Where do you guys hang out when you're not at work? What do you talk about? When you hang out, does she touch you? Is she like this with your other co-workers?
When I was working in customer service, there was a girl in the logistics department whom I thought was kind of cute. She was going through a tough time after her grandmother passed away, and I used that as an opportunity to open her up emotionally. I asked her out to lunch, and during the lunch, she dressed up and seemed to make an effort to show off her breasts. She also texted me at night whenever she was high. Although I knew she had a long-term boyfriend, she never mentioned him. She did say her mom had an affair at work and that’s when her parents divorced…
One day, just before I was about to go on vacation for a week, we ended up alone in the cafeteria with the lights off after everyone else had left. I had the chance to make a move, but I hesitated and didn’t kiss her. When I returned from vacation, she seemed distant. My absence appeared to have de-escalated whatever was developing between us. I tried asking her out for coffee again, but she responded in a stand-offish manner, asking “what are we going to do?”, as if she wasn’t interested. I still regret not making the most of that opportunity.
With married women or women in relationships, timing is crucial. At any moment, their partner might plan a date night, start a home renovation project, or organize a trip, which could shift their focus and overshadow your efforts. Before investing further in this relationship, ask yourself what you truly want. Are you just seeking validation without commitment? Do you want to be intimate with her? Or do you just want to maintain a friendship? As with any pursuit, there is a risk of rejection, but in this situation, any hesitation on your part could wash it all away. You have to follow through 100%, no wishy washy ****.
