gonnamakeit said:
Also curiouse. Were you getting/dating girls pre bootcamp if not it's really amazing what happened so quick and also do what you want but in my opinion don't make that girl u like to seriouse or your girlfreind cuz your makeing such good progress and a relationship right now would screw with that. I am going to do that too during the bootcamp will all get girls interested and what not but maintaing that ability to get girls easily for a couple months I think is best for all of us before we do relationships which could make us lose the opportunity to cement that progress since we would be to comfortable. (comfort vs growth)
Sorry I didn't see this or I would have included it above:
Ok first part: Dude, this is pretty scary, but no, I have had terrible luck with girls until I moved out here for the summer. The only g/f I've ever had was a 1-week thing when I was 17, and it was horrible and barely counts for anything. Basically my college is really small and full of weird girls who are essentially looking to just get married, and there are so many lame guys who get their g/f and just become really hostile to anyone else.
If I'm home from school, I pretty much just wake up, sit around on the computer all day, wishing I had a social life/friends, and go to bed depressed. My parents even make a point to tell me often that I need to get out and do things with people, but I always just get moody and continue sitting around on my butt.
Since I came out here to MI everything has been like a blur. I just told myself, "**** it, I have nothing to lose," and that's the attitude I've portrayed pretty much from day 1.
I'm seriously scared about what's going to happen in August when I have to go home for a week and then back to PA for college. Hopefully I'll be a transformed guy and can take my learnings back there, but I feel like a lot of people who know me will be like "wtf has gotten into him?" and it will be strange.
And you're right, I can't bother getting too attached to these girls, because I'm going to have to leave them all here in August when I go home. It's going to be so tough though...I seriously want to just move here. It's been so much fun. But unfortunately I have 2 more years of school, and this summer is just a fun escape from my normal routine at home, and that's about it.
But if I can take my new-found set of cojones back to wherever I eventually end up, that will be a success. I just needed a kick-in-the-pants to get going, and now I realize how easy it is to just go up to people and say something situational, and boom! You have a conversation, and possibly even a HB.
If you want a specific example, the HB8 from my am class, here's how it happened. I saw her drinking something from a coffee store, and went right up to her after class and asked her where it was, how good the coffee is, etc. Since I established myself, I kept talking to her the next 2 classes, and then yesterday we got done early and we walked around campus for a while and talked about a lot of different things. I then asked if she would like to plan to hang out with me, and she readily agreed and asked me if I had my phone, and told me her #.
It's really kind of scary how easy it is, if you just have the balls to initially approach.