Not sure how to answer this topic, but this is something I've been struggling with-the difficulty of breaking up or ghosting someone after they've invested so much effort and emotion into the relationship. I feel a strong sense of empathy and even sympathy for them, knowing how much they've put in. It feels similar to giving money to the less fortunate or turning away a stray animal that's desperate for care, where the imbalance of power makes it unsettling. There's something almost inhumane about watching someone beg for a relationship and go out of their way to do things for you.
I get the point you're making about misleading women and the long-term effects of that. But I think the real issue isn't just deception - it's the emotional dependency that some people develop. When someone invests in you thinking there's a future, it's not just about purity or being "used"—it's about how rejection can break them in a way that makes them more vulnerable to unhealthy relationships later on. That's why honesty is important, not just for their sake but for your own integrity.
Mind you, I have managed expectations by clearly stating that I don't want anything complicated or with strings attached, and yet they still become emotionally codependent somehow. It's like even when you lay everything out, some people convince themselves there's more to it, and that's when things get messy.
