Text game tips

[djthiago1]

I've been trying something different recently, texting girls on their facebook and IG that i get from their online dating profiles from apps like Tinder and Badoo, i've been having some problems though, i rarelly can get their numbers, they text and text but they always vanish as soon as i ask for the number, any tips?

 

[btownbuck2012]

I move in very fast for the kill when getting numbers off of OLD or Tinder.

Lemme give you an example:

"Me: Hi, Eren

Her: Hi!

Me: How was your day?

Her: Great! how was yours?

Me: It was good! Another day anotha dolla as they say

Her: hahaha what do you do

Me: I'm an account exec. for an events management company. hbu?

Her: Corporate HR rep for a nutrition company

Me: Uh oh, corporate HR gal
Me: Lol
Me:

Her: We get a bad rep, we're fun lol

Me: Haha yeah I'm sure...
Me: How long have you done that for?

Her: A year and a few months

Me: Nice. Well hey I'd love to get to know you a bit better. What's your number I'll call you this weekend.

Her: Sure - xxx-xxx-xxxx"

Then I'll shoot her a text, which goes as follows:

"Me: Hey Eren - Jon here from tinder. Let me know when is a good time to call this weekend. Looking forward to talking to you

Her: Hi! Afternoons are the best

Me: Sounds good have a good night"

And that's it.

To sum it up:

I always move fast getting a number. And I always prefer to CALL them. I find that I build much better rapport over a 20-30 minute get to know ya type of call then I could ever do w/ texting when first getting to meet a woman. You're problem is most likely that you are texting or messaging WAY TOO MUCH before asking for digits. You should always ask for digits very quickly, I mean literally a few back and forth sentences in. And I would highly recommend taking the "I'll call you this week/weekend" approach. Way too many guys are too puss to call and if you are comfortable and confident with yourself it's a great way to stand out to a woman who is flooded with tons of guys taking the text,message for hours,days approach.

 

[djthiago1]

I move in very fast for the kill when getting numbers off of OLD or Tinder.

Lemme give you an example:

"Me: Hi, Eren

Her: Hi!

Me: How was your day?

Her: Great! how was yours?

Me: It was good! Another day anotha dolla as they say

Her: hahaha what do you do

Me: I'm an account exec. for an events management company. hbu?

Her: Corporate HR rep for a nutrition company

Me: Uh oh, corporate HR gal
Me: Lol
Me:

Her: We get a bad rep, we're fun lol

Me: Haha yeah I'm sure...
Me: How long have you done that for?

Her: A year and a few months

Me: Nice. Well hey I'd love to get to know you a bit better. What's your number I'll call you this weekend.

Her: Sure - xxx-xxx-xxxx"

Then I'll shoot her a text, which goes as follows:

"Me: Hey Eren - Jon here from tinder. Let me know when is a good time to call this weekend. Looking forward to talking to you

Her: Hi! Afternoons are the best

Me: Sounds good have a good night"

And that's it.

To sum it up:

I always move fast getting a number. And I always prefer to CALL them. I find that I build much better rapport over a 20-30 minute get to know ya type of call then I could ever do w/ texting when first getting to meet a woman. You're problem is most likely that you are texting or messaging WAY TOO MUCH before asking for digits. You should always ask for digits very quickly, I mean literally a few back and forth sentences in. And I would highly recommend taking the "I'll call you this week/weekend" approach. Way too many guys are too puss to call and if you are comfortable and confident with yourself it's a great way to stand out to a woman who is flooded with tons of guys taking the text,message for hours,days approach.

That's the thing, i do move very fast, and that's what i thought it was the problem haha

 

[btownbuck2012]

That's the thing, i do move very fast, and that's what i thought it was the problem haha

Post a conversation, it'll help us break it down for you.

 

[djthiago1]

Post a conversation, it'll help us break it down for you.

Ok, last girl went like this:

Me: Finally found tinderella (No one uses this in Brazil so it works 9/10)

Her: Tinderella? haha that's a good one

Me: Gotta break the ice right
How was your new years ?

Her: Depressive, i got sick

Me: Wow, that's some bad luck, me and my brother got sick before christmas.

