebody with a bachelor's in communications. They know how to make interesting conversation, read subtle social clues, understand the importance and meaning of body language, and know what makes a person 'cool' or 'weird' to name a few things. To take it further, men are encouraged to lead interesting lives so that they can tell interesting stories. They learn how to dress well also, making sure to look their bests to further improve their chances. To add icing to the cake, all of this uncommon understanding of women and what makes them tick make a competent PUA immune to the deceptive traps set by attention wh0res and gold diggers.
Not bad for a guy who likely started off as an anti-social nerd who couldn't get laid to save his life. If that's not self-improvement, I don't know what is.
The problem I'm having with this website right now is that it is too vague. The forums here all serve as introductions to the topics, and I've grown out of them. I can spend hours reading every post and not learn a damn thing. With the exception on the info about working out, anybody who finds any success with a particular area seems to grow out of this place and go somewhere more advanced. Since this website is, afterall, about picking up chicks, the self-improvement talk is vague and only presented as it is relevant. This is the way it should be. The problem is, however, that when it comes to talk about women people focus too much on the self-improvement. "Fix yourself, and the girls will come naturally!" Meanwhile, the advice about picking up girls here is fairly static. I rarely, if ever, see an answer to a question that makes me pause and think to myself "Hmm, I've never thought of that before". Most of the time it's more like "Yeh, I've read that 100 times... but it sounds wrong to me." By now, I can predict the answers to most questions before even opening the topic. Often I see a thread two pages long with 30 something responses where nobody has given a good answer, and I'm shocked! In a forum dedicated to the discussion of "meeting, dating, and attracting women" it's amazing what the majority of people don't know.
But, problems with the forum aside, my point is simple.
A Don Juan should also be a pickup artist. We should focus more on "meeting, dating, and attracting" girls and less on looking in the mirror every morning and telling ourselves "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and, gosh darnit, people like me"
BrotherAP
-The Don Juan Pickup Artist-
