Text Messaging DOESN'T Kill Relationships...Guys Do
Harry Wilmington said:
Ah yes, another GREAT example of how texting KILLS relationships!
In this case, we have the common issue of "text miscommunication." He sends her a text as a joke, and she, perhaps not yet knowing his sense of humor, assumes he's serious and trying to tell her what to do. Now, we here know he's joking because he said "I responded jokefully..." However, I'm pretty sure his text to her didn't start with the words "I'm jokefully saying the next sentence I send you." Meaning, he's making the assumption that what he's texting her is so absurd-sounding that she'll have no choice to take it as a joke. And she didn't.
This is why I keep telling you guys, texting KILLS relationships. It is a form of communication that has the least amount of sensors attached to it, meaning you can't use your eyes to see a person's facial expressions when they're saying something, nor can you HEAR the way they're saying it to gauge that their joking. All you can do is read some random lines of text and make an assumption of what the other person means, and when you're first starting out with a girl it's very easy for her to assume NEGATIVE meanings from your text.
Once you set the date, you should've gone ghost. And when she text you "Hey, I'll see you at 8," if you DID decide to go the text route, a simple "ok" would have been better than trying to come up with something witty that could be taken out of context. Jokes over text messages rarely go well, maaaaan!
Well, here's another long winded anti text rant from Harry Wilmington. I think Harry should disable his text messaging feature on his cell phone because he feels that it is not of any use. Text messaging is a powerful tool, if you use it correctly, it will work to your advantage everytime. These guys like to go on and on about how bad texting is, probably because it never worked out for them, and then they try to give their "spin" on it to the rest of us. But for the guys who use it to their advantage, and know how well it works for them, laugh at how totally wrong and how "green" these guys really are with women.
Victory Unlimited and Harry Wilmington are both wrong. Texting itself does not kill a relationship, it is the person that kills the relationship, pure and simple. First of all, they weren't in a relationship. If anything else, it is the text messaging that saved this guy from being with a chick that has no sense of humor and one that never had much interest in him in the first place. Otherwise, she would of wanted to chill with him regardless of what his text said. The text was her excuse not to chill with him, but she would of used another one to use anyway, so please don't blame a text for the lack of interest on her part. Why would you want to chill with a chick who has no sense of humor or one that has low IL? Anybody care to chime in on this? The text showed him what this chick was all about. She has zero sense of humor and clearly wasn't interested in this guy. Text messaging is the best way to gauge IL pure and simple.
Let's look at this another way Harry. He could of said the same thing over the phone, or even in person, and she still would of taken it the wrong way because she couldn't catch on to the sarcasm, or used it as an excuse to not hang out with the guy. If a chick is into you she doesn't take things the wrong way and still would find what he said to be funny. She certainly wouldn't of used it an a excuse not to chill with him. Chicks with low IL will use anything you say, or do, as a way not to hang out with you, regardless if it is through, text, phone, or face to face conversation. Once again, it is the guy, not the texting.
Victory Unlimited said that "Texting is a POOR excuse for an actual phone conversation with a girl." That is totally false. Chicks love to text and you should incorporate that into your game if you are smart. Chicks act more freely with text messaging. They will say things they normally wouldn't say to you face to face or by phone. They will be more sexual through text and you can get them thinking about you throughout the day. When I have a chick telling me through text that she wants to "feel my hands on her t!ts, and my tongue on her cl!t, and later my d!ck in her mouth, and then deep inside her. I would say that is a great conversation with a girl, wouldn't you? Because later on, I will be in her pvssy for most of the night. And yes, my friends, that is through text messaging, it is not a poor excuse, and it certainly didn't kill a relationship.
It is up to the guy, if he has poor game, then he will fail regardless of whatever method he uses. I wonder if Harry would blame the iPhone for a terrible conversation that a guy has with a girl. You could even blame the guy's own voice for what he says. Right? If you send long or lots of boring texts, or if you if bug a chick all day by calling her, or if you are boring on a date with her, then she will lose interest in you faster than a fly on a turd. It is the guy who fails or succeeds with women.
Don't blame communication, or great tools we have available for us to use, as a way to make excuses for a guy's lack of game or personality. Because you could blame everything under the sun. In the end it is the guy, pure and simple.
It gets to be quite nauseating seeing the same anti text garbage over and over again, mostly by the same people who always want to blame a text for a guy's failures with women.
Text messaging doesn't kill relationships, guys themselves do.
