The Brush Off...

[thissucks003]

I disagree, I've seen mostly good advice on this board, and there are often dissenting opinions.

But in this specific case we're dealing with here (in this thread) I'm not sure what else a self-respecting man (or woman) could do.

Do you have different advice for the original poster? We'd like to hear it.



Are you serious? How much experience have you had with women? Man, some of them will treat you like a f*cking doormat but not cheat on you. I suppose you think it's cool to stay in a relationship like that?

Wow! You have been here since Aug 2005! That’s a long time.

Give it some time. You will start to notice that you will see the same answers over and over from the same questions over and over. And you will then wonder why it is that you never see anything new on this board? Everyone thinks the same Anti-Dump/Doc Love responses. I know, because I was one of them. Yes it gives you a false sense of backbone for short-time. But it doesn’t improve you or your skills. You keep thinking inside the box that you miss a golden opportunity to turn this around. It’s not about accepting bad behavior, it about how do you respond to that behavior. Are you going to respond positively or negatively? Are you going to give up when you face adversity or step up to the challenge to better yourself? See the link below for his situation as an example.

What would a self-respecting man do in this situation? Would he run with a bruised ego and not turn a situation around to challenge himself to get better? Or would face the situation like a man and try to turn the tables? I think Demodulate still has a chance to better himself and face the challenge. You are going to face a lot of adversity in your life. I would rather start facing it now then walking away by nexting this girl because you are starting to create a bad habit of giving up. It’s too hard! She has bad behaviors. Well you might as well face it now. All women have some bad behaviors and you are only fooling yourself to think that your little angel is perfect. Well she is not!

My advice was posted above the previous post here:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=895018&postcount=10

I did not answer every situation for nexting. I never said to stay in a bad situation or relationship. His situation wasn’t that scenario. It was a first date. I have experience with women. I am not the best but at the same time I am not the worst. I am working on it as we speak. I just hate to see Demodulate lose an opportunity to turn a situation around.

When don’t know the whole situation. Maybe she had an emergency and didn’t have time to call and is now embarrassed that this much time has slipped to call back. Maybe Demodulate didn’t create enough interest for her to want to go out with him. Right now, Demodulate has nothing.

Keep thinking inside the box

NEXT!

TS

 

[thissucks003]

EXACTLY! Why even ask the question? The reason the NEXT should be a default response is because this board is innundated with posts from guys wasting their time, effort an d money on situations that have NEVER and will NEVER bear fruit. Half the reason men seek out this forum is because they've frustrated themselves for far too long waiting around for a girl to respond to them when their energies would be far better directed toward fresh opportunities and better prospective women. THAT is why the NEXT is the default.

A woman starts yapping on her cell phone while you're on a date at the restaurant table? NEXT!
A woman makes a date and then flakes even after confirming it? NEXT!

A woman doesn't return a phone call? NEXT!

All of these situations and many more like them should absolutely be considered NEXT situations, because this is the default response of a man with options. Think of how many times men put up with a woman's behavior that they'd get into a fist fight with their best friend over for disrespecting him in that way? And the only reason guys will continue to tolerate it is because they consciously limit themselves to as few options as they've allowed to be conditioned into themselves over the course of their lives. Furthermore, as if this weren't enough, you reinforce this behavior and disrespect in women everytime you allow them to get away with it. If men were more apt to NEXT a woman for behaviors she thinks she's entitled to employ they just might become a bit more forthright in their actions or at the very least, think twice about them before falling back on their "feminine perogative" to change their minds.

Stop excusing this! How many guys would expect a woman to give him another chance were he to confirm a date and then her blow off? What guy wouldn't expect to be NEXT'd if he didn't return a phone call for a week or more?

And why you see the guys make the same mistakes over and over becuase they never reached the skill of being able to turn a situation around.

 

[Demodulate]

Honestly, as much as I would want to think I have a shot.. she hasnt called or anything.. her interest went really low for some reason.. so I am just going to move on...

what would you have me do? call her? and if she doesnt answer leave some BS message..

rather not..

Im pissed about it, but whatever.. I have got better things to do then wait for someone to call me on their terms.. she didnt even have the decency to call me and tell me she couldnt make it. this isnt the highschool forum here.. we are adults.

your scheme may work for you, but I just dont have the time for games.