Her: Yeah, even had to go to the hospital

Me: That sucks.
You know, we should be talking about fun stuff that brings joy to our hearts.
Such as your phone number

Never heard from her again lol
I obviously try to avoid negative subjects, but i usually text them like this, keeping it short and going for the number as fast as possible.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Ok, last girl went like this:

Me: Finally found tinderella (No one uses this in Brazil so it works 9/10)

Her: Tinderella? haha that's a good one

Me: Gotta break the ice right
How was your new years ?

Her: Depressive, i got sick

Me: Wow, that's some bad luck, me and my brother got sick before christmas.

Her: Yeah, even had to go to the hospital

Me: That sucks.
You know, we should be talking about fun stuff that brings joy to our hearts.
Such as your phone number

Never heard from her again lol
I obviously try to avoid negative subjects, but i usually text them like this, keeping it short and going for the number as fast as possible.

Could be a couple things.
A. she wasn't really that interested in you. I've had that before where they just stop responding.
B. the way you phrased it was a bit too "salesy". I've had great results with the "I'd love to get to know you a bit better" line. Try that one and let me know how that works. Also tell her WHY, i.e. so that I can call you this weekend, etc.

How many of these types of conversations have you had? Do you always use the same line?

 

[Urbanyst]

There is no need for text "game" unless you like entertaining attention wh0res.

Texting is for setting up meetings unless the woman initiates flirtation.

 

[djthiago1]

Could be a couple things.
A. she wasn't really that interested in you. I've had that before where they just stop responding.
B. the way you phrased it was a bit too "salesy". I've had great results with the "I'd love to get to know you a bit better" line. Try that one and let me know how that works. Also tell her WHY, i.e. so that I can call you this weekend, etc.

How many of these types of conversations have you had? Do you always use the same line?

I'm always trying different stuff, except the tinderela part cause of it's high success rate.
I'll try your line a couple of times and see if it works out.
I've texted about 15-20 girls so far. Got about 3 numbers.

 

[marmel75]

I move in very fast for the kill when getting numbers off of OLD or Tinder.

Lemme give you an example:

"Me: Hi, Eren

Her: Hi!

Me: How was your day?

Her: Great! how was yours?

Me: It was good! Another day anotha dolla as they say

Her: hahaha what do you do

Me: I'm an account exec. for an events management company. hbu?

Her: Corporate HR rep for a nutrition company

Me: Uh oh, corporate HR gal
Me: Lol
Me:

Her: We get a bad rep, we're fun lol

Me: Haha yeah I'm sure...
Me: How long have you done that for?

Her: A year and a few months

Me: Nice. Well hey I'd love to get to know you a bit better. What's your number I'll call you this weekend.

Her: Sure - xxx-xxx-xxxx"

Then I'll shoot her a text, which goes as follows:

"Me: Hey Eren - Jon here from tinder. Let me know when is a good time to call this weekend. Looking forward to talking to you

Her: Hi! Afternoons are the best

Me: Sounds good have a good night"

And that's it.

To sum it up:

I always move fast getting a number. And I always prefer to CALL them. I find that I build much better rapport over a 20-30 minute get to know ya type of call then I could ever do w/ texting when first getting to meet a woman. You're problem is most likely that you are texting or messaging WAY TOO MUCH before asking for digits. You should always ask for digits very quickly, I mean literally a few back and forth sentences in. And I would highly recommend taking the "I'll call you this week/weekend" approach. Way too many guys are too puss to call and if you are comfortable and confident with yourself it's a great way to stand out to a woman who is flooded with tons of guys taking the text,message for hours,days approach.

Calling is unnecessary and some people domt want to be bothered with it. I tried it both ways and noticed no difference in success rate either with getting flaked on or in getting laid.

IMHO, calling is one of the biggest overhyped things on this board. It literally makes no difference. She either thinks you are good enough looking to want to meet or she doesn't.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Calling is unnecessary and some people domt want to be bothered with it. I tried it both ways and noticed no difference in success rate either with getting flaked on or in getting laid.

IMHO, calling is one of the biggest overhyped things on this board. It literally makes no difference. She either thinks you are good enough looking to want to meet or she doesn't.

Very strongly disagree with that. Although I'm in sales and talk on the phone for a living so it's something I do exceptionally well. That could contribute to my success, too.

