The Brush Off...

Demodulate

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Had plans with the girl today.. she called yesterday to confirm.. now shes MIA..

called once left a message..

called the back up... unavailable..

The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry

sux's... I liked this girl..
 

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It's daylight savings time today...she might not have set her clocks ahead. It's possible she was either in the shower or on her way when you called her.
 

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Wyldfire for once I disagree with you....

The silly chic confirmed the date and then flakes........I hate that!:box:

Well at least you can always trust yourself :D

Actions always speak louder than words......
 

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El MonoLoco said:
Wyldfire for once I disagree with you....

The silly chic confirmed the date and then flakes........I hate that!:box:

Well at least you can always trust yourself :D

Actions always speak louder than words......
A couple of years ago I worked at a busy restaurant on the spring daylight savings time day after (the same day today is). We opened at 11am and there were always a lot of people who showed up before the door was open or within 15 minutes of opening. I'm talking at least 50 people having lunch by 11:15. We had all of 4 people in the restaurant until an hour later.

It's a Sunday and it's not at all uncommon for people to not realize it's daylight savings time until they have to be somewhere and show up late. If it weren't daylight savings I'd probably tell him to give her 24 hours in case her car broke down on her way or something and she was stuck in the middle of nowhere and couldn't call (I've had that happen to me more times than I can count...women aren't particularly good with cars and it happens to us a lot). However, due to this day being notoriously associated with people showing up late...I don't think he should automatically assume she just didn't show up.
 

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as much as I would like to think something happend...

she blew me off.. she has a cell phone, she knew about daylight savings, cause we talked about it the day before.

time to move on...


actions do speak louder then words...
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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Demodulate said:
as much as I would like to think something happend...

she blew me off.. she has a cell phone, she knew about daylight savings, cause we talked about it the day before.

time to move on...


actions do speak louder then words...
Okay...if she knew about daylight savings time and has a cell phone then the only excuse she would have is an accident that left her unconscious and then in surgery or if she was kidnapped or killed.

I only presented the possibility that I did because a lot of people do show up an hour late or early on daylight savings time changes all the time.

If she doesn't have a damn good reason (and she has to contact you at this point) then next.
 

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Wyldfire, do you really believe some of the junk you type? You're OK, but sometimes I think you argue just to be arguing, not trying to help.
 

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speedo_meme said:
Wyldfire, do you really believe some of the junk you type? You're OK, but sometimes I think you argue just to be arguing, not trying to help.
Someone on here needs to point out the possibility that whatever woman is being discussed might not be evil and that, no matter how unlikely, there is always a little room for giving the benefit of the doubt IF the situation warrants it. If I weren't doing that you'd all hear the same old same old all the time rather than being given a reason to slow down for a second and consider those other possibilities. I do it in the name of fairness. In his initial post, Demodulate said she seemed like a decent girl and he liked her. Since the clocks were supposed to go ahead an hour the night before his scheduled meeting and he made no initial mention of either of them being aware of that fact...and how frequently people (myself included) do forget about that time change...I knew it was possible that one of them showed up at the wrong time because of daylight savings. He said they both knew about the time change and she has a cell phone. So...I agree that it's most likely that she did give him the brush off...unless she got into a bad car accident, died, got kidnapped or the like. All highly unlikely...but not impossible.
 

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Wyldfire said:
Someone on here needs to point out the possibility that whatever woman is being discussed might not be evil and that, no matter how unlikely, there is always a little room for giving the benefit of the doubt IF the situation warrants it. If I weren't doing that you'd all hear the same old same old all the time rather than being given a reason to slow down for a second and consider those other possibilities. I do it in the name of fairness. In his initial post, Demodulate said she seemed like a decent girl and he liked her. Since the clocks were supposed to go ahead an hour the night before his scheduled meeting and he made no initial mention of either of them being aware of that fact...and how frequently people (myself included) do forget about that time change...I knew it was possible that one of them showed up at the wrong time because of daylight savings. He said they both knew about the time change and she has a cell phone. So...I agree that it's most likely that she did give him the brush off...unless she got into a bad car accident, died, got kidnapped or the like. All highly unlikely...but not impossible.
I think we are missing the main point here which is , she's a biatch and you should never talk to her again cause I know she'll call you in a couple days with some lame excuse. Don't listen to her, and move on.
 

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Demodulate said:
as much as I would like to think something happend...

she blew me off.. she has a cell phone, she knew about daylight savings, cause we talked about it the day before.

time to move on...


actions do speak louder then words...
True.

But for the helll of it, I would call her back and apologize. Apologize and tell her this. I am soo sorry I missed our date. You won't believe what happened to me....(tell a funny story).

You know she missed the date. She doesn't know you did too. As far as she knows, she blew you off. But telling her that you blew her off puts you back at parity. You can start from scratch all over again and try again. If she doesn't answer your call, leave this message: "Hey (name), this is Demodulate. I am sorry I missed our date last night, but you won't believe what happend to me yesterday, I was...(click)..." Hang Up!

When she calls you back, she will ask you what happened. Then tell a funny story. If you don't have one, make one up.

If she doesn't respond to your call or your message, move on. Don't be bitter about it. I know it's easier said then done. But have fun with it. If nothing else, you can entertain yourself over it with friends.

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Demodulate said:
Had plans with the girl today.. she called yesterday to confirm.. now shes MIA..

called once left a message..

called the back up... unavailable..

The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry

sux's... I liked this girl..
That does suck, and it clearly shows what she thinks of you - i.e. that you're not even worth calling to explain what happened.