 

[djthiago1]

There is no need for text "game" unless you like entertaining attention wh0res.

Texting is for setting up meetings unless the woman initiates flirtation.

Yeah well, i'm also against texting, but you gotta text to get the number to get the date, when you meet them online that is. There's no running away from it.

 

[marmel75]

Very strongly disagree with that. Although I'm in sales and talk on the phone for a living so it's something I do exceptionally well. That could contribute to my success, too.

I was in sales for a long time too. And in retail. Didnt make any difference to me. Although I am a great texter so perhaps that is why.

 

[Trump]

There is no need for text "game" unless you like entertaining attention wh0res.

Texting is for setting up meetings unless the woman initiates flirtation.

Agree.

Gaming on text is ridiculous. It's for setting up appoinments face to face, not professing your love in writing for all the world to see.

 

[djthiago1]

Agree.

Gaming on text is ridiculous. It's for setting up appoinments face to face, not professing your love in writing for all the world to see.

How would you get the number from someone you met online? Write them a letter? Get it now?

 

[Macaframalama]

Agree.

Gaming on text is ridiculous. It's for setting up appoinments face to face, not professing your love in writing for all the world to see.

Nah, pretty sure you and herb just suck at it. Plenty of us out here cleaning up with the PYT's via Facebook and Messenger.

 

[Macaframalama]

Ok, last girl went like this:

Me: Finally found tinderella (No one uses this in Brazil so it works 9/10)

Her: Tinderella? haha that's a good one

Me: Gotta break the ice right
How was your new years ?

Her: Depressive, i got sick

Me: Wow, that's some bad luck, me and my brother got sick before christmas.

Her: Yeah, even had to go to the hospital

Me: That sucks.
You know, we should be talking about fun stuff that brings joy to our hearts.
Such as your phone number

Never heard from her again lol
I obviously try to avoid negative subjects, but i usually text them like this, keeping it short and going for the number as fast as possible.

Man, honestly there is not much of a tactical way of approaching random like that. If you have a mutual friend, it can be an opener. Randoms know exactly what you are texting them for. I just reveal my intentions of getting to know her. FB gives recommendations of ppl you might know. Use that as an excuse to have checked her out. If you see things that interest you or have in common, for example she's a gamer or into fitness, you can comment on that and let her know your interest in getting to know each other. Easy peasy. The guys saying, blah blah blah about texting don't know their a$$ from a hole in the ground. Phones are a tool for just about anything these days. Pulling trim is no exception.

 

[DreamAgain]

Most girls don't have the attention spans to read elaborate texts, or to read more than a few sentences.

Ever notice when you try to send something more thought out, they typically only respond to the last sentence, ignoring everything else?

Calling is much better in my opinion. Can build rapport over a quick few jokes thrown in, at least you keep her attention, and saves you a lot of time from late responses that may drag on over hours.

 

[Urbanyst]

Yeah well, i'm also against texting, but you gotta text to get the number to get the date, when you meet them online that is. There's no running away from it.

The thing about online is a woman is still a total stranger.

Anything beyond complementing her looks is desperate because you don't know if you have a catfish afoot until you meet IRL.

 

[AriMamba]

Idk guys. Women I meet are from the new generation. They rather text or snap or FaceTime.

I think the people that do phone calls are in another age bracket. I’m in the 20-25 lane and I can guarantee texting doesn’t hurt my chances. Unless of course I do it too much.

If you call a girl you just met you run the chance of just getting ignored. (This is not facts)

Honestly I don’t really take tinder women or any OLD seriously. Even if they give you the number and you wait a day to respond they flake. Ehhhhh it depends lol. Cold approach at a bar is way better

 

[Urbanyst]

Idk guys. Women I meet are from the new generation. They rather text or snap or FaceTime.

I think the people that do phone calls are in another age bracket. I’m in the 20-25 lane and I can guarantee texting doesn’t hurt my chances. Unless of course I do it too much.

If you call a girl you just met you run the chance of just getting ignored. (This is not facts)

Honestly I don’t really take tinder women or any OLD seriously. Even if they give you the number and you wait a day to respond they flake. Ehhhhh it depends lol. Cold approach at a bar is way better

I never call people. Only exception is if I just arrived at a place and need to find them or if I get lost.

I hate talking on the phone in general.