In other words, she treated you like she would treat a sack of garbage.

Understand this. Get it through your head. Destroy all p*ssy thoughts of "well maybe this or that happened". No. She doesn't give 2 sh*ts about you. If she did, she would at least call and say "I'm sorry but I'm not coming because..." Get it?

NEVER speak to this selfish, disrespectful b*tch again. Period.
 

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Too many replies here with too much talk going on when this is such a simple thing. The girl has LOW INTEREST.... MOVE ON... a girl with high interest wouldn't have missed the date if her life depended on it...
 

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Strange she called to confirm and then didn't show up. Oh well, at least you know her interest level.
 

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NEXT.

BTW, my default isn't to think women are evil - my default is to consider them indifferent until they prove otherwise.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
NEXT.

BTW, my default isn't to think women are evil - my default is to consider them indifferent until they prove otherwise.
Well...everyone is indifferent towards most people...regardless of their gender. My first thought honestly was that daylight savings caused a time mix up on one of their parts. My own sister would have missed most of my daughter's birthday party had I not called her to make sure she knew about the time change. Good thing I called her early, too because my older daughter lost hold of the birthday cake just as we were going out the door and it flew out of the container and landed on the floor upside down. My sister was fortunately right by the bakery and grabbed a new cake to bring to the party. Nothing sucks worse than two crying hysterical daughters...one little who is devastated because her Sponge Bob birthday cake is lying at her feet, frosting side down, mashed into the entryway carpet and a young adult one devastated at the thought of ruining her little sister's birthday party by dropping the cake. :whistle:
 

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Demodulate said:
You know what is funny. Everyone here on this website has the same answers. There are never opinions that go against the grain to try to recitfy situations and see if it works.

She looked at me wrong.....(Next!)
She was talking to another guy....(Next)
She didn't call me back....(Next)
She didn't show up.....(Next)

Every answer here is next. Why even ask a question? You know what the teed up response is. Everyone here seems so over protected that they won't take chances and see what would come out of it. I would have fun with this situation and use the advice I put up. People take things way too seriously in life that you forgot that this is supposed to be fun.

The only time you need to next, is when she cheats on you.

I am sure someone will respond to my post with next, so I will pre-empt you!

NEXT!
 

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thissucks003 said:
You know what is funny. Everyone here on this website has the same answers. There are never opinions that go against the grain to try to recitfy situations and see if it works.

She looked at me wrong.....(Next!)
She was talking to another guy....(Next)
She didn't call me back....(Next)
She didn't show up.....(Next)

Every answer here is next. Why even ask a question? You know what the teed up response is. Everyone here seems so over protected that they won't take chances and see what would come out of it. I would have fun with this situation and use the advice I put up. People take things way too seriously in life that you forgot that this is supposed to be fun.
I disagree, I've seen mostly good advice on this board, and there are often dissenting opinions.

But in this specific case we're dealing with here (in this thread) I'm not sure what else a self-respecting man (or woman) could do.

Do you have different advice for the original poster? We'd like to hear it.

The only time you need to next, is when she cheats on you.
Are you serious? How much experience have you had with women? Man, some of them will treat you like a f*cking doormat but not cheat on you. I suppose you think it's cool to stay in a relationship like that?
 

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SoCalMike said:
I disagree, I've seen mostly good advice on this board, and there are often dissenting opinions.

But in this specific case we're dealing with here (in this thread) I'm not sure what else a self-respecting man (or woman) could do.

Do you have different advice for the original poster? We'd like to hear it.



Are you serious? How much experience have you had with women? Man, some of them will treat you like a f*cking doormat but not cheat on you. I suppose you think it's cool to stay in a relationship like that?
I had a long answer but when I hit reply, it made me log in again and erased my reply. Moderators, you may want to fix the amount of time to reply so we don't lose our responses. I will retype it in word and then copy and paste.

TS
 

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thissucks003 said:
She looked at me wrong.....(Next!)
She was talking to another guy....(Next)
She didn't call me back....(Next)
She didn't show up.....(Next)

Every answer here is next. Why even ask a question?
EXACTLY! Why even ask the question? The reason the NEXT should be a default response is because this board is innundated with posts from guys wasting their time, effort an d money on situations that have NEVER and will NEVER bear fruit. Half the reason men seek out this forum is because they've frustrated themselves for far too long waiting around for a girl to respond to them when their energies would be far better directed toward fresh opportunities and better prospective women. THAT is why the NEXT is the default.

A woman starts yapping on her cell phone while you're on a date at the restaurant table? NEXT!
A woman makes a date and then flakes even after confirming it? NEXT!

A woman doesn't return a phone call? NEXT!

All of these situations and many more like them should absolutely be considered NEXT situations, because this is the default response of a man with options. Think of how many times men put up with a woman's behavior that they'd get into a fist fight with their best friend over for disrespecting him in that way? And the only reason guys will continue to tolerate it is because they consciously limit themselves to as few options as they've allowed to be conditioned into themselves over the course of their lives. Furthermore, as if this weren't enough, you reinforce this behavior and disrespect in women everytime you allow them to get away with it. If men were more apt to NEXT a woman for behaviors she thinks she's entitled to employ they just might become a bit more forthright in their actions or at the very least, think twice about them before falling back on their "feminine perogative" to change their minds.

Stop excusing this! How many guys would expect a woman to give him another chance were he to confirm a date and then her blow off? What guy wouldn't expect to be NEXT'd if he didn't return a phone call for a week or more?
 

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